Post # 1
My Fiance and I are mid 30’s and it seems like ever since Fi and I got engaged, exes are coming out of the woodwork.
Fi has had more than one ex call to find out if it is true that he is settling down. The best one was yesterday when an ex asked what she did wrong that I did right. Seems the ex wanted to know what she could have done to keep him and if there was any chance at all still left for her. I mean, puleeze girl…back off! The mother of his pre-teen son has all of a sudden decided that she wants to try to be a family? Huh? You didnt figure this out anytime over the last decade, but you think that NOW is a good time to be a family?
My ex whom I was with for just over 2 years, only kept mentioning the future but had no concrete plans. Although this was not the issue when I broke up with him, I do find it funny that he is now ready to commit- What? Why couldnt you commit to marriage anytime over the 2 years we were together? But now that I am engaged, you are ready? Ha ha
In talking to my mom and older heads, it seems that this is common as persons around you realize that you are going to be off the market and any hope they had of reconciliation is going down the drain. As such, it is that last ditch “IF” moment.
Can any bees relate to what I am going through? Has an ex come of the woodwork and is begging to be “sprayed”?
Post # 3
the guy i dated in high school for 2 years. he couldn’t believe i was engaged and even called to ask if it was true. it was pretty funny
Post # 4
Am actually experiencing this now. While we aren’t engaged yet, his exes are writing cutesy things on a public FB profile and bugging him left and right. Um, sweetie, you treated him like dirt while you were together but now that he’s serious with someone, suddenly, he’s a teddy bear?
Had my first love tell me straight up that he wants to try again…now that we’re adults. He thinks we’re soulmates. Um…what?!
Post # 5
Hahaha same thing happened to me. We haven’t talked in 3 years and NOW you want to know what happened between us? Sweetie, move on. I obviously did!
Post # 6
My one ex wouldn’t leave me alone for years and the other only contacted me when my Fiance and I split for a moment.
Told both not to contact me anymore.
I think people do this to see if someone still has feelings for them. It’s to boost their egos. It’s annoying. I mean.. how can someone just move on and like someone else better, right?! *Note sarcasm*
Wish the past would stay in the past…
Post # 7
My FI’s ex started hounding his friends when she found out he and I were dating, wanting to know who I was and anything she could find out about me. Then she started calling him up every 5-10 days to tell him she “had found some of his stuff” at her house. It bugged the crap outta me, so finally after about the 3rd or 4th call he said, “I don’t need anything that you might find. I’ve probably already replaced whatever it might be, so just donate it to charity!” Then her daughter (that my Fiance helped raise for a few years) started messaging him on FB, which really didn’t bother me that much, after all, he was a father figure to her for some time and if wouldn’t even bother me if she wanted to see him or have him come to her school events etc from time to time, BUT a couple months ago, the ex pulled my Fiance off to the side at work (they work at the same place) and told him that she or her daughter wouldn’t be bothering him anymore and that she sincerely hopes that he is happy with me. What a heifer! Of course he’s happy with me! If he wasn’t we wouldn’t be getting married and he would probably be with her crazy butt!
Post # 8
@goldie.girl: lol…seeing a former partner move on with his life seems to shock the crap out of some women. It is as if they expected the partner to sit and WAIT for them to get happy first. It is clear your Fiance made the right choice by being with you…simply crazy how some women get clingy to a man who is no longer in their lives.
Sometimes, I honestly think that some of these women do not really want to get back into the relationship but as FutureMrsDrPeter noted, some women have to feed their egos that it is possible to snap their fingers and the guys will leave the current girlfriend and come back to them. Methinks somebody has been watching too much TV..lol
Post # 9
I’m not engaged but when I met my current boyfriend, I knew there was something different about him.
Two months into our relationship I got an 8 page long letter from my ex-boyfriend professing his still-strong love for me. We were together for 5 years but broken up (and friendly) for the past 4!! Of all the opportune times that I was single when you could have brought this up, you choose now? Not that I would have had him one way or the other – good guy, but not right for me.
Post # 10
I’m not engaged but when I met my current boyfriend I had a feeling there was something special about him.
Two months into our relationship was when my ex-boyfriend of 5 years sends me an 8 page letter professing his still-strong love for me. We’d been broken up for four years at that point, during which we had been friendly and I had had periods of being both coupled up and single. Could you not have approached this when I was single? I wouldn’t have had him one way or the other, but it would have been nice to not have to explain this to BF!
Post # 11
My ex fiancée not only contacted me when I got engaged but tried to plan a vacation with me, so we could re-kindle the flame. Apparently, men love a challenge. I had to tell him that I am not interested in him romantically and he told me that I broke his heart. We were not together for the last 10 years, how did I break your heart?! Men!
Post # 12
Bahaha. Yes. This has happened to me more than once. I won’t get into the creepy details, but I just had to say the title of this thread is freaking hilarious! haha
Post # 13
yeah, i had two exes trying to “win me back” and few male friends who suddenly decided they had feelings for me after seeing i’m in a happy relationship. and my SO’s ex emailed him stupid things like “oh look, it’s snowing…” during the first year, not sure if it was trying to get back together, but she’s dumb. lol.
what’s wrong with these people? no idea.