Getting guilt over having a small wedding

posted 3 years ago in Beehive
Post # 2
Member
3928 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

beth.messer.9:   Have the wedding you want.   Your true friends will respect your wishes.  

Post # 3
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3047 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

beth.messer.9: If a small wedding is what you want, don’t let anyone else bullying you into making it bigger. Just stand your ground and if you feel that you want to explain yourself, just say you only want those who are absolutely closest to you there. Your friends that want to bring the +1s should understand once they get how intimate it will be. As for those that just try to invite themselves without you really having a history, well… just makes it clearer why you don’t socialize with them.

For the record, we had a 35 people wedding and I wouldn’t have wanted it any other way. 

Post # 5
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1136 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

beth.messer.9:  My view is if they’re not going to respect your wishes and be happy for you, they don’t deserve to be there in the first place! (and aren’t worth stressing over!)

Have the wedding you want, stay strong and be very clear that no oneother than those specifically listed on the invite may attend!

Post # 6
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116 posts
Blushing bee

There is always going to be someone upset about not being invited to your wedding.  Wouldn’t be surprised if you invited 500 people and at least someone would get pissy.  Have the wedding that you feel comfortable with, others will just have to get over it.

Post # 7
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133 posts
Blushing bee

If you don’t talk to them anyway then they’ll get over it before you know it, because you guys don’t talk anyway. 😉 Anyway, just say its financial reasons and that you’d appreciate it if they respected that. 

Post # 8
Hostess
2920 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I also had a 30 person wedding. I’m sure people were upset but it is pretty obvious at such a small wedding that’s it’s just family and very close friends. If it were 75-100 then people might feel the sting more

Post # 9
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191 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

beth.messer.9:  I agree with all of the other bees above. Stand your ground on this one because ultimately it’s your day. If you’ve never even met the +1’s that they’re giving you grief over, then that’s just ridiculous! I love the idea of an intimiate wedding 🙂 

Post # 10
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187 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Villa Celeste

We are having a small 30 person destination wedding, after telling our famiies that we wanted the big blowout traditional ceremony/reception. Whoops! Our family was a little bit irritated, because they had already told their friends about the wedding, even though invites hadn’t been sent out. To put it in perspective, FI and I got engaged 4 years ago. During the first year we we started planning the big dream wedding, only to realize it wasn’t at all what we wanted. That’s what matters is what YOU want. I wanted to share this day with the closest people to me. I don’t think anyone will feel snubbed, as it’ll be clear this is a small affair.

Post # 11
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54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

beth.messer.9:  I feel you!  I can’t even tell you how many people came out of the woodwork and tried to invite themselves to my destination wedding.  It’s like they needed an excuse to go on a vacation.  But who cares?  If we are only fb friends or we haven’t physcially seen each other in a year, off the list.  I agree with what other posters said, if you never see them or speak to them who cares if they are mad bc you don’t talk to them anyway!

 

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