Post # 1
So I keep track of how far along I am on TheBump.com – they also have a checklist (much like the wedding ones) of baby related tasks. I don’t really follow it – but it can be some good food for thought. However today I was scrolling thru it and one of the “tasks” was “Get an easy to maintain haircut?” To me this seems totally ridiculous.
I mean I GET that for a while after the baby is born I’ll be baby-focused and won’t have much time to care for myself. But I probably won’t really care how my hair looks since I won’t be heading out of the house much during that time.
Some of the best advice I’ve heard was actually DON’T change your hair once you get pregnant (if you like it) for the simple fact that everything else changes (your body, potentially your employment status, your routines) so women can feel like they’re losing a little bit of their identity, so keeping it the same can help you feel connected to who you were before you became “pregnant lady”.
Anyone agree? Disagree? Any other ridiculous advice you’ve gotten?
Post # 3
I actually agree with getting an easy to maintain haircut. Some days you’ll be lucky to get a shower! If you like it short,keep it that way, or if longer and you can throw it up into a pony to get out the door quickly that’s always good and easy too.
Post # 4
LOL Oh God the Bump sometimes gives such stupid advice. If you like your hair and it’s not too much hassle to keep up with it, you do NOT have to cut it just because you’re a mom now! Yeah, go buy some high waisted jeans and Reeboks too, maybe throw in a button up shirt from St. Johns while you’re at it! You’re a mom, you can never be attractive again!! I swear, all those websites make you sound as though you will not even be able to muster the energy to brush your hair and put on Chapstick ever again.
Post # 5
Honestly – it sounds like pretty good advice to me. New moms aren’t going to have time to spend blow drying, straightening, curling, prepping, etc their hair every day. And honestly – there will be way more important things in your life than having an awesome looking hairstyle.
Just because it is “easy to maintain” doesn’t mean that you can’t look put together, young and attractive. And it doesn’t mean that your hair has to be short.
Post # 6
I read that one and laughed. Since my hair is fine, flat, and hates me; I figure it’s always easy to maintain because I don’t even need to brush it. Anyway, it seems so stupid. Plus, I really like the advice you got about not changing so the mom retains some of herself.
Post # 7
Keep what makes you feel good! It’s okay to spend some time alone, having your hair re-colored, getting your nails done, or a pedi.. or even just having some alone time to get ready and curl or straighten your hair during the day. Especially if it makes you feel beautiful.
I think throwing all of yourself into your child is never a good thing. You need to maintain some of who you are as an individual, and be ready to give up some things that used to be important, the same way you do in a marriage.
Post # 8
Yeah, I’ve heard of that suggestion before and I always wondering about that. I think my good friend cut her hair short. I have long hair and I am ultra low maintenance. I throw my hair in a pony tail anyway. Yeah, I know that if I cut my hair short, I would HATE it. I cut my hair short back in middle school and hated it. Never again. I think you should do whatever you think is comfortable. If you have hair that is always frizzy or curly or hair that you can’t just get out of the shower and let dry on it’s own, I might consider ways to make it less maintenance.
Post # 9
I guess it probably depends.
I am a wash and go kind of person, but I definitely know women who didn’t adjust their elaborate pre-baby hairstyle expectations and lived to regret it.
Post # 10
You still have time to do your hair, if you want! Your baby will sleep a lot, and doing your hair could make you feel pretty and good about yourself, especially if you have baby blues or aren’t feeling great about yourself since your body is still so different.
Post # 11
@camrie: You bring up some good points. I definitely would still want to feel like myself (in that way, by keeping my hair long like I have always had it)- but BOY is it a lot of work. It takes a long time to condition the stuff- but I also see what you are saying about not going out that much anyway. Hm.
Post # 12
I think maybe that’s aimed at people who have hair/styles that require a lot of time and maintenance. Like Rosie Girl said, at the newborn stage it made me feel pretty and more like myself to take a little time every morning to do my hair. However, now that our daughter’s in day care full time, and both of us are scrambling every morning to get ourselves and the baby ready in time to leave the house, I am definitely considering a more low maintenance hair cut (and mine only takes about 20 minutes to do anyway, lol!).
Post # 13
I would never cut my hair short just because i had a baby. It’s long and girly and i love it. It’s just as easy to maintain as short hair. When i’m lazy i just throw it back in a ponytail.
Post # 14
Actually for me when I get pregnant I def plan to chop my hair back to a bob. Right now I’m letting it grow long again because I figure when I am pregnant and have a child it’ll be a while before I’ll want it long again.
But then that’s just me. I hate doing my hair and 9 out of 10 days let it dries naturally so that it’s a frizzy mess. I might put makeup on once every 6 months. So I’m not really much of a “beauty regimine” person so for me it just makes sense to cut it short. It’ll annoy me otherwise!
Post # 15
I’m not riding the baby train, but I still have a comment!
I have long, layered hair. If I don’t have time to fix it… I don’t. It’s pretty simple.
Post # 16
This suggestion is based on the assumption that you are the type of person that must style her hair every day, or have a haircut that requires that. Sure, I *can* fix my hair, but it’s long enough to go in a bun – and that’s what I do with it 9 days out of 10. I’m sure when I’m pregnant/have a baby, it will just be 10 out of 10 🙂