Post # 1
Soo my husband was married before, and when we met he was living in the house he had once shared with his ex-wife. When they divorced six years ago, he bought her out and she moved out…so she hasn’t lived there since 2007. Once we got married in may, we moved into a beautiful, brand new apartment together. And now we just got the second piece of mail addressed to the ex-wife at our address – not forwarded from the old house. The first was from Nebraska Furniture Mart and the second was from Pottery Barn, and both said stuff about welcoming her to her new home. What gives?? I can’t figure out why we are getting this mail, and it’s going to be irritating if we keep getting mail for her (she kept his name after the divorce, btw).Has anyone experienced anything similar to this?
Post # 3
Honestly, if she’s too stupid to update her address then I would just throw it out.
Darling Husband and I still get mail for the guy who moved out of our house 2 years ago (including insurance stuff). The guy that lived here was an idiot and after 1 year I was tired of taking his stuff and returning it so I just don’t anymore.
Edit: I just re-read and see that you moved. It could be a mean trick by her, I wouldn’t forward the mail.
Post # 4
We received one piece of junk mail with the ex wife’s name on it (divorced 5 plus years) and it was promptly corrected (FI called to get the mailing removed).
Post # 5
@vagabondette: The lady that lived in our house before us died in it….7 years ago….we still get her mail which includes but is not limited to the Medical Supply Catalog, Fun With Yarn Quarterly Magazine and birthday and Christmas cards from several of her bereived…and possibly senile relatives…
Post # 6
@Lyndzo: The mean trick is what I’m wondering about. It would be so petty it’s hard to believe, but….
Post # 7
It’s not a mean trick. I get mail for my ex husband who lives in a different state all the time. We’ve been divorced for 10 years. All these companies do is a quick search, and voila, up comes the previous marriage. My ex even accused me of opening an account at a store that doesn’t exsist where I live because my name ended up on an account that his new wife had opened.
These things will happen. Just toss the mail and go on your merry way.
Post # 8
This also happens to us with FI’s parents.
They used to have a joint bank account when he was a kid, and we’ve chalked it up to that. They aren’t co-signers on anything (including the mortgage) at this time.
Post # 9
We still get mail for the old owners its been about 10 years. Just throw it out or call whomever is sending the mail and have it updated. I really don’t think she’s behind it. And if she is how pathetic would that be. Don’t rack your brain trying to figure it out. Databases don’t get updated as often as they should.
Post # 10
@aithinne: Thanks! I appreciate that info!
Post # 11
I get mailers at my house for my ex-husband every once in a while. We’ve been divorced for 6 years and we both own our own new houses. Unfortunately, like your husband and his ex, our names will always be linked because we were married at one time. Which means you will likely continue to get random things like that every once in a while. Marketing departments don’t spend a lot of time making sure they got the name right on the mailing slip. I wouldn’t give it a second thought. Its just junk mail.
Post # 12
@bklynbridetobe: you’re right…thanks for your perspective!
Post # 13
It’s just a computer’s wrong guess– throw the junk mail away and don’t give it a second thought.
Post # 14
My fiance’s parents STILL receive some mail addressed to him. Specifically, his 401k from his previous employer. I have been in the room while he’s called them and heard the conversation, they keep saying they’ll change it and it hasn’t happened yet. Every quarter, he calls. Every quarter, they swear they’ll fix it. Also, although he’s moved TWICE since he’s lived with them (and changed his address with the DMV), they still get junk mail addressed to him. Once you’re on a mailing list, good luck getting off it. Just toss it and don’t think twice.
On the plus side, since you’re in an apartment – you’ll probably get junk mail for the previous tenants too!
Post # 15
My mom still gets mail addressed to my father. He passed away 10 years ago and she has moved approximately 4 times since then. She also got a piece of mail the other day addressed to her father, who passed away 12 years ago and didn’t even live in the same state as us for the last 30+ years of his life.
Post # 16
@vagabondette: ugh. We occasionally get mail for FI’s ex and she only lived in his house for 2 weeks until they split up! It bothers me SO much. I don’t know how to get it to stop 🙁 it’s just junk mail so I always throw it away but it always feels like a big punch in the stomach.