Getting Desperate. Is This Email Appropriate?

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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3989 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think this is appropriate and really, you have nothing to lose!  As someone who used to be in HR, I wouldn’t think this was odd and would hope to give constructive criticism to anyone who asked.

Best of luck!

Post # 4
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1140 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Seattle, WA

This sounds great to me!  I’m sorry to hear about your job search struggle.  I’m in the same boat.  It really takes a toll on your confidence level after being rejected multiple times!!!  You sound like a good catch though, I’m sure something great will come along!

Post # 5
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3930 posts
Honey bee

First off, i think you should try to find out if there is some reason you are unaware of (like the examples you mentioned). I think the email is extreamly well worded and i think you should send it. Worst case scenario they don’t respond. You are politely asking them ligitimate questions. Go for it. I truly hope things pick up for you. Stay strong. I know its hard but stay positive. 

Post # 6
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13020 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think that’s just fine to send.  I hope some better luck comes your way!

Post # 7
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3635 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think it’s perfectly appropriate.  They might be hesititant to put it in writing, so you might try to call HR if you can keep it together – but say pretty much the same thing. 

I feel you though.  Last job I interviewed for I got the “they went with someone more experienced” which I KNOW IS BULL.  But that’s what they told HR, so I can’t yell at her on the phone. 

Post # 8
Hostess
11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I am so sorry for your job search stresses, that is so hard!

Your email is well written and I don’t see anything wrong with sending it. Keep in mind that if it was a personality clash or a vibe they got from you in person they may not own up to it, I know I would have difficulties doing so. Although I suppose they could say something like “you aren’t a good fit” and keep it super generic.

Best of luck and I do hope you find something soon!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@MexiPino:  I think the email is great, however I would recommend calling instead of emailing.

Post # 10
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875 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MexiPino: I think that email sounds very professional. I would send it

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Totally appropriate!  You aren’t being rude or demanding and it doesn’t come across as whiny or desperate.  I think it’s totally reasonable to ask for feedback and as one PP mentioned, the worst that can happen is that they just won’t respond.  Hope they will though!

I’m sorry you’re not having much luck in your job search.  It’s such a frustrating process…definitely not one I’m looking forward to when I’m done with my grad program!  Positive thoughts your way!

Post # 14
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2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@MexiPino:  On its face, I think the e-mail is fine.  However, I’m not sure you will get a response because employers are so worried about lawsuits.  They tend to circle those wagons pretty closely.  

If you think you might want to apply to the same employer again, I might hesitate to send such an e-mail.  It might be more worthwhile to use your own professional network.  If you have a former collegue or boss or teacher that would be willing to evaluate your resume and interview skills, that might be a better tack.  

Also, think about your appearance and demeanor during interviews.  Do you need to dress more professionally?  Less frumpy?  Less flashy?  Do you talk too much, too little, too loud?  Thik about anything that could maybe use improveent.

Post # 15
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689 posts
Busy bee

I would send it. I had a similar situation happen to me and I emailed them back thanking them and asking them to please consider me if any other opportunities open in the future. Lucky for me, they reached out 3 months later and offered me a job.

Post # 16
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164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Yes send it! If they need to hire that many people, maybe a few of them won’t work out and you’ll stand out for them to contact you! 

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