Getting married in Law School

posted 3 years ago in College
  • poll: When's the best time to get married in law school?
    Summer after 1L : (3 votes)
    21 %
    Summer after 2L : (4 votes)
    29 %
    Summer after 3L : (5 votes)
    36 %
    Winter/spring break during 2L : (2 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 2
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    Worker bee

    Do not do 2L or 3L summer (big girl job summer & bar exam). Unless you do it right after you pass the bar exam (often there is enough time for people to have a ‘bar trip’ during which you could get married. The 2 L summer depends on if you get a big law firm job but with the angst of people on Law Review and the potential of it, I would just keep that summer for working. 1L summer is great if you have time (are you a clerk?). 

    Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    There will be absolutely no time to plan a wedding before 1L summer. I would take the longer time during 2L/3L to plan and definitely wait until after the bar to get married and take a honeymoon.

    Post # 4
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    70 posts
    Worker bee

     

    inyoureyes89:  hey I’m in the same boat as you. Still trying to decide.

    Post # 6
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    2661 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’d do Christmas break your 2L year.

    Post # 7
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    244 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    inyoureyes89:  I am currently doing this. We planned it for christmas break of my 3L year. Honestly i know about 10 different classmates planning/already planned their wedding during the year and it is manageable. Summer break is probably better than winter (it worked out for our schedules but is very stressful.)

    It was important to me to do it before bar prep/gradutation when things would get crazier, as most of my classmates have done BUT it definitly is manageable!!

     

    Post # 8
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    46 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I know people who have done all of the options, and I think all are managable, except for the summer after 3L.  That’s just crazy if you’re taking the bar.  If I had to get married during law school (knowing what I know now), I’d pick the summer after 1L, but thats because 2L was my hardest year (between law review, moot court, ect.) and busiest summer.  I didn’t think 1L was as bad as everyone else cracks it up to be.

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I would plan during your 3L year and get married during spring reading week, or right after the bar exam. Everyone seems to check out for 3L anyway. Then you can have a break and take a honeymoon before starting as an associate. I summered at firms in both 1L and 2L, and there’s no way I could have planned a wedding at the same time. It does depend on the type of job you have, but most people who have gotten married in my program leave it to right after the bar exam, with all the planning in 3L.

    Post # 10
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    2726 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Do you have a “not at all” or after “summer of 3L” option ? They are all workable but tough

    Post # 11
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    1242 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

    flowercrowns:  this is pretty much exactly what i did. we got engaged the summer after 2L. I got married April of 3L (not during spring break). We basically were on a mission to meet with and choose all the major vendors before 3L started (venue, flowers, photographer, dj, etc) and were successful by scheduling multiple appointments on the weekends. we went on our honeymoon right after the bar exam, so it was something to look forward to after such a stressful summer studying. personally, i know there is NO WAY i would have wanted to or had the discipline to study if i was getting married shortly after the bar exam; i wouldve been too distracted planning. good luck and if you don’t stress easily (and i assume you don’t as you’re going to law school lol), you’ll manage regardless when you decide. 

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    mixtaperomance:  it also depends on where you live! In Ontario, where I live, getting into law school is the hard part, and studying for the bar is done in 4 weeks after end of exams, with law school graduation in between the solicitor and barrister exams. We are set to get married in June, after I write the sol/bar exams, then I’ll have 4 weeks off before the start of articling (which is in August). There would be no time to get married before the bar for us, since two weeks after end of term, we write one exam, then write the next two weeks later. 

    Suffice to say, regardless of where you live, most people do not get married in 1L and 2L, even in the summers, because it’s just too stressful.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

    flowercrowns:  also very true, I was assuming OP is in the states but I realize now that may not be the case. 

    Also just wanted to add (bc I’m not sure it was clear in my original post), we got married during 3L, before graduation/final exams. At least in NY, you want/need every minute to study after graduation so I wouldn’t have dreamed of planning a wedding after graduating but before the bar exam.

    Post # 14
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    108 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    This is so funny because one of the first threads I started on this Board was asking when I should get married in law school! And now I can be the one to answer that question. haha

    I would do it either winter or spring break of 3L but it depends on what activities you have as a 3L (which obviously you won’t know for a while). My wedding is in early September and I graduated in May. I planned mostly during 3L until finals and then didn’t do anything again until this August (after the Bar). I don’t start work until end of October which gives me a full month to do all the wedding stuff and then almost 2 months after the wedding to honeymoon and unwind. My 3L was extremelly busy with law review board, moot court, and clinic. It was even a struggle to plan during the year for me. I basically tried to devote one day a month to wedding planning. For me that involved just booking the vendors and making decisions with them. I’m not doing any DIY stuff though. I had no desire to do that and no time. If you have less going on as a 3L, then any break during that year would be perfect and it’s what several of my friends did. 

    I got engaged early in my 2L year and didn’t even try to plan a wedding for earlier than this September. 2L year is crazy busy with job searching, journal, and other activities. I started as a summer associate at my firm 3 days after finals ended and worked until a few weeks before school started again. There was really no time. 

    Good luck! 

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    inyoureyes89:  My FI is in law school and we’re getting married in early June after his 2L year. Ideally, we wanted late May (for the same reasons you said), but our venue only had early June available. He’s in the midst of interviewing for firm jobs now, but because we’re getting married in the city we already live in, he won’t really need to take any time off. We’re not going on our honeymoon until August, when he’s finished his summer associate position.

    Obviously, he’s the guy, so he isn’t as involved with wedding planning, but another (female) classmate of his is planning a wedding for the week after ours. It’s definitely doable!

    I also think it depends on how you do during your 1L year. My FI is in the top 10% of a very good school, with an IP background and is on law review, so he has an excellent shot for a firm job. That means he could slack off a little more during his 2L year, if he needed to, to plan a wedding (not saying you should, but 1L really matters so much more than the other years when you want to go into big law).

    Good luck! Law school, and especially 1L year, really sucks.

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