(Closed) Getting bullied into a wedding invite (vent)

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

I think that you just need to tell her the place that you rented has a limit of x number of people that are allowed (per fire marshall-if you have to), and that in order not to hurt ANY cousins, you did not invite ANY of your cousins, and that you are SOOO looking forward to seeing her at the brunch celebration!  (Does she know where the private dining room is???)  Good Luck!! 

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

I think you need to explain to her that you can’t invite her because you can’t invite other cousins. Just stress that it’s not personal, and let her know that you’re already at your space limit.

Unfortunately it DOES sound like you’ll need to talk to her about it, not just passive aggressively not send an invite (as works in a lot of “you’d better invite me!” situations).

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

I think you need to explain to her that you can’t invite her because you can’t invite other cousins. Just stress that it’s not personal, and let her know that you’re already at your space limit.

Unfortunately it DOES sound like you’ll need to talk to her about it, not just passive aggressively not send an invite (as works in a lot of “you’d better invite me!” situations).

Can she attend the ceremony but not reception?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Definitely don’t invite her, you have your reasons and she needs to respect that, even if her feelings are hurt. You can never please everyone with your guest list. How would she come without an invitation? I assume that would have the place and time on it, just make sure she doesn’t find out what those are some other way!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think this conversation should be done face to face, but definately stick to your guns.  Don’t invite her.  Good luck, the previous posters give sound advice!

Post # 8
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Busy bee

Yikes. Explain to her again – maybe there is another family member who can reinforce your request that she would be more willing to listen to?

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