Post # 1
This is my first post on Weddingbee…I have to say, I am addicted already! 🙂
I got engaged on December 18, 2010, and my fiance and I are struggling to come up with a date. He graduated with his Bachelor’s in 2009 and has worked full-time since then. I graduate with my Bachelor’s on May 5 of this year, have the summer off, and then HOPEFULLY will be attending a 2-year Master’s program in Speech-Language Pathology in the fall. I won’t find out until probably March or April if I have gotten in. And boy was the application process just crazy!! Anyways, that’s beside the point.
We are unfortunately unable to do a summer wedding, but if I get into graduate school, our next possible option is December, which is the date we are really pulling for. I just go back and forth because I am concerned I won’t be able to pull off a wedding following my first semester of graduate school, and not only that, having it in December as well!
I am completely overwhelmed…we’re not waiting until after my program to get married, that has already been decided, so it is now just a question of when during the program. I do not even have summers off, however, because it is a 6-semester continuous program, so that doesn’t leave me any huge chunks of time to have a wedding.
Is there ANYONE who has had a wedding following the first semester of their graduate program? And also, what are thoughts on a December wedding? We were also tossing around the idea of getting married during Spring Break…any help or advice would be GREATLY appreciated!!
Post # 3
the thing you realize after grad school is that life after grad school is not neccesarily easier. unfortunately life never really slows down after college 🙂
have your wedding whenever you want it. you’ll figure out how to handle the details!
Post # 4
First, congratulations on your engagement!
I think you’ll be fine to have it in December since you’ll have all summer to take care of a lot of the planning. I’m getting married June 4 and I’m currently in my second year of law school. I’ve only been engaged since mid-August, so all of my planning is taking place while I’m in school but it’s really not too bad. This coming semester is going to be really busy for me (writing my equivalent of a thesis in addition to all the normal classes) but I really don’t think finishing up the planning will be too bad.
Personally, if I were you, I would prefer to have the wedding in December rather than spring break. Unless your spring break is more than the typical one week, I would feel really rushed having it over spring break and in the middle of a semester (who knows what will be going in your classes in the weeks around break). Since you have the option of December, when I assume you’ll have more time off, I’d go for it.
Good luck with school & with planning! =)
Post # 5
I am a second year master’s student and my wedding will be taking place a week after spring break. I am in the process of applying to PhD programs right now, which is insane!!! But I haven’t felt too overwhelmed. If you plan everything out early enough you will be fine. By the month of my wedding I will be moving to a new apartment, I will be either figuring things out with my doctoral program or trying to find a full-time teaching job and I’ll be anxious about the wedding. People say I’m crazy to plan a weddding during a semester that is filled with so many other life-changing decisions, but I think I can handle it all as long as all the wedding stuff is done by then. My point is that timing is everything. If you like things done you won’t have a problem.
Post # 6
@goldelox84: if you like things done ~early~
Post # 7
yes it’s fine to get married while in grad school. lots of people do it. should be easier your first semester since you’ll just have coursework and won’t really be into doing research or writing your thesis. get most of your planning done before you start your grad program if you can.
Post # 8
@goldelox84: Yes…I mean, I will have to work over the summer in some capacity, but that still gives me close to 4 months free from school to do wedding planning. So, you’re right, early planning will definitely help 🙂
I guess I wasn’t sure if doing alot most of the planning during the summer would work like I wanted it to, because that would still leave 3-4 months before the wedding, and there’s just stuff you can’t do a couple months out from the wedding. I am just concerned that many important details can only be done closer to the wedding and that it will all pile up arond the end of the semester.
But, I know it can be done! Really, if that’s when we want to get married, it can happen. It will mean working things a little bit differently, perhaps, but it can still work 🙂 And to be honest, as excited as I am for the wedding, I am mainly just looking forward to sharing a life with the man that I love, so even if we have to make sacrifices on some things we want wedding-wise, it won’t matter in the end 🙂
Post # 9
Well, I too am HOPEFULLY about to start graduate school for Speech-Language Pathology! Just curious, what school are you doing your undergrad at? I just finished at Cal State Fullerton.
But anyways, I think it will be okay. We are thinking we may just take a small honeymoon for now and then take a really nice one once things get less hectic with school. You will be able to do it. Especially once you are done w your undergrad! Believe me, I know how much work Comm Disorders is!
