- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
Well it’s finally happened, I’ve hit my second major snag with my cruise wedding plans and sadly there’s nothing I can do about it. The first was my FILs saying they didn’t want to go on our cruise wedding. I’m still annoyed by it; but, I’ll deal-after all they’ve already seen their son married once. Now, the issue is with my FI’s son’s (16) and his mother (FI’s exwife).
My FI’s exwife is “refusing” to meet us to get their son’s first passport complete. It’s been twice now, every time we are trying to get the paperwork done, something comes up, the papers we need are missing, etc. We’re going to try again for this weekend before she heads back home to her state.
I know, in all fairness we have PLENTY of time (345 days, not that I’m counting…lol), but I would really like to get this all worked out sooner rather than later considering we’ve already paid his room off in full, if he’s not with us for the wedding week, then he may not have someone to watch him (I’m expecting my FILs will change their mind about coming at the last minute, thats their MO), and passports do take a while to process.
When we decided to do the cruise wedding it was no problem from her about it; but, it’s starting to feel very passive agressive. I think it has something to do with the fact that her son has been doing lots of traveling with us and that’s something she can’t do in her current financial situation with 7 kids 16 years of age and younger. It’s just that my family likes to travel, we travel during the summer when the kids are out of school, and it just so happens to be the time when her son is up visiting for the summer.
Last year we went to Hawaii, but that was something that was in the plans before my FI and I ever met. In a few years, my family and I are traveling to Alaska and again that’s something that’s been in the plans before my FI and I ever met.
I know this is something that has to be figured out between my FI and his exwife and I should leave it alone. But it’s really frustrating that she’s not more encouraging of her son traveling and seeing the world especially when she doesn’t have to pay for any of it.