Getting engaged! Public or alone?

posted 2 years ago in Traditions
Post # 2
484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

jae.nicole27:  My FI proposed to me in private – we had the house to ourselves. We were at my parents’ home though. 

When they got home from running some errands, we told them straight away. The next day we went to FI’s parents to tell them. 

I prefer private, but loved that we could share with our families immediately after.

Post # 3
1117 posts
Bumble bee

jae.nicole27:  I had no idea my proposal was coming and he did it just the two of us in a local park when there was no one around. It was lovely as it’s actually quite an intimate moment and he said some really nice things that I don’t think he would have said in front of other people. It was also really nice to enjoy our little bubble of wandering around the park newly engaged and let it sink in before going to tell people about it and getting to have extra exciting moments. If they’d all been there it would have taken away the excitement of getting to tell them all.

Post # 4
103 posts
Blushing bee


jae.nicole27:  My fiance proposed to me in front of his immediate and extended family at a family bbq this past February.  I also knew that a proposal was going to happen but didn’t think it was going to happen at that time.  To this day, I really love that he took the time to announce his love to me in front of the people that matter to him most.  And it felt really special to me and him.  I am a believer in doing whatever works for you, but I wouldn’t trade that moment for anything.

Post # 6
7940 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

You could always celebrate with family immediately after your private proposal. Your request is a lot of pressure to put on a guy, much less a shy one.

I didn’t place an order for my exact proposal but he went with private, at home, and I loved it. It’s a decision about the two of you, made by the two of you. Why not have it be just the two of you? That being said, I would have been happy with either – my only guidelines were that there’s a ring so I know he’s serious (he asked me to marry him all the time and I’d answer with a left hand wiggle… You let me know when you mean it). And that no one is on the toilet. 

Post # 7
1117 posts
Bumble bee

jae.nicole27:  We took a selfie immediately afterwards at the instruction of his sister (who helped him choose the ring and plan the proposal) which means we have a really nice photo of us both grinning like mad literally seconds after I’d answered, it means we have a fantastic picture but still had a private proposal

Post # 8
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I prefer private to be honest.

My FI proposed at home, on a Sunday night at 10pm after we’d finished watching ‘Elf’ (you know the Christmas movie??) and it was absolutely perfect, and totally just for us. Having that moment to ourselves felt so special.

Remember there will be lots of times to celebrate with loved ones after he’s proposed too – sometimes it can be nice to have things just between the 2 of you 🙂

Post # 9
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

MrsBuesleBee:  I genuinely LOLd at your post!  No I wouldn’t have wanted to be on the toilet either. 

One of my stipulations was actually “not in public” I wouldn’t have minded friends and family around, but not strangers. And I told him in no uncertain terms – not in a restaurant! I would have liked photos, but I got a gorgeous proposal, me and him, and our furry family. and our parents joined us shortly afterwards. 

He told me that even though he knew I was going to say yes he was still mad nervous. So think of your BF too, he needs to feel comfortable since he’s doing all the hard work! 

Post # 10
6173 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013


jae.nicole27:  my proposal was in a public space but very private.  there is a quirky museum in our city that has a treehouse in a sculpture garden.  we had our first date at the museum and DH proposed in the treehouse.  well first, i had a scavenger hunt through the city to get to the treehouse.  the entire day was a lot of fun.




Post # 12
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

 I guess I am the odd one out here, I wanted my proposal to be in public and he delivered just that! In a park, on new years eve with 10,000 other people around (however, none of which we knew so it was still a moment between us). Loved every minute of it. 

Post # 13
2581 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

jae.nicole27:  I was so glad that we were on our own when my FH proposed. I actually panicked that he’d told other people before asking me, but he hadn’t. I needed the time to settle into it and come to terms with it before dealing with people, haha!

Post # 14
3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

jae.nicole27:  I didn’t want to share it with my family. I wanted it to be a private moment between us together. FH proposed privately and it was perfect.

You need to do what will suit you both best. I have to imagine that proposing is nervewracking so if your shy BF feels better tackling the monumental task in an intimate setting, that might be the way to go! Only you two know for sure. Congratulations!

Post # 15
904 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 1975

jae.nicole27:  My FI did it in a public place (the beach) during sunset but in a private manner. We were alone, no one near/with us, but people were up on the Boardwalk. I preferred the engagement to happen that way (It would have been really embarrassing for me if it happenend in an ultra public place, as I don’t care for the attention & I think that moment should be shared between those two people – just my opinion & preference). He knew that due to a previous/earlier conversation we had, which was prompted by a girl who was engaged at a sporting event on a TV show. We were able to grab a really great selfie of us the moment after it happened.

I hope your boyfriend can also include parts of what you want and parts of what he would like to happen. Either way, you’ll be shocked and happy when it happens, that sometimes we forget some of the other smaller things/details. Please let know when/how it happened, excited to hear your proposal story next!

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