Post # 10
@Leesh: Oh how awesome, another SLP person! 🙂 I have to explain to so many people what the field is…do you get alot of people asking you what on earth it is that you do? And I am finishing up at the University of South Florida, and, if accepted, I will be attending the same school for the graduate program. Where have you applied?
I’m also kinda along the same lines with you as the honeymoon…we are hoping to get about a week, but we will see how it goes. If it doesn’t pan out to be as long as we want, we will plan another trip as soon as we can.
Yeah, I’m hoping the summer months I have off will be enough!! I just have to remain confident 🙂 When are you and your FI planning to get married?
Post # 11
@smiley90: You’re absolutely right. Things get hectic right before the wedding. Are you going to be a DIY bride? If that’s the case than you will certainly have much more work to do than other brides in the last few months do, but I really think it’s all doable. I also think that the first semester is probably easier than the restm will be, so you should be fine 🙂 Good luck with everything!
Post # 12
I’m currently in my first semester of grad school and have been planning a wedding. We did have a two year engagement though so that has helped some. If you will have more time off during the summer then December doesn’t seem like a bad idea, especially if you have a nice long winter break. During the summer you should be able to take care of all the big details & most of the smaller details, then just take all the other projects and make a schedule for while you’re in school. If you break down projects into smaller tasks it won’t be as bad. I have to admit right now I’m a little stressed as I have large papers due every week from now till February and the bridesmaids dresses which I hoped to get sorted out during the holidays still have yet to be picked out or ordered. I am trying to not let that bother me though and instead am focusing on the time I do have for planning. I’m not going to lie it is pretty stressful but I’d be stressed anyways, so its not to bad. Best of luck picking a date (Just a heads up, don’t worry about making everyone happy with your date. That can be an even bigger pain).
Post # 13
Congrats on the engagment first of all! I got engaged two days after you and just finished my first semester in a Stats grad program. I don’t know what your program will be like but I taught a class and took 9 credits this last semester (full load for my program) and was super busy, but trust me you will find time to plan. There will be days you won’t have the brain energy to put in effort but, at least in my case, those were in the minority. We are planning an October wedding (yup, right smack dab in the middle of the semester) because we wanted fall but weren’t willing to wait until I finished my program. It is definitely do-able, especially if you have the summer off before you start your program. Just try to get some important stuff (venue, photographer, etc) done before you start back from winter break (assuming you are not on the quarter system) and then use your weekends wisely. Again, as long as you have good time management skills which I assume you do because you are planning on attending graduate school, you’ll be fine! Good luck and again, congratulations!
Post # 14
I’m in grad school right now. We got engaged in October and will be getting married in June. I have this summer off but I will be actively in classes during the whole planning process. Honestly, it hasn’t been that bad, and I take 4 classes and work 30 hours a week. The hardest part has been figuring out when FH and I are off at the same time to go to appointments, register, etc. We picked an all inclusive venue so that has helped a lot since its fewer decisions and fewer people to meet with. I would try to avoid doing a ton of DIY. I’m very crafty but I’ve let go of Tue idea of making a ton of stuff since I don’t have time and don’t need the stress. I think December would be perfect since the break is usually long, or even early January.
Post # 15
Last December, I took a final on monday, drove 9 hours to our wedding site and got married the following Saturday! Here’s what I learned about planning and being in school –
Make sure you know when all your finals are, and tell the professors that you’re getting married right after – some may be flexible enough to let you take their exams early!
Hire a DOC, at least!! You will be too frazzled from school to be able to handle all the details, so you really want to have someone else in charge.
Do as much as you can in the summer, particularly since this is your first semester. It’s just not going to be possible to get away as much as you’d like to focus on wedding stuff.
Post # 16
Ah, more speechies! I’ve just wrapped up my grad school application process as well, thank God! I’m way up in the frigid midwest, though.
My fiance and I are waiting until I finish up with grad school, which actually works perfectly for us because he will graduate at the same time. Even though it seems like it’s eons away, I am actually intending to get some serious planning done this summer and attempt to secure the rest of it over next winter break. I figure that with him being in school as well, my following summer containing a full classload, and our final semester both being off on externships, if we get the brunt of it done early we will both be MUCH happier. I think if you hit the ground running (and obviously, depending on the size/formality of your wedding, this could be easier) you should be able to have a fabulous wedding without TOO much stress. Congratulations!!