Post # 1
Long story short, I fell in love with this dress that happened to be “designed” after Maggie Sottero’s Shania (so they claim, I’m not certain if it was the exact dress or not… if interested read more here: Scam Dress). However, my FI saw the dress when he went with me to dispute the charges. The lady literally brought my dress out and showed it to him.
I really didn’t want FI to see the dress, but I am in love with it. I really am. I was informed that this dress would be discontinued at the end of this month, so I really wanted to see if I could find it anywhere to try on and perhaps buy a sample gown or something. I called a few bridal shops (most of them are 2-3 hours away) and most of these places did not carry Shania. Well, I found one shop that said they didn’t carry Shania, but that one of their brides had purchased her, had begun alterations, and then got dress regret and purchased a 2nd gown. They still had Shania there and the girl was looking to sale her dress. She originally paid $1200 and $200 towards alterations, and was asking $900 for the dress. So I’ll be going tomorrow to try the dress on (they have permission to allow me to try it on). PLUS I am a size 2 and this dress is a size 4, but since they were taking it in, they figure the dress would fit me a little better than a 4 would. ALSO this girl was tall, and I’m short, so it’s not like the hem would be too short (I’ll still have to pay for alterations to fit my body).
However, I really had wanted to get a new dress all together since FI saw the dress, but this seems almost unrealistically coincidental. I’m seriously thinking I might just buy the dress tomorrow. There would be NO rush on the order, PLUS I would save on a basically BRAND NEW dress. And since it is being discontinued in 6 days, I think I might regret passing this up… so ladies… what should I do? Get the same dress or try and find a new one that FI hasn’t seen? I mean… the dress will look different on me, right? I just want FI to be surprised on our wedding day.
Here’s the dress:
Post # 3
I voted stay with the same dress. 4-5 months from now, I’m sure his memory won’t remember every detail and when he sees YOU in it it’ll be a completely different experience for him!
Post # 4
If you really really love it, buy it! You could also tell your FI that you bought a different dress and then surprise him on the wedding day with the dress he already saw. Did he actually see it on you or just on the hanger? It will always look different on…
Post # 5
@Cote1590: I’m hoping that’s the case!
@esi142: He just saw it on the hanger, so you can’t really tell exactly what it looks like. I like the idea of saying I got a differrent dress!
Post # 6
Just get the dress its fate, he is a guy he will not remember its the same dress espeically since he didn’t see it on you.
Post # 7
Don’t even stress it cause he’s so not going to remember.
Post # 8
@Thorns-n-Roses: It sounds like you really love this dress, and you’ve managed to really luck out with the girl in your area with dress regret. Seriously … That’s something most people wish would happen for them!
I say go ahead and buy the dress you love. I agree with previous posters … Dresses always look different on the hanger, and your fiance likely won’t even remember much about what it looked like anyway.
Post # 9
Thank you so much ladies. I think I’m going to buy it tomorrow. I mean, it really does seem like fate. Out of ALL the dresses in the world, they have the one I wanted. Plus $900 is way below my dress budget! I’ll be able to purchase all my bridal accessories AND come in under budget. You ladies are so right. In 5 months FI isn’t even going to remember what this dress looked like!
I cannot wait to try it on tomorrow! I’m going to double check everything about it though, no way I’m getting burned a 2nd time!
Post # 10
@Thorns-n-Roses: definitely don’t worry about it! If you want, don’t let him know anything more about your choices and keep those secrets from now on since the dress he saw may or may not look the same on you & etc.
I don’t think its bad! I purposely tricked DH into telling me his thoughts on my dress (through a fun game I called “tell me what you think!” where I showed him dresses of all kinds and asked his thoughts) and he asked me on our wedding day if the dress I wore was one of them… I said YES! muahahaha and he couldn’t remember but definitely liked it on the day!
Go try on that gown! It might not even be what you want so you never know – definitely never hurts to try (and get a great deal!) on a gown you’re in love with in print… just be warned that it might be different in real life (as my experience shows!)
Post # 11
@KimmySumShuga: Oh no, I’ve already purchased “this” gown once before. 2 weeks ago. I was told that is was a “private label” dress. I paid $3,000 for it! When I found out about this Maggie dress, I contacted the bridal salon again and they fed me this whole blah about it. The dress looks, for all intents and purposes, exactly the same. If it is actually the same dress (and my bet is that it IS the same dress) I don’t think I’ll be disappointed.
(Oh, and it ended in the salon refunding my money…)
Post # 12
Try on the real Maggie and then decide!
Post # 13
Well I ended up buying the dress. I put it on and felt that it wasnt worth losing something I loved over someone’s stupid mistake. My mom took pictures of me on her phone (her phone is better than mine) so hopefully she’ll send them to me soon! After trying on a REAL maggie, I’m fairly positive that this is the same dress or at least copied as closely as can be copied. The bridal salon went ahead and sold the gown for the bride (I guess this salon does pre-loved dresses on commission) so I was able to start alterations today too. They took all my measurements and we’ll get the ball rolling! Yay! I’m so happy!
Post # 14
@Thorns-n-Roses: Congrats on your purchase! I think you definitely made the right call in buying the dress. Can’t wait to see pics of it on you!
Post # 15
@Thorns-n-Roses: did he actually like the other disputed dress?
Post # 16
Go for the same dress as you love it! If he’s a typical guy, he won’t recognize it at all!!