Getting married in 9 Days. Insecure freakout…

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: April 1995

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Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The only thing going throgh people’s minds at the wedding is how beautiful you look.  No one cares about an extra few pounds.  Really.  If you try to get wrapped up in this idea of perfection, you’re going to be so preoccupied on your wedding day that you just won’t enjoy it.

Spoiler alert: Something will go wrong.  Not every detail will be perfectly as you planned.  There is beauty in imperfection.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@MsChandler:  I understand, there is a lot of pressure.  I get it too.  “Why are you drinking pop, don’t you want to loose weight?”  (Pop is my only big addiction, I can’t cold turkey it yet!)

Most I think are in good intention, most wanting to help.  They weren’t trying to hurt you!  I found that the stress and pressure really does get to you.  I seen it in other brides that I help, I now see it now in myself.  We tend to carry our emotions a little higher to the surface.  Hang it there.  I’m super stressed too for other ways.  Don’t take it personally, if it hurts, cry if you have too then get up, forgive and move on.  Be the bigger person. 🙂

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Women are so hard on themseleves all the time, but especially before they get married. DO NOT listen to those people who ask you stupid questions like that. I am sure these people are not perfect. Nobody is. If people are judging you when you walk down the isle, that is their problem and that just makes them ugly on the inside and out.

Don’t stress over this. This is a happy time for you. You will be and feel beautiful on your day and your FI will be blown away 🙂 No one else matters but you and him

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

Ugh I can’t even believe people said those kinds of things to you. You are doing the correct and healthy thing by taking it slow and sustainably losing weight and you should be so proud of that healthy mindset. I promise the ONLY thing your guests are going to be thinking is how happy and beautiful you look walking down the aisle.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@MsChandler:  Ugh people are ridiculous.  Please please do not assume that these comments mean that you aren’t at a good weight for you or that you don’t look fantastic.  I’m on the skinny side but I swear to you, the general public is equally divided (and far too vocal) about what I should do about my weight for the wedding.  I’ve had people say “oh you better not try to lose any weight for the wedding” and then 2 hours later someone will ask “are you dieting for the wedding?”  People ask this of everyone, you could be an olympian with the body of a Greek statue and people would make these stupid comments because stupid people are unoriginal and have nothing unique to say.  Time to post a photo in your wedding dress and let us go on about how drop-dead gorgeous you are (because I’m sure you are, and if your avatar photo is you then you’re stunning).

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MsChandler:  I lost weight but not as much as I planned to for my wedding.  The important thing is that I felt great – and I was 100% secure in my relationship.  Dont worry about what everyone else expects or thinks – be grateful for what you have and look at the big picture – you’re getting MARRIED!

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MsChandler:  Funny you mention this because I’ve had the same thoughts and feelings over not being seen as perfect. So I brought this up to my therapist and she laughed in my face and told me to get over it! At first, I was like, “WTH!” and then, when she explained that sooooooo many women put immeasurable stress on ourselves for ONE DAMN DAY to fit in a dress we will wear for ONE DAMN DAY is the most ridiculous thing EVER!

So after I had a chance to think about it, I piped up that if FH and I decided to get married that very day, I’d be happy with who I am. Am I perfect? NO! I’m not going to be perfect when I lose another 70lbs either. To put this much stress on ourselves is crazy. I buy into what my therapist said and decided that I’m going to try to enjoy the process of getting healthy more than I’m going to beat myself up for not being perfect, slipping up, missing a work out, etc.

I hope you have a fabulous wedding day. All eyes will be on you with only love and joy for you on their brains… nothing else.

 


ETA: Should someone criticize me about my weight, I hope I have the courage to go BRIDEZILLA on their ass. Fuckers.

 

Post # 12
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Busy bee

@MsChandler:  honey you will be fine. no one cares about weight on your wedding day. you will be beautiful, you will be too preoccupied noticing the expression on your husbands face when you are walking down the aisle to notice anyones possible negative reactions (not that there will be any, there WON’T BE)and I guarantee you that he will look at you like a Queen.

just breathe, everything will be fine. no one is gonna be talking about that last 10 pounds you didnt lose. trust me. a wedding is a celebration !!! dont let this get in the way of you enjoying it !

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@MsChandler:  I love the colours in your dress! Sigh, so pretty.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MsChandler:  ooooooooh I love your dress!!! you look great girl

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@MsChandler:  DUDE, you have no weight to lose, and you look killer in your dress (which is gorgeous by the way).

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