Post # 1
Has anyone gotten married at city hall or courthouse, etc or are planning to get married there? If you did it already do you regret not doing something more spiritual or personal? What are/were your reasons for choosing a civil ceremony? Me and my FI are seriously considering doing this and just want to hear from other people have have done it or are doing it. Thanks
Post # 4
My husband and I got married at City Hall because he came here on a Visa. We had no idea when he would get here, because we didnt know when he’d get it after the interview. It was special to us, it’ll be our day. However, we are having a huge celebration and vow renewal ceremony in front of all of our family and friends a year from the date we were married as his family and friends werent’ able to visit us at the previous time.
Post # 5
I want to get married at city hall because I want to keep things private and low-key. I think weddings are beautiful, but they are a big undertaking and I’m not interested in planning or funding one. We might jazz it up a bit by getting married on vacation–I’m in love with the San Francisco city hall!
You may want to check the blog as well. I know that at least Mrs. Mary Jane had a city hall wedding. Good luck 🙂
Post # 6
I’m an encore and we got married at a courthouse, just the two of us. We originally planned a DW and are still planning this though it will be a vow renewal. Our reasons are several:
1. We were paying for Cobra health insurance for me and saved about six thousand dollars by not waiting for six months.
2. My ex husband has not and will likely never get past the fact that I left him, especially after he learned I reunited with my first love from age thirteen. My two adult sons are happy for me and like my new husband BUT they did not want to be put in the position of being part of the wedding and having to lie to their father. Our marriage was very tumultuous and I chose not to put them in an uncomfortable position.
3. I really didn’t need or want a big encore wedding. It’s just not me. I’m fifty six and what I wanted is a special day with just the two of us.
We had our courthouse wedding and we made it special. Actually it was very relaxing and intimate. I did not wear my wedding dress, jewelry and silk flowers. Those I am saving for our vow renewal in November in Jamaica.
We actually feel like it all worked out as it was meant to, though not our original plan. A meaningful wedding takes place between two people and the setting is secondary.
Post # 8
The first time I got married was a the county clerks office technically. They didn’t do actual courthouse weddings in my town, per se, but I call it a courthouse wedding.
I will say that I am a very outdoorsy person. I love hiking, camping, etc, so for me to get married indoors was going against my grain. However, at the time, we were just doing it for legality purposes so my ex could get my health insurance (his COBRA had just ran out and he needed immeidate surgeries to save his life – it was a pickle!). We were engaged only 4 days technically, so not much time to plan anything else. The paperwork for the marriage license took longer than the ceremony. They gave us a goodie bag filled with prenatal information (I guess they assume pregnant couples run to the courthouse only – I was a little offended!). The county clerk just stood up from her desk to perform the marriage. It was lackluster I must say.
However, I am not spiritual at all, so a justice of the peace, judge or ordained friend would perform the ceremony.
Now that I have a second chance at marriage, I really really really want to be married outside with gorgeous views surrounding us. Luckily my fiance does too! It will be a secular ceremony, no religious overtones, but still meaningful to us.
Look for JuniperSage’s elopement post. She had hers in a very city-like building, but then a lovely little aftershoot in the woods.
Post # 9
We are doing a courthouse wedding next month, just the two of us and a photographer. Assuming the weather cooperates, we are going to a nearby state park for a picnic and photo session afterwards.
I tried to find a minister to marry us in the park instead but the only interdenominational person isn’t going to be available. This is a pretty traditional small town and we don’t belong to a church anyway, so our plan is fine. We can always exchange more personal/spiritual vows after the civil ceremony.
Post # 10
Not getting married at city hall, but we are having a Justice of the Peace perform the ceremony. If you are concerned about the spiritual aspect, see if any of the JPs will add that portion to the ceremony. I know many around here will if you ask, and they’ll even read scripture if you’d like.
Post # 11
Me & DH got married at the courthoue yesterday!!! I’m so glad we did it. I was simple & cheap..and we took a photographer with us, we had fun. I was afraid I would regret going to the courthouse, but I dont…I’m actualy glad, we saved a ton of money. I kinda of wished it was a little more personal, but I’m happy we are finally married. Goodluck!
Post # 12
@s.renea9: Congrats! Do you have a recap to share?
Post # 13
@sienna76: “They gave us a goodie bag filled with prenatal information (I guess they assume pregnant couples run to the courthouse only – I was a little offended!). “
Post # 14
We got married at the county clerks office and I dont regret it but we are not spiritual. It was really personal though since we got to self officiate which was just so cool, if not for that I dunno if I would have been as happy.
We are still doing a ceremony next year for family (who are aware that we did this beforehand), they are more religious and it means a lot to them. Also to me it would mean a lot to say vows (since we didnt do that).
Post # 15
We are planning a courthouse wedding in September. Just FI, our photographer, and I. It is a second marriage for both, and we were planning a big wedding for next year, but decided…why wait? We both have large families, and trying to include everyone was getting stressful, which is the last thing I wanted. So, it will just be us. We are dressing up, getting flowers, using a professional photographer, and eating wedding cupcakes afterwards. We rented a hotel for the night, and will be going on vacation with my entire family the following day. I am so excited! I know there will be no regrets, because it’s about us and we’ll be married. That’s all I care about.
Post # 16
I did it and I loved it!
No pressure, no stress, just us!
We did it because neither of us wanted to have a wedding.
Post # 17
@MissWaltz: Did you still do a courthouse wedding. I’m trying to decide if we want to do Chicago, Minneapolis or just take off the two of us to another city.