Post # 1
Hey bees. I know a few of you know my story but a quick recount for those who don’t: been together a year and a half, living together over a year, went ring shopping in April and ordered it at the end of April. Proposal was originally going to BE in April but has been delayed by SO to “sometime before September”.
The fact he delayed it and doesn’t have any reason apart from “it feels right” is really getting to me. He’s just as keen as me to get engaged so why are we waiting for some “perfect” date!!???!! I always inadvertently destroy romantic plans he has and he knows it! (usually because he waits just a bit too long to do it and half the fun’s been ruined because of the waiting).
He wants to “do it right” yada yada. I’m just worried he’s planning to do it on a day where I’ll be feeling like I am now, and I’ll bite his head off because he took so long that the waiting spoils it somewhat.
Ugh, just so frustrated right now. I just want to be married to this amazing guy and don’t get the point of waiting when we’re both ready!!!!!!!!!!!! So freaking frustrating!!!!!!!!!! VENT VENT VENT!!!!!!!
(and if you’re still reading, legend!) I just want to vent on here and get it out so I don’t take it out on him!
Post # 3
I always inadvertently destroy romantic plans he has and he knows it!
Hence why you need to be patient! At least you know he has some sort of timeline for you. A lot of other girls (Bees) don’t even get that, and it is coming up soon.
DH did the same thing to me. He said it was coming very soon but wouldn’t tell me when. He proposed on a day when I was grumpy, stinky, sweaty, and unshowered…no makeup and hair a mess. I was also very hungry and just wanted to go out to eat so hence the grumpy part. It was perfect and everything I had imagined. He made a proposal video with pictures and music. He took a LOT of time making it, a few months at least. Plus when it came to my ring he had to custom order it because when we picked it out it got sold right away.
Men plan it better than we women truly know, and they have their reasons. As long as your man stays within his timeline before Sept I wouldn’t worry to much. Be sweet with him. You’re with him becuase you love him, right? 😉
Post # 4
@megz06: I was going to quote the same thing!
@alsgirl: It sounds like you’re prone to ruining several of his proposal plans, which is why he’s creating a larger window. You only have ten more weeks at max, which is a pretty short amount of time. Just calm down and join the SIUP. I think it’ll work for you. Good luck!
Post # 5
@alsgirl: I know for a *fact* that my snooping and ruining surprises is what has kept BF from proposing yet (had the ring since beginning of May). He is trying to catch me off guard and make sure his plan is badabing88-proof. I’d be willing to be your BF is doing the same!
Post # 6
@badabing88: So this is what’s keeping me from writing up your proposal blurb! Quit snooping!
Post # 7
@badabing88, @somethingaquamarine, @megz06: He admitted he’s waiting to finish probation at work! Which when you take into account all the other things he’s said makes it the first or second weekend in August 😀
AAHHH! That man! If he’d just said this ages ago I’d have been fine! I feel heaps better now I know he has a real reason 🙂
Hehe now I know when to get a mani 😉
Post # 8
@alsgirl: First of all, CONGRATS!! I would just LOVE to be in your shoes, you already have a great guy, who loves you enough to marry you, the ring is ordered and on its way 😀 That’s really something that from my spot, I’m jealous of you in a good way 🙂
With that said…I have two examples for you to consider before you worry about it being a ‘day like this’:
1) I know a girl who was supposed to get engaged. It was one of my BF’s friends, and he had organized a special trip out of town using the families beach house and EVERYTHING. Anyway, I have no idea what happened, but we came back ready to congratulate them and were shut down by the BF’s friend and told not to bring it up. For whatever reason, that engagement didn’t happen, and then the next couple of hang outs with them were my BF and his friend doing their own thing, and the girl and I chatting about marriage and her complaining that her BF hasn’t proposed and would he ever, etc, etc…It sorta made me think that maybe she was complaining not being engaged or whatever on the vacation, caused an argument, then they didn’t get engaged. UGH. This was over a year ago and they still live together, he still has the ring…but no engagement 🙁 DON’T BE THAT GIRL.
2) After 4+ years of dating, one of my girlfriends got engaged. Nothing too special, except that the ENTIRE next 3 months of us hanging out, everytime someone would congratulate her, it was all ‘I can’t believe he made me wait this long’ and ‘It’s about time’ and ‘I have no idea why I stayed with him if he was going to make me wait this long, we’ve been talking about marriage forever’. DON’T BE THAT GIRL EITHER. It was like it was all about her and not about THEM.
Sorry for the novel. Just be happy that your moment is coming, and try not to ruin it with the wrong attitude….You don’t want your man to feel bad because he is waiting for the right time. The engagement it all on the man, lots of pressure, they want it to be perfect! Be lucky that you have someone who cares about this so much!
Post # 9
@veryberry13: Thanks! That does help 🙂 I definitely don’t want to be the whiny “why did he make me wait so long” type and I’m trying not to be the “oh just get on with it” type either 🙂