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I'm the middle child in my family, and though my older sibling was going to get married at one point, things fell through. So now I'm engaged and planning a wedding, and it's a little weird sometimes being the first in my family to get married. Just when it comes to comparisons (my aunt actually asked me to make sure I was enough in love with my FI that we wouldn't call off our engagement like the last one!)
Anyway it made me wonder how often people get married in order of birth, and how often that's defied. Are you getting married before your older siblings? Did your younger sibling get married before you? Was it weird?
My sister got married when she was 22 and I was 31 at the time, so yep... It was a little weird and I was kind of worried that she was too young, but they have made it work. They now have 2 beautiful girls. I've always been the relationship challenged one in the family, but finally at 37 it's my turn. :)
I'm the youngest of 3 girls and the first to get married (the other two aren't even close). I'm sure my sisters think I'm too young, but at the same time they adore my fi and wouldn't tell me not to get married. I think the main reason why I'm the first is because my parents had a real messy divorce, but I was too young to even realize what was going on whereas my sisters were affected by it.
I"m in the middle of five kids, I'm the only girl and the last one to get married. No one got married in any sort of order: Boy #3 married HS sweetheart first, #1 boy married some chick and divorced before boy #2 got married. Boy #5 got married and now GIRL (#4) is on the waiting boards. I don't know how they all felt, but it was exciting each and every time! (well except brother #1 but he's a headcase and I need a book for that!)
My little brother got married a little less than a year before me (but I wasn't even engaged yet). He had been engaged to his fiancee (now wife) for 2 years in a long distance relationship, whereas I had a 7 month engagement. I think it is just different for each person. I was a little jealous that he was getting married, but mostly I was just happy for him!
I have three older siblings and I was the first to get married. Mr. HC is the middle and he was also the first - so we were very out of order in our families, but based on the role each of has always played in our family dynamics and the amount of time we had been together, it totally made sense! It might have been a little weird to my older siblings though.
Im in the middle of my two brothers and the first to get married. My brothers are both nowhere near getting married.
I am the baby of two, older brother 30 and I am 28. I am married and he is not really close to marriage. But I think it was expected for me to get married first seen as Mr. M and I have been together for 7 years and Bro has never brought a girl home!
My sister (who is two years younger than I am) got engaged last summer and is currently planning her wedding for July this year. I probably will be engaged soon and we're planning our wedding for February 2012. So, even though it's over lapping a bit, my younger sister will be married first. I don't think it's that weird. I hadn't really thought about it until now.
my sister is 22 months younger than me, and she got married before me. it didn't bother me, though, i was happy for her and honored to be her MOH! :)
I'm the middle and the first to get married. I don't think my older brother cares and no one has really made any comments, I think they all knew this was going to happen.
I am the youngest of two children. My brother is 28, and he is not getting married any time soon. I actually asked him one time how he felt about it because I told him that if the roles were reversed then I would be upset. He told me he has no problem with it at all, and he didn't even think about it.
I'm 22 and will be just shy of 23 when I get married. When I get married my brother will be 28. We were also very close to getting married first before his brother (who is 26, his wife is 23 - my fiance is about a month and a half older than me) but they chose a much shorter relationship before engagement then a much shorter engagement. I don't think my brother cares. I think his brother would have secretly been upset if we had gotten married before he found someone though.
there is no real hard and fast rule about who gets married in what order, or who has children in what order. My sister is 8.5 years older than me & though she was married before I was, I had a kid before her (& before she was married).
Life happens.
My brother got married before me. He is two years younger than me, I wasn't even engaged at the time. It was not a big deal at all.
I'm the youngest of two, and he will be getting married a year after me. He thought it was weird, but got over it. It's not like he is far behind.
I'm the middle of five kids. My older brothers got married in birth order (I was not of marrying age back then). Then my brother who is 14 months younger than me was married 3 years before me. It didn't bother me at all since I had just started dating my now husband. But my sister who is 9 years younger than me was engaged a week before I was to someone she had only been dating for a few months. My husband and I had been dating 3 years and I knew a proposal was coming soon. So that stung pretty bad (especially because my parents knew my husband was going to propose and pushed my sisters fiance' to go ahead and propose too). Fortunately my sister chose a long engagement so I will be married 8 months by the time of her wedding. I'm mostly over the frustration now.
i'm the youngest of two. my brother doesn't have a problem with it because he really has no interest in getting married...he's lived with his gf for awhile, and marriage just isn't their priority.
fi actually went in order! second child, second wedding.
My husband is 2 years younger then his older brother, and got married before him. I don't think it was weird, we dated for a quite a while and his brother hasn't had a girlfriend, so everyone knew we would obviously get married before him.
My FI is the youngest of three, his middle sister is married and his oldest sister is engaged but we will be getting married before her. It's kind of weird we will be getting married first, but she's been engaged for a year and a half and hasn't made a single plan, picked a date, or even decided if she wants a wedding or just to elope. We're not waiting around on her to get married if she's not going to make an effort to plan a wedding. I feel kind of like I'm steamrolling over her by planning our wedding, but I think I'd be waiting forever if I let her get married first.
I'm the baby in the family. My older brother is married, but my sister, the middle child, isn't. I always wanted her to be married before me, but I wasn't going to stop my plans b/c she hasn't found her one yet. She was amazing during our wedding planning and wedding, showing nothing but support and excitement. She said people would always ask her how she felt about having her baby sister get married and that was annoying b/c she was happy for me and thinks my husband is perfect for me.
