- 5 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
Back story. FI is military and this is our second attempt to try a full blown wedding. The first time, he was called for deployment 14 days before our original wedding date. He left three days after we were notified of the deployment. We lost all of our deposits and just said we would wait til he came back and try again. Fast foward to him coming home and they moved us to another military post here in Texas.
So we put off the wedding until we were settled here. We started planning, but didnt make any major announcements since with the military you just never know. This time we booked a venue, got everything set for April and then were told that he has to certify a unit that is deploying at the end of April and that was a no go. BTW FI does a very specialized job in the army. There are only three other people in the army who does what he does.
We were told he would be good to go for a june wedding. So I called all the vendors and asked them if they could move everything to June and because we are military they all agreed with no penalties. Fast forward to a week ago, FI has to do a short 6 month deployment starting at the end of February. He wont even be here for the June wedding.
So FI said perhaps we should just do a simple courthouse ceremony and get it done with because it seems we are never going to find the right time. I know that marrying him is more important than the dress, the church, flowers and all that other stuff, but at the same time I am sad because my mother wont be able to come. I asked her if she could come for the wedding at the courthouse because she is my mom and I want her there, but because my brother in law is having surgery she cant come because she will taking care of their children while he is in the hospital.
I am just wearing a tea length white gown, carrying a calla lilly for each of our children. His parents will be there and one friend is coming to stand with me and she will video the ceremony on a cell phone and we will send it to my mom.
Then we are going on a mini moon to a place a few hours away for an overnight stay at a bed and breakfast. I love FI and want to marry him but at the same time Im sad because again Im giving up my dream of having a really nice wedding with 40 people. I already called the vendors, and cancelled.
FI said perhaps we can have a vow renewal when he comes home and the whole family will come. FI isnt upset because he said he doesnt care how we get married as long as we get married.
Sorry for being so long…just had to vent.