Post # 1
My SO and I have recognized that while we are content we have been slacking in the wellness department. So we’re trying to be more healthier all around, exercising more and eating differently. I’m definitely the motivator in the effort and I’m okay with that but what I’m finding is getting him to eat better is hard! Go figure.
He’s kinda a plain guy when it comes to food, e.g. a dry salad, no condiments, most ‘sauces’… that kinda thing. I’m a decent cook and could do A LOT of healthy recipes but I think the word quinoa scares him silly. Even things like black beans he would avoid. He WILL try things if I ask nicely…
I think the biggest hurdle in this is lunches. If there aren’t leftovers of some sort he’ll get fast food. This NEEDS to stop. Do you guys have any tips/ ideas of meals I should try or different types of more healthy lunches I could prepare other than dry sandwiches with a side of carrots everyday??
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Try bentos box lunches, it’s not just sushi and Asian food. It’s a good way of packing a healthy lunch with portions big enough to fill you up.
Good ideas here: http://www.laptoplunches.com/bento-menus/
Post # 4
If he’s not opposed to soup, homemade soups are easy and cheap to make, and if you avoid cream soups, they’re low calorie. One of our favorite soups to make is any kind of sausage and any kind of bean— like Mexican chorizo and black beans. You only need about 3 links of sausage for 2 cans of beans, which makes about 6-8 servings, but the flavor is really intense. Easy to take leftover soup for lunch!
Post # 5
@beachbride1216: Oh wow, there are a lot of good ideas to sift through, thanks! It’s definitely important that it’s enough to fill him up too, he’s a hungry 6’4!
Post # 6
@beachbride1216: Oh wow I was looking for something like this site!!
Post # 7
@fishbone: Soups are iffy with him. His favorite? Broccoli and cheddar, sigh. But that soup sounds like something I might like and he could at least try it. What type of beans?
Post # 8
@Leelee26: Does he like soups? You could make some from scratch pretty easily. What about fish? It’s pretty healthy and tastes good without having to make anything too fancy along with it. I’d try baby steps. Quinoa scares me lol (I don’t like the texture!), but I am ok eating rice sometimes (better than mashed potatoes for example). Try working more veggies into every meal, but still keeping the meat and potatoes… just a bit less.
We try to have leftovers for lunch most days, but we always stash some stuff at work… like soups that can be warmed quickly. Yeah it’s not the healthiest thing, but it sure is better than having to go out and buy a burger.
I know you mean well, but I’d be careful and not push him out of his comfort zone too much. My friend was on a healthy eating kick, and tried to practically convert her boyfriend into a vegetarian, was nagging him nonstop, and trying to cut out his diet pop habit. He left her a couple months later. That wasn’t the only reason, obviously, but it was the last straw. Sounds like you both want to make the change, but realize that it won’t happen overnight, and you shouldn’t have to be the one who is hammering at him to do this, that and the other. He’s a grown man and needs to take some responsibility as well.
Post # 9
I have a chicken chili recipe that is very healthy and super hearty…it’s a crockpot recipe so you just throw everything in and wait. Let me know and I’ll get to you if you’re interested.
Overall my Darling Husband is fairly healthy as it is. Mine complains that there is nothing for lunch if there aren’t left overs which means i normally cook to feed an army. When we first got together he was very “I don’t eat this or that.” Once I started cooking new to him things he found that he liked them and became more trusting to eat whatever I’d make.
I don’t really solicit his opinion when I cook anymore. I just cook things…sometimes they are new to him but he’s always game to try things and he knows for the most part whatever I cook, it’s going to be pretty tasty.
Looking back it’s been pretty funny as he’s learned new foods…”OMG! What’s wrong with this okra?! It’s slimey!!!”
Post # 10
@canarydiamond: We both are against most seafood, the texture mostly there as well. I appreciate the forewarning of not pushing and I’m only doing baby steps, for both of us. He really wants to make a change but has said, he’s need the push and accountability. He motivates us to exercise and I’m the push behind the food. So we balance each other pretty well for this!
Post # 11
@peanuthead: hahaha! Did he like the okra though? Your situation sounds pretty close to mine, he trusts whatever I make will be tasty. I guess I don’t want to introduce a bunch of new ingredients at one time, but we definitely need more vegetables in our lives. I would love the chicken chili recipe, perfect time of year!!
Post # 12
@canarydiamond: I definitely hear you on trying to convert a non-healthy eater. I had an ex that would get pissed everytime I added veggies into a casserole. Trying to change someone doesn’t work out well for anyone involved.
This may not be the nicest attitude to have, but if I cook he’s welcome to eat it. If he doesn’t like what I’ve cooked, he can fix his own dinner.
Now that I’m pregnant, it’s interesting how my diet changing has changed his. Thankfully my Darling Husband isn’t a complainer and he’s happy as pie that I cook.
Post # 13
@Leelee26: I’d cooked the okra several times before so he’d learned he liked it. He realized it was slimey one day when he was helping me in the kitchen and I asked him to stir it before I’d added tomatoes to it.
Getting him to trust you is what matters most. Once you’re over that hump, it’s easier to introduce one thing at a time.
Post # 14
I made White Chicken Chili the other night and it was amazing! Seems like it would be a great thing to take to work.
My mom is driving me crazy.
Post # 15
Could you try stir-fry and go slowly on the sauce-first a little bit of plain soy sauce, then slowly add in garlic and other spices? What about burritoes on a whole-wheat tortilla? I know you said he doesn’t eat black beans, but you could stuff if with wild rice and lots of sauteed veggies…or eggs and veggies. Does he like hummus? You could try to pack hummus with pita strips, veggies, feta cheese and black olives.
But as someone who generally like healthy food but also really has an affinity for bacon cheeseburgers and other “bad” stuff, I second (third?) the suggestion to not push him too hard. An occassional trip to McDonald’s isn’t going to kill him. If it’s everyday, yeah that’s bad, but he still has to make the change on his own terms.
Post # 16
@worldtraveler: For a stir fry I would have to take it reeeally slowly. He won’t go near anything with soy sauce (though I marinate steak in a mixture of it). He won’t do bell peppers, or onions, so my ingredient choices may be sparse… There was a thread on here a few days ago about food that makes us gag. Mine? Hummus. It’s challenging. I’m also not going to strip us of all unhealthy foods like delicious cheeseburgers, just adjust how many days a week we are eating stuff like it.
A typical weekly dinner menu *right now* may look something like this:
1) Homemade mac & cheese (I don’t even want to tally the calories in this)…
2) Burgers and a side of broccoli…or tater tots.
3) Manicotti and side of bread
4) Ordering pizza
5) Chicken sandwiches with cheese (homemade, breaded and baked), side of mashed potatoes and corn
6) Going out to a restaurant
7) Beef tacos
All tasty, but could be tweaked. We already eat whole wheat breads and only drink skim milk.