Getting annoyed now….

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
15011 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

That sucks, I hope he pulls it together. Ill add that taking good pictures and taking wedding pictures is two different things. I relied on a family member to take my photos and it bit me in the rear. If it were me, I would treat her like any other photographer, get it in writing, see her work, etc…

Post # 4
696 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@BridalBeckyBee:  That kind of happened to me. FMIL has a friend that does photography professionally so FI wanted to use her. Well she was so difficult to get a hold of that I almost gave up. She did contact us evenutally and we are using her, but Im still a little iffy about the whole thing

Post # 5
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@BridalBeckyBee:  If I were you, I’d tell Fiance he has 24 hours to call his Aunt and officially ask her or there will be hell to pay and you will be taking it upon yourself to book another photographer. Takes 5 minutes to make a phone call to his aunt about this. 


Post # 7
1259 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@BridalBeckyBee:  That’s frustrating. Why don’t you take matters into your own hands and call around for other photographers? Or you could contact the aunt.

Post # 8
889 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@BridalBeckyBee:  argh. I feel you 🙁 however before deciding on the aunt for sure I’d check out some of her pictures. If the pics are important do you im not sure you’re actually doin yourselves a favor going with someone who just took a class recently. You could have her for the getting ready, then have her as second photog for ceremony and portraits / bridal party and afterwards she can take over again. This way you’d still save a good amount of money but can be sure you’re getting great photos of the most important moments. 

Post # 9
1244 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@BridalBeckyBee:  I’m curious what these “other issues” are. But anyway, he does need to ask her asap because I have a sneaking suspicion that she could just be all talk and not really be up for the job after all. I wouldn’t hire a photographer without having seen any of their work, I don’t think you should either.

Post # 10
28 posts
  • Wedding: August 2014

I agree with the other posts. I can see why you are frustrated with your fiancé and his mom. I would..

1. Decide how important wedding photos are to you and your FI. If they are ranaked really high then I would get a professional and the ones his aunt takes of the day can be bonus. Or maybe she would take some nice engagment pictures of the two of you. 

2. If you are okay with nice pictures taken by a family member then I think you say to the fiancé that he has a day to call her and express to him that if his aunt says no you need time to find another photographer.

you can never redo your wedding photos and I am of the mindset that at the end of the wedding the only thing I have left is the memories and photos. Plus if his aunt is your photographer then she can’t 100 % enjoy your day as if she were a guest. And… I would like to be able to have photos throughout the day… Getting ready, ceremony, family, bridal party, the two of you, reception toasts, cake cutting, and first dance. if you want that too, then decide if his aunt is up for all that.

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