Post # 1
Reason for our Christmas break wedding date: we know it’s right for us. Why is that so hard for people to accept?! 🙁
I am starting to feel the pressure in having to explain myself each and every time someone asks ‘when’s the date?’ because of the look of bewhilderment on their face when I say it’s in December. Their usual response, “THIS year? Wow… don’t you want to wait till you graduate?”
I give the usual reasons being FH and I will already be apart for fall semester and as he is graduated and has a job in the area… it makes no real sense for us to live in different apartments in the same area.
We will be saving money in living together as well as having the wedding in an off-season in our area with our small budget.
Why wait? We’ve been together a long time, are both sure we are supposed to be with the other and are mature enough from living on our own over the past few years.
Post # 3
Good for you! Why wait haha. I’ll be getting married about 2 weeks after graduation so it will be stressful but worth it!
Post # 4
You have to do what is right for the two of you, not what makes sense to other people.
I know a girl that had her wedding and graduation on the same day to make it easier on her family….so it could be worse. 🙂
Post # 5
If you graduate soon and you want a wedding in the off season that is perfectly reasonable. I don’t know why some people always get bent out of shape about that. As long as you can support yourselves financially and are mature enough to get married that should be enough.
Post # 6
I know the feeling. We’re getting married (in three weeks! yay!) the summer after he graduated, and the summer before I do. People question all the time why we aren’t just waiting till I graduate/ we both get jobs/ etc. Honestly, it just works best for us! We’re from different states, so he had to pick a state to take the bar, it just made sense for us to move to the same state and get married! Plus, this is the only break we’ll have left before he gets a job and I have to take the bar, who knows if we’d be able to get a weekend free or have the time to plan. We wanted to get married, not put it off indefinitely. It just works!
I hate explaining, but I’ve gotten so used to the questions I just start explaining before I even get asked haha. I don’t know any way to make it stop, but you know its right, so just explain to people why you’re right and make them feel stupid for asking haha.
Post # 7
@lawschool bride: Law school factored heavily into our decision as well. March in ND is no balmy month, so when I share our date, it’s directly followed with “it falls in my spring break and before my final exams and the bar. We’ll actually get a honeymoon!”
@SimplyChic11: Don’t let them get to you. If everyone would keep their advice to themselves and actually contribute something beneficial, then maybe I’d listen to them 😉 Hehe. You guys do what’s best for you, no need to go beyond a simple ‘it worked out well for us and we’re so excited!’ In fact, I think I’ll be shortening my explanations to that as well.
Post # 8
@indibee: Haha yea we ended up not planning sooo well. Two weeks after he takes the bar, but 1 week before I have to go back to school, oops!
Post # 9
Thanks! I am also wondering how to work a honeymoon in there! 😉 FI and I plan to go back to our apartment near school right after the reception ends. I have a couple weeks till I go back but that would be terrible snow-driving season where we are from. Right now we’re actually waiting to take the honeymoon in May… kind of a huzzah for the wedding and finally graduation!