Post # 1
well… this post is going to seem judgey, i promise that this wasn’t my intention, but its going to come out how its going to come out LOL
If you are not familar with the site GoFundMe.org it is a free site that you can set up for people to donate to your cause. I have used this site several times as friends of friends have posted links looking for help for grieving families, memorial servces, critical surgeries needed etc. There are all kind of things on there such as sick pets, families going through hard times, soccer teams raising money for uniforms – heck, i am sure there are a few Wedding donation or Honey funds on there (but that is another thread)
Since there are so many different types of accounts on there, i probably don’t even have the right to complain. But it bugs me when people use this site the wrong way. (i guess just wrong in my opinion). One of my old coworkers, who i use to be fairly close with, put up a status yesterday asking people to donate to his GoFundMe account. The reason?
Oh my new fiance and I need $3000 to cover some bills. She had a visit to the hospital before her insurance kicked in (not anything serious – she got a minor injury lifting weights) and now we need help covering rent. Help us out!
Which, OK i get it! hospitals are expensive and can put you in a bind! I believe medical bills are a great use for GoFundMe. here is the part that bothers me. Maybe you guys wouldnt be in a bad position financially if you hadn’t started dating 2 months ago and moved all willy nilly. They reconnected a week before she was moving across country. She packed up her car, drove all her stuff only to turn around and come right back the next day. Who knows about all the deposits from moving and cancelling her lease? They moved in and 2 weeks ago got brand new cell phones with a new provider and shopping for rings etc. Then after he posts that status asking for money yesterday, he posts today that they are on their way to San Jose Fit Expo (thats like 7 hours away) and stopping for breakfast. Perhaps they are sharing the costs with people or whatever, but if you were so close to not making ur rent…wouldn’t you not go? They are also heavily into working out and nutrition so they also spend a pretty hefty amount on protein and nutrition supplements.
I know i am complaning for nothing as i can simply choose not to donate, but i dont know it just kind of rubs me the wrong way since many strangers roam that site and donate to random causes, it kind of irks me that they may be randomly chosen over someones son in a coma who needs surgery or whatever. It just strikes me as a huge misuse. That site is for people who really need help. Even when my dog needed her eye removed, i debated setting up an account for her, but decided if i was going to ask my friends and family for money then i would want to pay them back! We ended up putting it all on credit and handling it ourselves with payments.
Have you come across anyone using similar sites for what seemed like a silly reason? I almost compare it “gift grabby” if we are using bee lingo lol
Post # 2
I think you are deluding yourself if you don’t think you are judging, but that’s ok with me.
My feelings are if people are stupid enough to give money to a stupid cause, they deserve to lose their money- which they are. People recently gave over $40,000 on kickstarter to some guy who wants to make potato salad!
We are never going to eliminate stupidity, nor selfishness or greed. We all do have the option to not support those less than admirable qualities, however.
Post # 3
julies1949: I never said i wasn’t. It wasn’t my direct intention with this thread – just wanted to see what other ridiculous things people have seen out there on sites like this.
But i am Judgey Mcjudgeton today. LOL no denying that.
I think it bothers me so much because i also donated to a friends memorial service who passed away recently. Only to find out his sister has used the majority of the money to not to pay off the service (which is in her parents name = their debt) but rather fixed their dirt bikes and took a family vacation.
Post # 4
leisha606: My boyfriend’s mother and her boyfriend wanted to get funding for their business, but use the money to pay their mortgage. I said, “If people are contributing money to save your small business, it should go toward helping your small business, not paying your mortgage.” They said they need somewhere to live in order to keep the business running, so it’s justified. I don’t know if they ever asked for or received the funding…
Post # 5
I don’t tend to get irked or worked up on these things but the other day I saw a lady I know post a link to GoFundMe on Twitter… For her wedding! As in “Hey guys X and I are getting married and I want to have my dream wedding. But that is an amount of money we can’t come up with. So I would be really happy to get your help so I can have the wedding I’ve dreamt of since I was a little girl”.
