Getting frustrated with waiting!!!!!!!!!!

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

 I always inadvertently destroy romantic plans he has and he knows it!


Hence why you need to be patient! At least you know he has some sort of timeline for you. A lot of other girls (Bees) don’t even get that, and it is coming up soon.

DH did the same thing to me. He said it was coming very soon but wouldn’t tell me when. He proposed on a day when I was grumpy, stinky, sweaty, and unshowered…no makeup and hair a mess. I was also very hungry and just wanted to go out to eat so hence the grumpy part. It was perfect and everything I had imagined. He made a proposal video with pictures and music. He took a LOT of time making it, a few months at least. Plus when it came to my ring he had to custom order it because when we picked it out it got sold right away.

Men plan it better than we women truly know, and they have their reasons. As long as your man stays within his timeline before Sept I wouldn’t worry to much. Be sweet with him. You’re with him becuase you love him, right? 😉

Post # 4
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2516 posts
Sugar bee

@megz06:  I was going to quote the same thing!

@alsgirl:  It sounds like you’re prone to ruining several of his proposal plans, which is why he’s creating a larger window. You only have ten more weeks at max, which is a pretty short amount of time. Just calm down and join the SIUP. I think it’ll work for you. Good luck!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@alsgirl:  I know for a *fact* that my snooping and ruining surprises is what has kept BF from proposing yet (had the ring since beginning of May). He is trying to catch me off guard and make sure his plan is badabing88-proof. I’d be willing to be your BF is doing the same!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

@alsgirl:  First of all, CONGRATS!!  I would just LOVE to be in your shoes, you already have a great guy, who loves you enough to marry you, the ring is ordered and on its way 😀  That’s really something that from my spot, I’m jealous of you in a good way 🙂

With that said…I have two examples for you to consider before you worry about it being a ‘day like this’:

1)  I know a girl who was supposed to get engaged.  It was one of my BF’s friends, and he had organized a special trip out of town using the families beach house and EVERYTHING.  Anyway, I have no idea what happened, but we came back ready to congratulate them and were shut down by the BF’s friend and told not to bring it up.  For whatever reason, that engagement didn’t happen, and then the next couple of hang outs with them were my BF and his friend doing their own thing, and the girl and I chatting about marriage and her complaining that her BF hasn’t proposed and would he ever, etc, etc…It sorta made me think that maybe she was complaining not being engaged or whatever on the vacation, caused an argument, then they didn’t get engaged.  UGH.  This was over a year ago and they still live together, he still has the ring…but no engagement 🙁  DON’T BE THAT GIRL.

2)  After 4+ years of dating, one of my girlfriends got engaged.  Nothing too special, except that the ENTIRE next 3 months of us hanging out, everytime someone would congratulate her, it was all ‘I can’t believe he made me wait this long’ and ‘It’s about time’ and ‘I have no idea why I stayed with him if he was going to make me wait this long, we’ve been talking about marriage forever’.  DON’T BE THAT GIRL EITHER.  It was like it was all about her and not about THEM.

Sorry for the novel.  Just be happy that your moment is coming, and try not to ruin it with the wrong attitude….You don’t want your man to feel bad because he is waiting for the right time.  The engagement it all on the man, lots of pressure, they want it to be perfect!  Be lucky that you have someone who cares about this so much!  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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