Post # 1
I am getting alot of my RSVPs back and from most or my FMIL’s friends they’re all replying back they can’t come (which is A-OK with me!!! less os better!!)
However pretty much all of them are including cheques with their replys.
Should we start sending out thank you’s or should we wait until after the wedding? I just dont know what the ettiquite is for that? because they would then be waiting over 3 months for us to say thank you, to acknowledge that they gave us a ‘gift’ months ago!
– I want to really thank then ASAP as well (even though I dont know them) because will al of the money we have gotten thus far me and the FI went out and bought an AC!
Post # 3
I think you should send your thank yous now. I think the etiquette books would say that either before or after the wedding is acceptable for presents (stuff), but for checks I think that you don’t want to cash it and not acknowledge the gift for that long.
Post # 4
I agree with Erin – you should send a thank you before you cash the checks!
Post # 5
Ha! Thats something I didnt think about – cashing the cheques before we have even acknowledge them! oh boy! that could be bad!
I will get on it!
Post # 6
You should send the thank yous as soon as you receive a present or money. It is just polite and I feel like the longer I wait to write a card or a letter to someone, the more likely I am to forget completely.
Post # 7
give your thank you letters, less work in the future; plus they will be relieved their cheques reached you
aw how generous of them!
Post # 8
As a good general rule of thumb — if you receive a check as a gift or elsewise, send a thank you immediately, wait a day or so to ensure the TY is received, then cash/deposit the check.
I know that when I give someone a check, and they sit on it, I get frustrated when it comes to balancing my finances!
Post # 9
We had a rule in my house growing up at Christmas and for birthdays – no playing with the new toys, wearing new clothes, spending holiday money, etc UNTIL we’d written the gift-giver a thank you note. A serious motivation!
I tried this rule with my fiancee (now husband) when it came to wedding gifts, but since we are both writing on every card, we got backed up 🙂 But trying to fill the gap asap!