Post # 1
We are getting married in our home state, in the town we went to college/met. Our familes live in state but different towns, so we figured this town was a good place so one side didnt have to travel hours and the other didn’t. The only thing is there are not really any places for a reception that are not anything more than a big room with tables and a bar. I see other bees’ pictures on here and I just get so jealous. What makes it worse is that we live in upstate NY now, and there are BEAUTIFUL places I would love to get married literally everywhere… The venue we have now is actually where my high school prom afterparty was (which has some bad memories, but that’s beside the point…) And to put it in perspective, our prom was actually in the mall because that is the “prettiest” place in town. UGH. I know it won’t matter years from now, but it is my wedding and I have to come to terms with the fact that my dream wedding will be nothing like what I have dreamed of.
Anyone else have to sacrifice their vision beauce it just isn’t possible? Or maybe some comforting words that will make me feel better 🙂
Post # 3
Oh you poor thing! First of all, I know it’s easier said than done, but try not to compare your wedding with the photos you see of everyone elses. There are literally hundreds of factors that go into planning a wedding, so there is absolutely no way to fairly compare.
What matters is what is going to make YOU happy. Are you 100% heartset on the town where you met? Does the college offer any kind of event venue? Your profile says you’re getting married in July — is an outdoor reception possible?
All of that aside, try not to forget the big picture here. I can honestly tell you that I don’t remember most of the details of our wedding day. What I remember is spending time with my husband, my bridal party, and my family and feeling SO overwhelmed by the outpouring of love we experienced from all of the friends and family who came to celebrate with us. I know that sounds cheesy, but it’s totally true. There were some things that I didn’t even notice about the day till I looked back on photos.
That said, if you’re really restricted in terms of options, just make the most of what you have! A less-than-exciting banquet room can be totally transformed by the romantic lighting of candles on tables and strategically placed floral arrangements.
Are you getting a professional photographer? If so, that should comfort you a bit. They’re pros because they know how to make everything look good! For example, our favors were pretty basic pearl-colored chocolate candies in red organza bags. Basic and fit our color scheme. Our photographer somehow found a way to make them look great in photos, haha!
In short — try not to fret. You still have options. And even if you can’t control the venue, you can still control the vibe your guests will get from your event. And really, after the wedding is said and done, this stuff won’t matter as much. Even though it’s all we can think about leading up to the day, what lasts is the memories of how we feel on our wedding days!
Post # 4
Honestly as long as you are happy the day you get married it isnt going to matter. I got married in my hometown and the reception/dance was in a Legion hall. Was it the prettiest nope, and after all that is said and done. All I cared about was that I got married to the man I love.
We could had the wedding and reception/dance in the metro area where we live but it also would have cost us double or even triple what we paid. In the long run I am glad where we had it because then all that mattered to us came to the wedding!
Post # 5
wait, why do you have to get married in your college town? you don’t! just do it in your homestate but branch out. everybody has to get there anyway
Post # 6
@bebero: Agreed. My fiance and I found a beautiful venue in our home state, but no where near where our families live or where we live now. Everyone has to travel anyways – I say get married in upstate NY where you live now!!