(Closed) Getting bored with the same routine…help!

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

It will all work out 🙂  Same thing happened with my SO.. we ended up investing in some new toys and sexy outfits (for me anyway lol).  They seemed to do the trick.  I guess the main point is the spice things up a little.  We organised a few weekends away where we pretty much stayed in the hotel the whole time with our new toys/outfits.. trying different positions and so on.  Sometimes some new surroundings are a good idea.. it made it more exciting with different furnishings.. chairs/tables at different heights allowing for different moves lol.  Have a few bubble baths/showers together.. they usually do the trick.  Have you tried watching porn together?  Maybe find one that you both like and act it out? lol roleplaying can be fun!!! 


Hope you work out something new to try 🙂

Post # 4
801 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Ask him what he’s into.

Any fantasies you could reproduce, etc?


Post # 5
1110 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I made the mistake of using the word “bored” once. It made it worse because then he was suddenly overthinking every move he made. Just put on some lingerie or do something kinky on your own. Telling a guy he needs to step it up and start reading your mind in bed is a good way to give him a stroke haha

Post # 6
1903 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If you know the “routine” is start, mix up the middle with a new element – like a new toy, or a bit of dirty talk/role play.

You can’t always change the start and the finish, but you can reshuffle the middle and make it less predictable!

Post # 7
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Hmm, have you tried getting more variety through location?  Different locations force you to be inventive on positions.  For example, my SO and I are going through a phase where we are really into shower sex at the moment.


I wouldn’t stress too much though.  It’s normal for your sex life to have fluxuations.  We couldn’t appreciate the highs if we didn’t have some (reasonable) lows!  

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