Post # 1
My fiance and I are getting married in August. I’ve always been a big planner, and I always figured that every detail about my wedding would be carefully thought out. At this point, though, I’m feeling really overwhelmed, and have really been bad about staying on track. I haven’t had nearly the time that I want/need to figure it all out, and I feel like I’m cheating the wedding by not putting in as much effort as I’d like to. I’m counting a lot on friends and family to help because I haven’t been able to keep up. I also feel like I’m not taking it as seriously as I should, or not doing as much research as I should. It’s also hard that vendors don’t quite take me seriously because I look/sound so young. Anyway, it’s gotten to the point where I’ve had nightmares that the wedding day comes and I don’t know what I’m supposed to do!
I do at least have the venue, photographer, cake, minister, website, hotels/etc. and STD’s done. I’m making progress with the caterer, DJ, and flowers. I guess that I might be further along than I feel, but it still seems like things are out of control…
Did anyone else feel this way 6 months or so before their wedding? Any tips?
Post # 3
I’m right there with you. First, you have lots done! Second, life doesn’t stop when you are planning a wedding. Every time I get something done, I have a new nightmare. For example, we went to look at the venue again to figure out some spacing and discussed the ceremony. That night I had a dream that the ceremony was in the wrong spot and the guests were like 50 feet away from where the bride and groom would be AND my makeup was so terrible. The bottom half of my entire face was sparkly blue and the top half was sparkly gold, everywhere!
Hopefully, I can make you laugh and realize that we do not all have it all together!
Let’s support eachother!
Post # 4
We’re getting married 8hours away from where we live. So it’s so frustrating that we want to get things done but we can’t because it’s so far away. No that we finally have the things done like booking vendors that we can only get done there. We feel better.
I’ve been putting tasks on my calendar; giving myself deadlines on certain items. And it’s really help so that it doesn’t feel like it’s a sea of things to do. Rather more of a OK this month I should get items a,b,c and d done.
Or maybe start a checklist? It’s really empowering to check things literally off a list!
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2010 - Ladder 15 Restaurant
Don’t feel too bad!! I’ve had the same exact nightmare! It sounds like you’re moving along well and you’ve gotten quite a bit done…just have faith that things will come together! You’re very lucky you have friends and family helping you…maybe ask a recently married friend how they got through it and sit down with her to form a gameplan!
Post # 6
Hang in there. I feel the same way most of the time, especially since we still need a DJ, invites, pie (we’re having pie instead of cake ^_^), Save-The-Date Cards (since it’s Out of Town for most of my side) and a set floral plan, among other things. It’s all so overwhelming and there’s so much pressure to make sure it’s a great time for your guests. I’m only an hour away from where we’re getting married, but it seems like everything is so difficult. I’m worried that my future in-laws think that I’m not excited to marry Mr Spin because I’m just not really into wedding planning and I’m having the worst time making up my mind about things. 😛 My natural indecisiveness is not helping.
Personally, I have yet to have a moment where I actually enjoy wedding planning. Wedding planning is lame and stressful and I can’t wait for the actual day to roll around so we’re married and no longer worrying about what flowers are in season and if guests will be mad that there isn’t cake.
But I keep telling myself there’s a light at the end of the tunnel! Hang in there! ^_^
Post # 7
Hang i there chicky! I have myself a check list of what to do each month. so far it has kept me sane… I just look at it at the start and slowly work through it. So far I feel as im on check, other days not so much!
Your wedding will be fab!
Post # 8
I am a September bride and feel the same way. I get a lot of anxiety when I think about what all needs to be done. I am making a list and picking one task at a time to take care of so it doesn’t feel like I have 20 things to do at once. Also maybe step back and take a couple days to do something that you would think is fun to do planning wise, like go do your hair and makeup trial or do something completely non-wedding related.
Post # 9
You have a lot done, I think the rest is just getting the details done before the big day. With vendors booked you know you have everything you need. I peeked at the knot to do list the other day and I’m not too far off track, you should do it too, they have lots of detail oriented stuff. My fave is crossing off things I’m not doing and hence don’t have to worry about 🙂