Getting gifts before the wedding- open or not?

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
Member
1290 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@bkrocks13:  I say  it’s totally up to you.  Some people would rather wait because they’re slightly superstitious or think they should wait until after the wedding.  I think it doesn’t matter, personally.  Since your fiance wants to wait, why not just wait?

Post # 5
Hostess
22135 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would absolutely open them. I think the superstition is more about using them than opening them. Guests who are sending you gifts now will appeciate a thank-you note so they know you received their gift!

Post # 6
Hostess
22135 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2011

Also, if it helps, I added “gift” and “thank-you note sent” columns in my guest list spreadsheet and just kept track of all of our gifts and thank-you notes there. 🙂

Post # 7
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2571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We only received one so far and we opened it – the friend that sent it had texted to see if we’d gotten it. 🙂

 

I say open but don’t use anything til after the wedding!

Post # 8
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1194 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We’re just opening the outer box and the card or invoice to see what it is and who it’s from so we can write an appropriate and timely thank you card. Once we’ve done that, it’s going into a closet until after the wedding.

Post # 9
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518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I agree with open right away, but don’t use until after the wedding.  That’s probably what we’ll do.

Post # 10
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6279 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@bkrocks13:   us too.  we received our first gift in the mail.  i thought it would be a shower gift.  but when i saw the sender, it was FI’s friend who is not invited to the shower.

 

we took it out of gift box but still in it’s own box as we weren’t planning to use until after the wedding, unless something comes up where we really want to use it.

 

i will send a thank you note this week.

 

does the same go for shower gifts?  can we use those before the wedding? or is that faux paux too?

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 11
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1290 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@bkrocks13:  sorry that I got it mixed up.  Regardless, I say do whatever you want to do!  If either of you feels really strongly one way or another, do that.  I don’t think it matters which you do, just your preference.  Personally I do agree with opening it and sending a timely thank you so that people aren’t wondering if it made it or not.  I was in the “wondering” camp a few times, but just assumed it got there and expected that I’d get a thank you later on down the road.

Post # 12
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1243 posts
Bumble bee

I plan to open any gifts we receive immediately, and send a thank you card the following day so the giver knows that we have received it.  Wedding gifts should never be used until after the actual wedding however.  You just never know…

Post # 13
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6510 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

We opened them and used them right away. We opened them because we wanted to send thank you notes right away and we used them because it didn’t make sense to pile them all up in our spare bedroom.

Post # 14
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886 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Any gifts that were delivered prior to the wedding were opened up immediately … so much fun!

Post # 16
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9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@bkrocks13:  I would open them. They aren’t doing any good sitting in a box, and you may be able to use that stuff! Also, your mom wants you to open hers so at the very least you should open that one.

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