- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
I am having this problem. My fiance bought a house and asked his sister to move in to help with the bills about 5 years ago, before we were dating. Then we started dating and got engaged and I moved in. His sister is messy (like one of those people on that show “hoarders”) and I am a clean freak…and I picked up for her for a little while, but she has 3 rooms in the house filled to the top with junk, trash, you name it. She is ruining the house and since we are getting married and its going to be our house I asked my fiance to tell her to move out before we actually got married, that way it wouldnt be embarrassing having company over for the wedding and so that we could start a life of our own. I like his sister, I think we could be friends if circumstances were different, but I also think she should get the hint that we are getting married and want our own space. He is too chicken to tell her, he says he doesnt want to “disturb” the family…I guess he thinks his mom will get mad if he tells his sister to leave…but she is 32, she has a job, she can afford it, he just hates confrontation. I dont know if I should tell her myself or just wait around for him to grow some you know what’s….I just dont think he will. Is this just me being selfish?