Post # 1
Hey fellow brides … any tips for a smooth wedding planning?
My wedding is in 5 months (Oct), and it’s going to be an oversea wedding at my home country. I would be able to go back to my home country only two months prior to the wedding (Aug), but in the meantime I would have to plan everything from here (the U.S.).
Right now, aside from the wedding reception venue (which my mom already booked for me), I haven’t got anything else nailed down … No photographer, no idea of what kind of cake/invitation/decor/flower/dress/bridesmaid dress that I would like to have. I feel very much overwhelmed by the variety of choices available out there, and have a hard time narrowing down and making decisions. Plus, because the planning has to be done long distance, it only adds to the complexity of the planning…
Any tips to make wedding planning go easier and not overwhelming? Especially oversea wedding? I’m afraid that one day I will wake up to find that I’m only a month away from the wedding date and yet still without a dress/cake/photographer. What a disaster it would be! 🙁
Post # 3
I am in almost the same situation. I am planning from overseas and I can’t plan our wedding a year+ out because of our visa situation. We are executing things the month of the wedding. But we are having a backyard wedding and doing a lot of DIY so we don’t have a lot of vendors thus not a lot of pressure to get things done on other peoples schedule.
I think first, you need to nail down a solid concept for your wedding. For us, Japan is a big part of our relationship so we nailed that down. We are doing cherry blossoms, red, white, black, and pink colors, lanterns, etc. It was very overwhelming and we went through a million ideas before settling on the one that was ultimately the most “us”. You could do something like that. Or you could base your concept off of your venue- is it rustic, tropical, a garden? If you’ve got a foundation you are ready to run with it’ll be easier to start execution. Then look at wedding websites and magazines for inspiration and pick out what you like, and send pictures to your vendors. That’s how I’ve been doing it anyway, since I’m overseas and can’t express my ideas face-to-face and suck at words anyway.
I think there’s also an amount of reality involved. I pretty much stopped looking at things that are not helpful for a backyard wedding. I’ve developed a sort of tunnel vision towards what I want and needs to be done. It’s easy to get overwhelmed when you consider a million possibilities- but when you think about budgets, venue limitations, time constraints, local resources, things become a little clearer. Speaking of local resources, really start looking at vendors in the area. Almost every wedding website has a local vendors section where you can read reviews and profiles, even right here on the bee!
Have you considered hirig a coordinator? If we had the money we definitely would have! I’m sure that would make things a million times easier!
Post # 4
agree with kristin for nailing down a solid concept for ur wedding and sourcing local vendors, definitely that’s way to start to plan your wedding.
if ur wedding party is in big scale, u might want to look for a pro wedding organizer. mine was done overseas as well, however it’s just a small scale event and so all my sisters were helping out. i did source the local vendors few months prior to event; then arrived earlier before d-day to finalise everything. if u think u can handle everything (plus the last minute stress in making sure everything is fine) then u dont need a wedding organizer, however if budget is not a contraint; go for one…..chill out n enjoy ur big day:)
Post # 5
The things you need to reserve ASAP are your dress, Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, photographer/videographer, DJ, and any other entertainment. Then start thinking about your invitations, and have them complete by the time you leave the country, and mail them after you go to the other country. If there are any guests who live here, then mail those before you leave to save on postage. 🙂
Whatever you can shop for here, start shopping for right now: your dress and accessories, and the dresses for your BMs if they live here. When you order your dress, make sure the salon can arrange with the designer to have the dress arrive before you leave the country. Then maybe you can hire a tailor overseas to fit your dress.
I’ve heard of people who hire a photographer and pay for them to fly to the destination wedding; would you do the same thing? If not, perhaps your mom can find a good photographer for you. It would probably be a good idea for your mom to find a florist too, although you don’t have to work the details out yet of what you want. Just reserve your date on their calendar for now.
The things that can wait until you travel there two months before are the cake, miscellaneous decorations, favors, card box, and all that extra stuff that would be too big to take on a plane anyway. Also you can probably reserve the tuxes at that time too.
The most helpful thing for me planning my wedding was this organizer I bought. It gave timelines for what needed to be done when, a budget calculator, checklists, and charts to keep track of vendor contact info and payments I’ve made to them.
Good luck with your wedding!!
Post # 6
Start by making a very long list of everything that needs to be done. That way you can make sure it all gets done.
Things to start with – your dress (if you don’t have it) and bridesmaids dresses. You can easily do that here and both require months of lead time (and you want them both to come in a month before the wedding).
The next thing to take care of is invitations and save the dates.
You also need to get a solid idea of what you want. This is a process and your vision will evolve over time. Not to worry, this is normal.
Post # 7
Thanks fellow bees … I really feel the emotional support … I literally copy and paste your advices so I can print them out as reminder, lol!
Some of you suggested the use of checklist from magazines/the net, and the truth is I tried them all, including the Google wedding documents, but they didn’t work for me … seeing how much there are to be done just making me dizzy all over. But reading your suggestions have given me ideas as to what are actually the key things and what needs to be done right away. I think I’ll start from there …
I guess I do have one thing that work for me, that is the wedding would be on a weekday, so I need not worry about securing certain vendors for fear that they will be booked up. But still, vendors have to be booked, dresses tried on, and I realize it’s time I give myself a kick in the butt to actually start getting things done! No more procrastinating, wish me luck!
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