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I got engaged in December and was extremely excited. My fiance and I had been together for the past 4 years and we are finally ready to get maried and then start a family.
We decided to start looking at reception locations immidiatly and found our dream location at a wonderful country club that was exactly US!!! They even had a number of dates available this summer so we jumped on July 9th, 2011 because it worked with our schedules and time off. We couldn't be happier with our time and date choice. We don't want to wait a year and a half to get married so this summer seemed perfect.
When I told two of my bridesmaids my plans and date picked, they seemed shocked that I would have the audacity to get married so soon. They even managed to make me cry 
They seemed to think I wouldn't get everything I wanted because I would be doing this so quickly. I explained to them the reasons why we didn't want to wait, and that we allready found the location, DJ, photogrpaher already and were well on our way to getting things moving right along.
Am I crazy for getting married this fast? This seems so doable to myself and everyone else exept these two bridesmaids. Maybe I just overreacted to their concern??
6 months is plenty of time. How did they manage to make you cry? Are they usually that judgmental?
It's probably going to be slightly more difficult, but you'll be fine! I've been engaged for about six months now, and pretty much everything I've done so far except for some DIY projects could have been done in a few days of concentrated wedding productivity. I would skip the STDs because they're a huge time sink and take maybe two days off work to visit all your vendors. If you can, try to book them all asap. You'll be fine, try not to let them get you down!
You can totally do it! You already have a lot of the things that often need to be booked further in advance. Six months is a good amount of time. Tell your bridesmaids to stuff it or they can't be bridesmaids.
Don't feel bad for it - it's plenty of time and you already have the hardest parts picked out. You're ready to start your married life together, and start a family, and that's the mindest you need to be in. A lot of people get wrapped up in the wedding details and the wedding itself and forget about what really makes wedding is not all the little things that go into it, it's you and your fiance. So best of luck to you and try to brush off what they say.
You can definitely plan a wedding in 6-7 months if you're willing to "plan hard" from the get-go! It's shorter than many engagements, but it shouldn't raise eyebrows, people do it all the time. Not sure at all why your friends would get on your case about it.
I had a girlfriend get married in 4 months time, I think you should be able to pull it off in 6 months!
You can totally do it! I got engaged in November and I'm getting married in May! I'm sorry that your friends haven't been that supportive or happy about it. Please try to brush what they have said off and keep on with your planning. :)
It sounds like you are really on top of the planning, and if you and your fiance are happy about the time-frame you've set for yourselves, that's truly the important part. It's about the two of you and your wishes for your special day, not the bridesmaids' wishes. I'm sorry that they responded like that to your happy news--don't let it get you down though!
My grandparents were only engaged for a couple of hours (they eloped :) ) and their parents were pretty mad, but they've been happily married for over 60 years. It's really all just what works for your situation.
Are you particularly tight with these two bridesmaids, and could there be some underlying emotional stuff going on? Often weddings bring out the extremes in people, and they may fear that you're going to be in a totally different place in life from here on and it will damage the friendship. On the other hand, if you've been with your fiance for four years, they've had plenty of time to get used to your relationship and may just be jealous/insecure.
I got engaged mid-February of 2010 (not the 14th, but close enough that everyone joked about it!) and married in September 2010, with pretty much a month off in July (I was working roughly 15-hour days, all I had time for was registering for stuff). It is totally doable.
I would recommend choosing your dress sooner rather than later--I selected my dress with maybe four months to spare and I heard all kinds of horror stories about people who ordered their dress long in advance and it didn't come til after the wedding! Mine made it in plenty of time, but I had a couple of back-up ideas just in case (Running of the Brides, off-the-rack, make one out of t-shirts!).
I am having a 9month engagement and I'm an out of town bride. I'm not stressing the deets. It's 5months out and I still don't have a lot of stuff like my dress but it will come out okay in the end. I do have the BM dresses though and the big ones. Venue, photog, dj etc.
They might just be using those as excuses as they might not have the money for all the things they'll need to pay for for your wedding in such a short time.
Its totally do-able, but it means you need to take care of some things ASAP - like your dress and bridesmaids dresses. Wedding dresses can take 6 months to come in and you need to have them altered. Bridesmaids dresses take 3 months to come in, but you want to give your girls 3-4 weeks to get their dresses altered.
If you have a lot of out of town guests, you might want to spread the word now or send save the dates so they can start looking into travel arrangements.
What did your BM's say to make you cry? Were they concerned about their financial situations as it relates to paying for things? Or something else?
