Post # 1
We used to have mindblowing sex everytime we met up (up to 3 times a day ) at least five times a week and now its hardly ever more than once a day and about three times a week. We don’t live together so I understand the not-so-frequent sex…
The first two years was great- sex was good, lots of foreplay and different positions…After all this time of course you get used to ALL the positions and things but our routines are becoming….too repetitive and basically he wants me to finish on top nearly every time and I do not want to do this EVERY TIME. I don’t look forward to sex as much as I did before (I have been on the pill for over five years and feel like NOW im starting to feel the effects of low libido as I have never experienced this before; either that or Im just getting bored in bed). When i communicated this to him (Very carefully) I think he got the message but it doesn’t really change much… I feel like hes getting sick of me and doesnt want to have sex with me.. We have tried nearly everything you could possibly think of (Except toys which we are not really into) and I have even tried to suggest we have less sex so that we can enjoy it more next time we do it.. I dunno the spark has definitely disappeared and I find myself fantisizing alot when I’m alone…(and feel really guilty about it)
We both orgasm every time but what im trying to say is that I just dont enjoy it as much and am sick of the whole little foreplay-15 mins sex that finishes with me on top…
Post # 3
It will all work out 🙂 Same thing happened with my SO.. we ended up investing in some new toys and sexy outfits (for me anyway lol). They seemed to do the trick. I guess the main point is the spice things up a little. We organised a few weekends away where we pretty much stayed in the hotel the whole time with our new toys/outfits.. trying different positions and so on. Sometimes some new surroundings are a good idea.. it made it more exciting with different furnishings.. chairs/tables at different heights allowing for different moves lol. Have a few bubble baths/showers together.. they usually do the trick. Have you tried watching porn together? Maybe find one that you both like and act it out? lol roleplaying can be fun!!!
Hope you work out something new to try 🙂
Post # 4
Ask him what he’s into.
Any fantasies you could reproduce, etc?
Post # 5
I made the mistake of using the word “bored” once. It made it worse because then he was suddenly overthinking every move he made. Just put on some lingerie or do something kinky on your own. Telling a guy he needs to step it up and start reading your mind in bed is a good way to give him a stroke haha
Post # 6
If you know the “routine” is start, mix up the middle with a new element – like a new toy, or a bit of dirty talk/role play.
You can’t always change the start and the finish, but you can reshuffle the middle and make it less predictable!
Post # 7
Hmm, have you tried getting more variety through location? Different locations force you to be inventive on positions. For example, my SO and I are going through a phase where we are really into shower sex at the moment.
I wouldn’t stress too much though. It’s normal for your sex life to have fluxuations. We couldn’t appreciate the highs if we didn’t have some (reasonable) lows!