Post # 1
okay. I’m about to sound like a total brat, but whatever.
I didn’t want to invite children to the wedding. Some people can’t imagine their day without them, and that’s great for those people. I am NOT one of these. FI and I don’t intend to have children, and I have never been good with them. I’m a warm person, I just don’t know how to interact with kids and never have.
I also tend to think that weddings are events for adults. It starts with a a quiet ceremony that most children find BORING (and some are VOCAL about it being boring!) and then moves on to people drinking alcohol! Despite these feelings, I caved under pressure and agreed to extend invites for cousins to bring their kids. Sigh.
Then (and this is where I get bratty) I was told that if I’m going to have a pinata (whatever, I want a pinata. I think every party is better with one!) that I should let the kids “go first”.. NOPE!!!! It’s MY PINATA!! (throws temper tantrum.) <br /><br />I understand that a pinata is an activity most would associate as being for children. I really get that. But THIS pinata is for us to break as a couple at the end of the night for a fun close to our wedding day, and I just don’t want to share it.
Post # 2
I’m with you. I love kids but I also love piñatas, and just because kids also love piñatas doesn’t give them automatic first dibs!!!!!
Post # 3
KoalaWalla: if anyone gets to go first at anything at a wedding it’s the bride and groom. I’m with you, did not want kids at our wedding. It was assumed that DH’s nieces and nephews would be at the ceremony which I was relatively ok with but I did have concerns that their parents would not keep the little ones quiet for our 20 minute ceremony. Valid concerns because of course the two three year olds made playing noises during our ceremony, rolled down hills in the gardens noisely etc. I was too involved in the ceremony to be hugely bothered by it at the time but I was certainly aware of it. Three year olds generally do not have interests in being at weddings – it is understandably boring for them. It bugs me that it is the parents who want them there for their own amusement so they can dress the, up all pretty and get some photos. Bah, they should do that on their own time and money.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
Will this be a problem if you leave the pinata for the very end of the night? Won’t the kids go home early? (Please say yes! Please tell me I won’t have kids running around my wedding at midnight!!!)
Post # 5
How old are the kids? I would save the pinata until the very end. Hopefully by then all the kids will be gone or too tired to be excited for it. Maybe add some “adult” things to the pinata (mini-liquor bottles, penis/boob candies, etc) so it wouldn’t be appropriate for the kids to have at it. I think I’d rather explain to my kid that it’s only for the adults than to explain why he can’t play with the weird balloons.
Post # 6
KoalaWalla: Fair enough! We’re having children at our wedding (family only) because i’m very close with my family, but I TOTALLY understand why some people don’t want them there.
I’m lucky in that the children in our family are very well behaved and respectful, bratty children drive me crazyyyyyy. And no, they don’t get to go first just because. Funnily enough it wont kill them to wait their turn!
Post # 7
Our wedding ends at 7 pm so I think I’m SOL on hoping they’ll be gone by then. I actully keep joking that I’m going to fill the pinata with porn so parents will have to keep their kids away from it. haha. <br /><br />I think if I just hang it REALLY HIGH (FI and I are tall!) it will be fine, I’m just annoyed that after reluctantly agreeing to let these kids come in the first place, people are trying to have them encroach on my pinata too!! Like, I said your kids could come! Be happy and BACK OFF!! lol.
Post # 8
KoalaWalla: Get two. Problem solved.
Post # 9
I am kind of back and forth with this myself. I have 4 nieces and nephews and I love them to pieces, not to mention all the kids of friends that I also like, but I dont really want kids at my wedding because I dont feel like dealing with having to watch out for little ones or temper tantrums or whatever. But not allowing kids means that a large chunk of my guest list might not show up. So I dont know what to do
Because of our location though I think people are expecting that they will be able to bring their kids, so even if I dont want them there I think they’ll show up anyway
Post # 10
KoalaWalla: Firstly, the title of your post made me giggle profusely! I totally hear you on the adult wedding, as my partner and I have planned the same and will definitely not be moving on that decision. Thankfully there shouldn’t be issues with this, as most guests have grown children and many of our friends do not have children. Hopefully everyone will be respectful of your wedding wishes and you will have a grand time breaking it open! I mean, kids like cake too, right? But they don’t get first dibs on that before the newly married couple either!
Post # 11
bitsybee: We wouldn’t have anywhere to put it, and would also have to PAY for another one (which sounds silly, but getting a custom pinata was pricey, and between that and the filling, it would be over another hundred dollars).
Really we just wanted to smack a pinanta once or twice, have glitter fall over the room (hooray! good fun!), and have it be a quick fun little thing we did. Once children are lining up for their turn.. then we might as well play pin the tail on the donkey and do the hokey pokey. <br /><br />What it mostly comes down to, is that I’m annoyed that after strong arming me into inviting their kids in the first place, people now want me to cater the activities of my wedding day to their children. I feel like if you INSIST on bringing your child to an adult oriented event, it’s your responsibility to entertain your child. Isn’t the insisting imposition enough?
Post # 12
KoalaWalla: LOL. Who suggested a $100 pinata for kids? Just get a kid’s pinata from the store. Giant ones are $30 from party city but you can probably find them for less. Hang it up in the back at / near the kid’s table, and they can smack it whenever or what not. You can do what you want and they can play pinata, pin-the-tail and hokey pokey. You’ll be busy playing in glitter. win-win.
Look, if you feel like you can’t properly host kids, that’s ok. Just say that. Resentful hosting just comes across as not being gracious. Once kids are invited, you should probably put some thought into what that means as a gracious host. At the end of the day, if you’re the budget owner, you’re responsible for the event.
That means others can “insist” to their heart’s content, but you’re still the ultimate decision maker (unless someone else is paying, in which case a lot of your posts make more sense when read in that context) so you can choose to ignore their impositions, accomodate them or reject them. It’s not that complicated.
If you invite the kids, they become your guests. If you don’t consider what they might need that reflects on you as the host. If they were never invited, that makes them not your problem. Just my $0.02.
Post # 13
KoalaWalla: Are you me a few years ago? We had a custom piñata for us and then had a separate cheap one for the kids. We made a big show out of opening ours but just stuck the kids on a tree outside so they could take a few whacks and get some candy. No one really even paid attention to them opening theirs.
Post # 14
- Wedding: January 2016 - Church in Shedd Oregon
KoalaWalla: I think you should fill it with mini shots, they have all kinds at the liquor store and other adult friendly things that would make the piniata off limits to children.
Post # 15
Are wedding piñatas traditional in your culture? I’ve never seen one outside of a birthday party. Regardless, it doesn’t matter if the kids want to hit it anyway. You don’t even want them there so they certainly don’t get any special treatment. Their presence is enough of a nuisance so I say make them sit patiently and watch the adults do the piñata. They need to learn that they don’t always get what they want.