I. Kid. You. Not. I did not comment or donate but I was like hell no. Has it occured to you that perhaps many of us are doing what we can but trying to have a pretty wedding while still just going for what we can afford, not what we would love to have? My poor niece for example works as a teacher. She got her hours reduced so they didn’t have to fire people and what she gets paid is only enough to cover a $500 rent, utilities and food and she still struggles. She knows she can’t afford a wedding. And our family is up for helping her have a pretty but yet modest wedding but for some really grown ass woman who by the way has a great job and still wants a royalty like wedding that she can’t afford and wants everybody else to pick up the tab for her luxuries? Hell no.
Post # 6
Here’s my take on it: People are always going to ask for ridiculous things. I personally thought the potatoe salad thing was hilarious as he was making fun of the ridiculousness of the site itself! Giving your money to something like that is always a choice. I think it’s a website with the best of intentions (and there are some people on GoFundMe who desperately need help) but people take advantage of situations like that, they always have. If you don’t like it, don’t give money.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse
and this is exactly why people find honeyfunds offensive…you’re asking people to fund something that is you’re own responsibility.
Some people just have no common sense
*proverbial ‘you’ by the way
Post # 8
I don’t understand when it became okay to ask for handouts for pure luxuries.
So many causes on GFM are frivolous and self-involved, but that’s why most do not get funded. My FI went to art school, and his old classmates often post links to funding sites, asking money for cross country trips for some sort of art project. I get that they’ll be photographing their journey, but wtf? Why would I fund another person’s vacation? Save for the things you want like any other normal person.
I do really like kickstarter though, and have contributed to a handful of ventures. I like how you can choose what you’re paying for. I’ve gotten a really innovative part for my bike, a cookbook, a fun board game, and a small clutch that charges my iphone. I do think crowdfunding is great and that it sparks innovation. When an idea does provide value, I don’t hesitate to contribute.
Post # 9
The most interesting ones I’ve seen were shared also on Facebook. which is how I even saw them in the first place as I would never purposely visit the site. A couple is asking for money to fund their attempts at IVF. Another was for adoption fees.
So, I would also then expect these same people to set up new GFM for diapers, formula, education costs…
Aside from EXTREME hardship situations, I find GFM to be no better than panhanding on the street. And actually, probably more unsavory.
Post # 10
Someone I knew posted a GFM to help her make rent after she refused to move in with her parents rent free, but didnt have a steady job and was posting pictures of all the crap she was buying and checking in on Facebook at the movies the day before she was allegedly freaking out about not being able to make rent. People live their lives and expect to not have major consequences like the rest of us. They make bad choices ans know it, and expect other people to pay the bill.
I just ignore it and don’t contribute.
Post # 11
So many people, so much entitlement.
Post # 12
Have you ever heard the phrase “a fool and his money are soon parted”
Basically, if people are dumb enough to contribute to stupid gofundme’s then thats their own problem. If you dont support it, dont donate. Its that simple.
Post # 13
Sheesh, and to think I was going to post one here for my cause but at least now I know not to waste my time Lol not for my wedding though…..
Completely irrelevant but…
Post # 14
Now I will say this::: being one of the people who asked for help when I genuinely need it, its frustrating to see someone got 40,000$ for POTATOE salad, but people have more valid reasons for asking and people call them selfish or poor with money. Its sad.
Post # 15
s2bmzbrown: Sorry, but just so you know, from Weddingbee Terms and Conditions…
viii. We do not allow members to self promote on the boards. This includes but is not limited to the following: links to your personal blog or website (outside of the monthly “Share Your Blogs” thread), contests that you, your friends, or family are a part of, your Etsy shop or other business ventures, your classified ads or other sale items, invite codes for sale sites, and other links that may afford you tangible gain. This also includes links to websites for the purpose of fundraising for charities, political causes, or any other projects or causes, as well as links to online petitions.
<div style=”overflow: hidden; color: #000000; background-color: #ffffff; text-align: left; text-decoration: none;”>Read more: http://www.weddingbee.com/terms-of-use/#ixzz3CMHE5XHm</div>