It's totally doable! In fact, I think that not only is it doable, it may be more efficient. Less time means you won't have much time to second-guess decisions and dwell on things that are not as important. Sometimes I wish I'd have less time because it would force me to be more efficient in my time-management. Remember, in the grand scheme of things it's just a big party and you can totally plan a wonderful, big party in 6 months!
6 months is a perfectly acceptable time-frame (I've known several people to get married in 6 months or less who have had amazing weddings). You are not crazy. Try not to let the comments bother you. This is what you and your fiance want. Just remember that.
I agree, 6 months is fine, how rude of them. Especially if you have the venue booked. They might be in a financial crunch as others mentioned. You guys have been together for 4 years, this shouldn't be a surprise. It's about you guys! Happy planning! I'm sure everything will be fabulous!
That is the day before me so I am excited for you and about where you are in planning and I have been engaged since April! So we are in this 6 months (well, almost 5 months now) planning crunch together. We can do it! Who cares what anybody else thinks!
Planned and done in 4 months! Are they worried about costs involved? How mean to make you cry. :( Congratulations to you!!
You absolutely can do it in 6 months! That's all I had with mine and I was able to get everything I wanted. :) You have the hardest parts done already, so don't let them worry you!
If you already booked your venue than I think that is plenty of time!!!!! Make sure you have a ceremony location too and you are set. You can get a dress in that amount of time and there are tonssssssss of photographers out there so I wouldn't even be worried about that and the other smaller things. I wish I had done that too because now I just want the wedding over with so the planning can be done. :) I think you made a great choice!!!!!!!!!!
@Luckygir15: You can do it if you re dedicated. If you don't slack and stay on top of things, you can get it done. Photographers don't shoot every weekend. Florists don't have big weddings every weekend. You just need to call around to find out if your date is open RIGHT NOW! If you plan on getting a actually wedding wedding dress, you should order that now or if you are lucky enough to be a sample size, you could buy a sample and then get the alterations done. My cousin got engaged in December and is getting married in June of this year. He didn't think it was possible, but his bride practically got everything done in a month. She booked a photographer, church, reception hall, florist, ordered her dress, got their tuxes, made arrangements with the high school choir, and found her baker THIS month. So it can be done if you are on the ball with things.
Maybe your friends just have the idea that it take a year to plan. After all, all the bridal magazines tell you to start planning 12 months out. Whatever, you can do it.
I'll reiterate that you can do it, and I personally think you can do it pretty easily. I had a friend do EVERYTHING in less than 6 months and it turned out beautifully for her.
But are you sure you want people that can make you cry as your bms? There's still time to change that too. I'm only partially joking.
6 months is plenty of time! The only thing that I would say you need to do ASAP is find your dress, since they can take a few months to order and receive, and then you need to allot time for alterations.
There are so many vendors, you'll find ones you want that are available.
Maybe you should pick super ugly BM dresses so that they cry? Just kidding :)
I don't get why they care, are they jealous? Personally, I don't get why people wait a year or longer to get married unless they need to for monetary reasons. You certainly don't need that long for planning alone.
Our engagement is 7 and a half months. I'm done with everything and still have 2 months to go. You'll be totally fine. Tell your "friends" to shove it. ;)
You're not crazy. I think you lucked out that that's great! I do think, though, that you should reconsider your bridal party. The people tht stand up with you should be supportive and happy for you.
Not crazy at all. Generally one can't have all the insane little details people who have a year+ to plan do, but then again you don't have as much time to decide, change your mind and drive yourself mad! I wish I could have gotten married 6 months after I got engaged by the finances changed and I couldn't. My sister on the other hand had exactly 12 weeks from engagement to alter. And it was a beautiful wedding. I would agree, the dress will be the hardest part if you can't wear a sample size.
My engagement was 7 months - totally doable, especially if your fiance helps! It sounds like you have all the key vendors you need lined up, so all that's time sensitive for you to do is choosing/ordering your dress and & bridesmaid dresses. I do wish I had done dress shopping a little earlier - It's crazy how much time the stores say dresses will take. I got a sample dress, but I was stressed about the bm dresses making it in on time.
I don't understand why your bridesmaids would be weird about it - are they jealous? worried about the expenses piling up in a short time? maybe they had vacation ideas you didn't know about? Sounds like you need to talk to them and if they can't be supportive maybe you should have a smaller bridal party.
I've been engaged for 4 months and have pretty much everything organised already, if you have a venue that can help with catering, staff, bar etc it really isn't that difficult. If you're organised and determined, and if you're willing to compromise a little and try different vendors, it's very do-able in six months.
