- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
I’m not trying to have a pity party here, so if it sounds that way, please forgive me. I found the love of my life and getting married to him and living our life together is by far the most important thing. The details don’t bother me so much, it’s just hard to decide!
We are both 38, I’m in school and graduate in May. We are anticipating moving out of our area for my job when I’m done with school – likely to another state. So we wanted to get married at end of May/beginning of June before we have to move and I accept the position.
We don’t have too many friends or too much money to spend on a wedding, and we are fine with that. We are both homebodies, not really social, and our best friends are each other.
We live in the midwest, he grew up on the East Coast where his family is. His parents generously offered to have a reception for us and his family out there after we get married (that they would pay for) (maybe 50 people in all). My family is here, but it’s just a few people.
If we get married here, we’d probably have maybe a dozen people, and his parents would fly out for the wedding. We don’t have a ton of money (and I know you can have weddings for cheap) but I just cant imagine having his parents fly out here and spending a thousand dollars on a wedding for a dozen people! Not when we have kids are going to be in the middle of moving etc.
So we thought about having the wedding out there, and offering to help out with the cost. The thought of planning a wedding someplace I’ve never been is a little daunting, and we don’t want it to seem like we are asking them to pay for everything. We just want something simple and special to us.
If we’re being honest, we dont have enough money for a honeymoon or probably a photographer even. If we did it here, it would likely be in a park with just a cake/dessert reception. He says his parents would be happy to fly out and we shouldn’t worry about their expenses.
So should we do something small here then a small reception there? Just get married out there and not worry about doing something here? I have 3 kids and I’m not working when I’m in school so money is very tight!