Get the ring together or be a total surprise?

posted 4 years ago in Rings
  • poll:
    Surprise me! he picks! : (27 votes)
    14 %
    We both pick! it will be on my finger after all! : (78 votes)
    40 %
    go all out and spend the money. I deserve it! : (13 votes)
    7 %
    get what he can afford! we can up grade later! : (39 votes)
    20 %
    Why would I spend a lot on his ring? not as important. : (8 votes)
    4 %
    spend as much on him. : (12 votes)
    6 %
    surprise him with an affordable ring I know he will love. : (18 votes)
    9 %
    GET TATTOO INSTEAD!!! : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    87 posts
    Worker bee

    Surprise… getting engaged should be fun and he should choose the rign for you 🙂

    Post # 4
    3403 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @inukoro1177:  You should make the poll so that we can choose multiple options & not just one.

    Post # 5
    1896 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @inukoro1177:  I gave my FI  several options in different price ranges (from $2200 to $200) and let him pick what he thought was best.  He ended up picking the one I most loved that was about $600.  It was great way to ensure that he got to surpirse me, still stay within his budget, and I got one I really wanted.

    PS – I can’t claim to be the creator of this idea, I’ve had several friends who have done this and it’s worked out well.

    Post # 6
    4499 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I wanted him to surprise me. He knows my taste very well so I wasn’t worried. There are certain things I’m really traditional about and this was one of them.

    In regard to cost I wanted him to be reasonable. I wouldn’t consider myself to be cheap, but I’m particular about what I spend money on and I just don’t need a huge, lavish piece of jewelry. I’d rather go on a trip, put that money into our house, etc.

    Post # 7
    907 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    FI surprised me with a stand-in ring and we went to choose my real engagement ring together. He didn’t want to spend that much money on something I wear daily without my input. And thankfully he did! The ring I told him I wanted was underwhelming when I finally tried it on. We found the perfect ring together. 

    Post # 8
    1336 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @inukoro1177:  I always thought I wanted it to be a complete surprise, from the ring to the proposal. Then, one day, he unexpectedly got down on one knee, with a box in hand, without me having any clue of any of it….and I am THRILLED it ended up being a complete surprise.


    The moment was surreal, and with so few surprises in life, incredibly special 🙂


    i LOVE the ring, it’s perfect. I think no matter what he gave me, I would feel the same, bc he did it. He took initiative, saved for it, etc. He spent an amount he was absolutely comfortable with, bc he knew I would kill him if he broke the bank.




    Post # 10
    12262 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I wanted my ring to be a surprise!

    Post # 11
    955 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    We went looking together one time but he wanted to be the one to pick it out, so ultimately, I was surprised.

    I wanted him to get me a less expensive ring than he did – he spent way more than I felt comfortable.  He definitely did not go in debt for it though – he said he had this money put aside for my ring.

    I am thrilled with what he got me! Laughing

    Post # 15
    3463 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    @renwoman:  ohh very pretty!!! what type of stone is that? 🙂

    Post # 16
    2672 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

    @inukoro1177:  We chose my ring together. He’s making the payments so I won’t know when he’s done paying/when it will happen/how it iwll happen, etc. But I do know what the ring is going to look like, and I want it that way. It’s going to be on my hand forever, and I’m fairly picky about these things, so it was just the smart choice. 

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