The only I'd say is to go find your dress soon, some of the salons take 4 months to get your dress in. But then I bought my dress off the rack as it was a sample so I didn't have to wait at all to have it ordered.
Can't believe your friends made you upset though, not right.
The hardest thing about planning a wedding in less than one years time is finding a venue that has availability, considering most places book out around a year in advance. Considering that you found a venue with availability for this summer, I don't see any reason why you want plan your big day in 6 months time. You said you have been with your FI for several years, so it's not as if you're rushing into marriage either!
FWIW, I am having a one-year engagement and there are times when I wish it weren't so long. Everything has been planned for months and I would just love to be married already!
I was engaged for exactly nine months (July 9, 2010!)
You definitely need to be decisive and focussed, but it's completely doable. You may have to be prepared not to get your absolute #1 choice of vendors, but if you're willing to be a little bit flexible, you'll be totally fine. The only things I would take care of ASAP for real are your photographer and dress shopping if you have to order something in.
For me it worked really well. I thrive on the pressure!
The work you have to do always adjusts to the time you have :)
I planned my entire wedding in six months, and could have done so in three easily. All will be fine!
We were engaged for less than a year also. Engaged in October, married in May. We had all the same reasons as you. I really wanted a summer wedding, but we didn't want to wait for the following summer! Guess I should have been mad at DH for being so inconsiderate when choosing when to propose to me 
But yes, it can definitely be done. The hardest part, imo, is the venue anyway, so once you've got that, everything else starts to fall into place. Just make sure you start looking for the dresses for you and your wedding party ASAP so that you have time to get what you want and have it come in without rush ordering. Then you have time to get any alterations done without stressing over it cutting it too close too. The dresses were my biggest source of stress with the "time crunch" to be honest. Getting everything else planned in our amount of time was a piece of cake.
You'll be fine... I had about 3 weeks more than you to plan, and it was more than enough. (Engaged early/mid-november, and we got marrried... July 9th! I highly recommend that date. heehee!)
Like the others said - figure out your dress and the BMs dresses soon, but those are really the most time sensitive things. You have a venue... once you figure out dresses, I'd focus on photographer next (I'm assuming catering is provided by the country club), and the rest will fall into place. Definitely doable, and fun. I really wasn't stressed at all by time. It was more like... bam. bam. done. check. next! research, meet, book, enjoy.
OMG everyone thank you soo much! You all made me feel so much better about this!
Were getting married on the golf course in front of a pond, and the reception is at the club house overlooking the valley. The food will be from the country club thats taken care of as well.
About the dress, I already bought it and it just came in last week and is now at my parents house (I couldn't believe it came in so fast AND I had to order it with extra length because I'm tall) I also have my veil and a beutifiul tiara.
I picked out the bridesmaid dresses as well last weekend!
I think my two dud bridesmaids (out of three) are concrened about the money aspect possibly. One is a HUGE "hippy" and told me straight up she won't be able to order her dress untill she gets her grad school excess check so she can pay for it. She did the exact same thing last year at our other friends wedding. The dress I chose for them was only $120 which I find to be a steal!!! I've been there for them in their weddings, I just wish they would support me in mine.
After I posted my origional post my mom and I went and ordred/designed my cake! It's gorgeous!
After that, we went to look into blocking off hotel rooms and unfortunaltly we're going to have to have two hotels due to 1,000,000 conventions going on in my area. Other than this (which seems like a small deal) everything is going great. My fiance has been so involved in the process which has been awesome!
Engaged Aug 13 2010, will be married March 20 2011.
It's been exceptionally easy to plan everything. In fact, it was only "work" in the first couple of weeks. If I had known better, I would have looked at a few more places for a dress, but I'm fine with what I picked.
I personally don't understand long engagements having pulled this all off in such a short amount of time.
you can do it! don't cry!
Six months is definitely doable. We planned ours in 5 1/2 and I know a couple people who planned theirs in three months. It'll take some work, but you can do it!
When my sister got married they were able to plan their wedding in 2 months. I think you'll be just fine!
Totally doable!
I am having my wedding in 6 months too. Book the venue now!!
Go for it! Get new BM's or none if they are just going to be rude and not supportive. (kinda kidding) You may end up paying more for some things if you need to rush them, but it sounds like you already got some of the big things done. I would get on the dress, but I think you will be just fine. When your BM get married they can pick whenever they want and should focus more on being supportive.
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