Post # 1
My boyfriend and I are looking at rings right now, and I was wondering if it would be normal to get a new ring later in life, say at the 10 year anneversary? Our budget isn’t very large, but we can get a nice ring (not the one of my dreams of course). I was just wondering if anyone had done that? I know I’ll love my ring regardless because of what it represents, but I also don’t want to feel “trapped” with this one.
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
@KatandBri: I don’t think it’s weird or anything. We actually didn’t have a ton of money at the time we picked out my first e-ring. We upgraded 6-7 months after the proposal.
Post # 4
Just search for upgrade threads on here. There are a ton of people who do this
Post # 5
There are lots of people who upgrade and lots of people who would never consider it. Interstingly, the latter group is more common in those who were recently married, and the former becomes more common as the years go by. Regardless, you need to do what is right for YOU. Upgrading your ring is totally “normal”, and not upgrading your ring is also totally normal; it just depends on the people.
Post # 6
Totally normal. I never thought about it until recently. Once I did, I did lots of research into whether you should or should not upgrade, etc. and decided it was perfectly okay to do so. For us, it was once after many years. Others seem to do it pretty regularly. Either way you get to choose.
Post # 7
I got engaged in 2011 – upgraded before the wedding in 2012 and my latest upgrade is being set now. I think what I wanted just evolved – DH bought my initial ring not knowing it looked a LOT like ex-ring sooooo that was a big reason in the first one! Now, our finances have changed, a lot, and so has my taste. It’s not like I am not going to wear my current set again. I definitely will I am sure.
Post # 8
Some people will not as they are sentimental. Others don’t have a problem. After many years we did. For me i can change out my diamond but I will keep the hubby. He’s the important thing n my life.
Post # 9
I did! Just 2 years after marriage.
Set #1 (.25ctw sterling silver)
Set #2 (2.1 ctw 14k white gold)
Post # 10
I dont know why that post was so big…oops
Post # 11
I think I would like to fashion a new set for the same reasons you mentioned! We got engaged in college so his budget was limited and that’s fine. My ring is very pretty. It’s just not the ring of my dreams, but it CAN be, I think – I plan on keeping my stone (it’s currently a solitaire) and having my entire wedding set recreated with pave shanks instead of plain white gold.
Post # 12
It is absolutely ok! I’m getting a new (and even bigger!) custom upgrade and we’ve only been ENGAGED for a little over 6 months! Rings are just (unnecessary) symbols of your marriage, you can get 1000 rings and switch them out, not wear any rings at all, or both, there’s no right or wrong way to do it. Get what you love when you want to (as long as you can afford it, I don’t think people should go into debt for rings but that’s just my personal opinion) and have fun with it!
Post # 13
@KatandBri: Yes, very normal. I got a new set at 5 years.
Post # 14
I never really much thought about an upgrade until recent years. My husband proposed with a emerald & diamond ring (emerald is my birthstone) and i always wanted an emerald ring as an ering. However tastes do change over the years…. it is a yellow gold ring with emerald as a centre stone and pave diamonds on the band.
For some reason now, i just dont like yellow goldas much asI used to. Never minded before but a while back, I decided i wanted a white gold ering instead.
Hubby and I now own a house together, have a 3 year old DD have and good paying jobs, so why shouldnt I upgrade if i want to (I couldnt justify ever spending $10k+ on an upgrade now as we have a young child) but certainly I think we should enjoy some nice things in life if we want (I like sparkly things I dont deny it). Who knows, i think the future may see a few more upgrades for me yet!
Post # 15
As long as your SO is okay with an upgrade, I think it is fine! My DH was ok with it.I went from this: (1ctw, H color, I1, good cut)
To this set: 1ct center: (G, celebration cut, VS2) with .3 sidestones, .25 w-band
I would have been fine with keeping my original if we could have modified it some-what but the jewelers we took it to were afraid that it would ruin the ring. Something having to do with the “casting” IDK. But I love my new set so much more anyway!
Post # 16
As long as I get to keep my man, I have no problem changing out/upgrading my diamond! I know that what I want, as many pp’s have said, will evolve over the years and so will my taste. It’s only natural for some to want a ring that reflects that, for others the sentimental value of the ring makes them love it always.
For instance, my FI has declared that he will be excited to upgrade in a few years because he jokes that the more my finger sparkles, the faster guys will see I’m taken and stay away, LOL! Crazy men! It doesn’t hurt that I’m a diamond girl and looove sparklies!