Post # 1
My fiance is so unorganised and I know i shouldn’t moan about him but I am getting fed up.
The wedding is supposed to be in May. We were going to have it last Sept but his Aunt was going on holiday then and said “if you want, a photographer – don’t have the wedding in September” hinting that she would take our photos. She has taken classes and apparently takes good photos (according to FI despite me saying we still need a pro).
Anyway, I said we should hire someone and he was like ” Oh no, Auntie X will do it…” and his mother said the same. Well now his mother is asking if we have asked his aunt…what? also my FI has been to see his aunt twice and hasn’t mentioned anything like he said he would and she has also mentioned nothing.
I wish he would get it sorted out. I am maybe so fed up because of other issues aswell that I won’t mention.
Post # 3
That sucks, I hope he pulls it together. Ill add that taking good pictures and taking wedding pictures is two different things. I relied on a family member to take my photos and it bit me in the rear. If it were me, I would treat her like any other photographer, get it in writing, see her work, etc…
Post # 4
@BridalBeckyBee: That kind of happened to me. FMIL has a friend that does photography professionally so FI wanted to use her. Well she was so difficult to get a hold of that I almost gave up. She did contact us evenutally and we are using her, but Im still a little iffy about the whole thing
Post # 5
@BridalBeckyBee: If I were you, I’d tell Fiance he has 24 hours to call his Aunt and officially ask her or there will be hell to pay and you will be taking it upon yourself to book another photographer. Takes 5 minutes to make a phone call to his aunt about this.
Post # 7
@BridalBeckyBee: That’s frustrating. Why don’t you take matters into your own hands and call around for other photographers? Or you could contact the aunt.
Post # 8
@BridalBeckyBee: argh. I feel you 🙁 however before deciding on the aunt for sure I’d check out some of her pictures. If the pics are important do you im not sure you’re actually doin yourselves a favor going with someone who just took a class recently. You could have her for the getting ready, then have her as second photog for ceremony and portraits / bridal party and afterwards she can take over again. This way you’d still save a good amount of money but can be sure you’re getting great photos of the most important moments.
Post # 9
@BridalBeckyBee: I’m curious what these “other issues” are. But anyway, he does need to ask her asap because I have a sneaking suspicion that she could just be all talk and not really be up for the job after all. I wouldn’t hire a photographer without having seen any of their work, I don’t think you should either.
Post # 10
I agree with the other posts. I can see why you are frustrated with your fiancé and his mom. I would..
1. Decide how important wedding photos are to you and your FI. If they are ranaked really high then I would get a professional and the ones his aunt takes of the day can be bonus. Or maybe she would take some nice engagment pictures of the two of you.
2. If you are okay with nice pictures taken by a family member then I think you say to the fiancé that he has a day to call her and express to him that if his aunt says no you need time to find another photographer.
you can never redo your wedding photos and I am of the mindset that at the end of the wedding the only thing I have left is the memories and photos. Plus if his aunt is your photographer then she can’t 100 % enjoy your day as if she were a guest. And… I would like to be able to have photos throughout the day… Getting ready, ceremony, family, bridal party, the two of you, reception toasts, cake cutting, and first dance. if you want that too, then decide if his aunt is up for all that.