Post # 1
FI and I have always wanted a male Shih Tzu, I’ve wanted one much longer than him. We currently have a steady income with extra cash to spare. Our apartment allows pets and we already have a cat who is 8 years old and we fear she will go soon which is why I want to incorporate another pet into our lives. FI encourages me to look at the humane society website for any shih tzu adoptions.
A friend of mine is giving away her 2 year old shih tzu because they don’t have time for it. They are gone all day long (as in 6am – 6pm) and on weekends they have hockey tournaments that they can’t bring the dog on. She has offered me first dibs on adopting the dog as she knows we could provide it with a good home.
I texted FI at work and he is apprehensive about it, he says that we wouldn’t be able to care for it because I am currently in school and he is at work – other than that he would’ve wanted one. I feel like he isn’t thinking that clearly about it. I don’t leave the house until 9am and return home by 5 or 6 some nights. We are always home in the evenings and weekends and my father would love to take the dog some days and watch him. We have a lot of time to take him out for walks and just be with him unlike his current owners. FI is also off on Wednesdays during the week.
My sister would also be more than willing to show up on her lunch hours to take the dog outside for a walk when my father isn’t available.
I personally think that our schedules allow us to bring a trained dog into our home and I feel that FI is just currently looking at his schedule as he gets home later than I do. Just looking for any feedback as FI and I will be discussing this tonight.
Post # 3
Just to update it with what FI has said through text:
He keeps on referring to himself. He says he’d be only able to give that dog 4 hours a day (which is 6:30 – 10:30 at night) and that it isn’t fair to the dog. That HE works 11 hours a day (only gone from 8:30 to 6:30 which is 10 hours) and that HE doesn’t have the time to care for a dog.
My point is that we have the dog in the mornings from 7:00 to 9:00 (8:30 for him) and I am home at 5:00/6:00. Some days I have even more time during the week to spend with it. He seems to be taking my time out of the equation!
Post # 4
@JessicaJupiter: MOST people that have dogs are gone for at least 8 hours during the day, sometimes more with a commute to and from work. That is normal, and that is what crate training is for. As long as you are going to make some time for the dog in the morning before you leave and in the evenings and on weekends, that’s plenty of time for a dog.
Post # 5
Sounds like YOU have the time for a 2 year old. He’s not a puppy. If your sister can come over and help out, it sounds like you guys would be fine with taking care of him. Make sure your SO truly wants the dog, though.
Post # 6
Tht sounds totally doable to me. I’d just be 100% sure that your dad and sister really are up for those regular responsibilities if you think the dog will need to go out during the day, or you plan to leave him with your dad. That said, I leave a little after 7 am and come home between 4:30-5 and my dog is fine all day. But, your FI needs to be on board too. Since you know the current owner could you see about having the dog come for an extended visit, kind of as a trial period to see how it would really go? Maybe once your FI sees how the dog would really fit into your lives he’d feel better about it.
Post # 7
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@JessicaJupiter: Why do you think your poor kitty is going to pass away? 8 years is NOT old for a cat!
Regarding the dog, there shouldn’t be a question mark at the end of your title or apprehension from your SO because they’re a money pit the first few months!
But like PP said, it’s normal to be gone 8 hours/day. We are and we have a perfectly happy dog. If it becomes a problem send him to doggy daycare!
Post # 8
@JessicaJupiter: Male shih tzus are very agreeable little guys 🙂 I think you have time, especially if your dad and sister are willing to keep him company sometimes. It’s usually humans who project their own separation issues onto the dog. As long as coming and going isn’t made into a big event, the dog can be fine for many hours on his own. I would take in the dog first thing on a weekend or when you have a little time off so you can set clear boundaries for the dog regarding where he is allowed to be. I’m a big fan of Cesar Millan’s techniques. He says to enter your home first, the dog waits, then invite the dog in, so he recognizes that this is your home, and the same for rooms where the dog is allowed. You first, then invite him in. You sit on the couch, then invite him up (if he’s allowed on furniture). This way he’ll know what’s expected of him while you’re gone and he won’t have to be crated all day. Good luck! Post cute pics once you get him 🙂
Post # 9
@Newly_MrsA: I’m trying to explain that to him but he thinks that is not normal – he somehow feels like someone needs to be with the dog all the time!
@lauraashley09: I could understand that with a puppy I likely wouldn’t have the time as we’d basically be starting from scratch – but the entire reason I wanted to jump on this is because he is a trained dog, not just some puppy.
@LibrarianBride: For me even if my dad/sister aren’t fully available for that there are other people in my apartment with dogs who would likely take him out and if not we have dog walkers everywhere! I couldn’t do a whole “extended visit” trial with the dog as she is in a rush to get him gone and doesn’t want to risk us not taking the dog and her being stuck trying to get it going in a couple of weeks.
@mchitt329: We just have a feeling that she isn’t going to be with us that much longer, 8 years is also a conservative estimate and we think she may be a bit older than that but when we took her in from his mother she couldn’t give us an exact age.
I even just took a couple of online quizes for if we are ready for a dog – and all of them indicated that we are so I am thinking tonight I will show him all of those results. I almost want to tell FI that this will be MY dog so then he starts looking at how I am able to take care of it.
Post # 10
My FI was apprehensive getting our first dog. It happened so quickly! We talked about seriously starting to look, and then the perfect situation presented itself (much like yours). I accepted and as we drove to get the dog, he was a nervous wreck.
The two of them are currently cuddling on the couch, warming up after a walk, watching sports center,
That dog is one of the best things to happen to us.
That being said, if you get the dog, you need to make sure you won’t resent him for not doing his fair share for the dog. He’s taking your time out of the equation because he’s trying to say he can’t contribute fairly in training and caring for the dog. If you want this dog, you will have to do the majority of the work. If that doesn’t bother you, I think you guys should go for it!
Post # 11
@Gem_Fem: That is the reason I’ve always wanted a little boy! I was thinking taking it in on our Family day weekend coming up next weekend because I’ll have most of Friday and then 3 full days of spending time with him before we need to adjust him to the regular schedule of things.