Now I'm dealing with a whole new issue... I'm the first to be pregnant! It's weird for me b/c growing up I had siblings to do things before me so I could learn from them and go to them for advice. But they have no clue what I'm going through.
I'm the oldest and was married first (I was 23). My sister is the middle child and will be married in August (she'll just be turning 24). My brother is the baby and I don't see him getting married for awhile. :)
My oldest sister was married first (almost 29 years ago), then my youngest brother (7 years ago), then my youngest sister (this past September). I am next at bat and that will leave my 2 unmarried older sisters and my older brother who remain single.
For me it wasn't weird at all. I planned both weddings for my younger siblings and enjoyed being able to do that for them.
I have one older brother who is just now starting his first relationship at 31... he is happy for me and fine with it.
I wonder if there's a difference between boys and girls at all. I don't think my older brother has any problem with me getting married first now, because he's in no rush. But if my younger sister got married before me, I would've been secretly upset. It's just that we're both girls and she's always been the gorgeous one who's had a million admirers, which I've always had a little bit of a complex about. But it's quality over quantity, because I found the right one. And I think everyone's really happy for me.
My younger sister got married at 23 and I was 27. My cousin got married when we were 26 and her brother was 29....its nt that big of a deal I don't think people are getting married older now.
I'm getting married next year and I will be 29, almost 30. I'm almost thankful I didn't get married earlier. I feel like I am finally ready, although I was in a relationship, I don't think I was even close to being ready then.
i'm the youngest of two kids, my brother is 18 months older;) but, yes, i will be married before him. he's lived with his gf for a few years, but they are no where near getting married.
I'm the baby, and I'm getting married first. Granted I have an older brother, so I doubt he cares much. He actually told our parents that he doesn't ever see himself getting married (he's 28), so my getting married first isn't an issue. :-)
Although I do feel sad for my mom. She so badly wants my brother to get married! lol
I'm the oldest out of 2 siblings and will be getting married first. My brother is 4 1/2 years younger than me, and it's not really an issue for him, as he doesn't even have marriage on his radar yet.
Hubby and I are the youngest and the first to get married. None of our siblings are even close to getting married. Everyone knew that we would probably be first since we have been dating for 7.5 years.
My half brother (16 years older than I am) has been married and divorced twice, before I even met FI. Now we're both engaged at the same time! First wedding for me, third for him.
My sister is nearly 6 year younger than me and was married 2 years ago (she just turned 24 at the time). I'll be married one week after her 3 year anniversary (I'll be 32). Fortunately our family never put any pressure on either one of us to get married, nor did they point out that she was getting married first. However I did wind up in the bathroom crying my eyes out for a solid 10 min in between the ceremony and reception. :-)
My sis did before I did and it was all good! I was totally into helping her and had no ill feelings or anything really...just happy for her!
I had a blast planning her bachelorette party and the tales of after and what happened that night still resonate almost two decades later! (we met the Chippendales dancers that night and they bought US all the food and drinks at a popular piano bar). They were really nice and off duty and had a blast hanging with us. Our pictures have gone down in bachelorette history and all of us gals who attended still have that souvenier of the famous night.
my younger brother got married before me. It didn't bother me in the least, because:
-I'm on the young-side-of-average for marriage, so I don't have any "Christmas cake" issues. My brother and his wife were a young groom and young bride (total outliers).
-When their wedding took place, my fiance and I had been engaged for a while. I think this was key to not being insecure about a younger sibling married first. If I'd been between relationships at their wedding I would have (secretly) been a ball of emo.
-My brother and SIL had been dating since they were teenagers! I don't see them getting married first as "cutting in line" because of the length of their relationship.
-They totally love one another, and it's so cute! Even if I'd been 40 and brought my cat for a date, I was just too busy that night being happy for them to think about myself.
Also, I"m guessing a younger sister getting married first is different than a younger brother getting married first.
I am getting married before my older sister, although she was engaged before I was (and broke it off). We're not really close, but I know it was a sensitive subject for her, so I'm not really sure how she feels... she has been rather distant.
I was married before an older sister. I think it would be weird if I was really young or if she even cared about that sort of thing. She liked help plan a wedding since she had no plans of her own anytime soon.
My much older sister was married in her late 20's, but she's long divorced and came out to us a few years ago, she is in a long-term relationship with her partner.
My older brother is 27 and has been with his girlfriend nearly as long as my fiance and I have been, they are nowhere near engaged...he's not ready for marriage.
I am the baby at 25
My brother (he's 3 years younger) got engaged and married before me. He proposed to his now wife after they had been dating for 5 years; I had only just started dating my FI at the time, so there was no way I could be angry, jealous, or upset about that!
i am about to turn 28, and my fiance will turn 26 days after our wedding. he has an older sister (29) who isn't married.
Well, I won't have sibling problems, but my older cousing (by about four years) has a problem with it. She has been with her BF now for four years, and I have been with my FI for two. She told me one day to not get married before her, and it sounded like a threat lol. But, I got engaged and she hasn't really talked to me since. She thinks I'm too young (I'm 21, she's 25). Although, if it was her, she would have been the one getting married at 21, too. Eh, it's awkward, but if you know it's right, it's right.
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