Post # 1
As mentioned in the title this is possibly TMI but I am getting married in two days and I just got my period today. My periods have been a little bit whack the last couple months due to stress but my period shouldn’t have came anytime near the wedding.
My Fi and I haven’t had sex and are saving ourselves for our wedding night which makes this even more unfortunate. We’re only going on a 3 day honeymoon so basically I’ll have my period the entire time. I bought sexy lingerie to wear on the honeymoon too.
I’m seriously bummed. I told my FI that I got my period and he just kinda shrugged it off a bit and joked with me that at least we won’t have a honeymoon baby. I think he was just being nice and not wanting to act disappointed.
So honestly, I don’t even know who to ask this kind of question. The situation feels really awkward to discuss. Should we just have a platonic honeymoon and wait to have sex later? I can’t even imagine a honeymoon without sex..I feel like I’ve been waiting forever to get some! Any tips, tricks or advice would be GREATLY appreciated.
Post # 3
Is he bothered by it? If he thinks its gross its probably not going to happen. If he doesn’t feel strongly about it go for it! We like the shower for when AF visits. Any mess gets rinsed away. As long as it isn’t super heavy throw a towel on the bed and go for it. If anything it provides a little extra lubrication which is always good. The only time we don’t is if I’m super crampy and thats mainly because I don’t want to do anything but lay in bed and be miserable.
Post # 4
@As_You_Wish: Personally, I’d just go for it. Put a towel down and enjoy showering together afterwards 🙂 What could be sexier than soaping each other up?!
Post # 5
I would talk to him…he might still want to, assuming you’re comfortable with that. Do you have a heavy flow? If you started today, then the wedding day would be three days in….you should have a much lighter flow by then. Plus, to be honest, if it’s your first time there might be bleeding anyway…..
Post # 6
I’d say shower up together before to get feeling clean (good foreplay!), put down a towel on the bed for the act, then shower again after (which, after your first time together, I imagine will be extremely intimate!).
Post # 7
I should add that FI works in a hospital as well as a paramedic so he’s not freaked out by the sight of blood. He’s used to seeing accident scenes so this should pale in comparison right?
Post # 8
@As_You_Wish: I’d still go for it. When you’re on your period, it’s not a continuous flow of blood so it probably won’t be as bloody as you think it will be. Plus, in 2 days when it’s your wedding day, you will likely be past your heavy days anyway. Just put a towel down.
Post # 9
Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable! Are you a virgin, or did you just wait with this relationship? If your very first time ever, you may bleed anyway without a period. Just talk to him and see what makes him comfortable. My DH isn’t a fan of period-sex the idea, but when mine came AS WE WERE HAVING SEX, it wasn’t the worst thing in the world for him. Just see what his comfort level is, and stay true to yours.
Post # 10
As long as its not one of my heavy days, SO and I don’t mind “diving with the sharks” as he says. (I call my period “shark week”). We either put a towel down or hop into the shower or both. To be honest, I’ve learned everything is more sensative in a good way down there during my period.
Post # 11
If he’s ok with it and you’re ok with it I say go for it. Shower coitus would result in your flow being temporarily haulted so it wouldn’t be as messy.
Post # 12
When i have my period FI and I just have sex in the shower but i dont have a heavy flow since im on BC
Post # 13
A lot of people say that by the time the wedding and reception are over they are too tired to have sex anyways.
I think it is something that you have to decide for yourself. If it feels right, go for it, and if it doesn’t feel right you have the rest of your life to have sex with eachother.
Post # 14
talk to him again and ask if he’d still want to do it, and your wedding is in 2 days, how long does your period last? this is probably TMI as well but with mine only the first 2 days are really bad ( a lot of blood) I had my period on my wedding day, I was so mad as well since my period wasn’t even supposed to come but we still did it anyway.. my husband wasn’t grossed out or anything but i guess each guy depends.
Post # 15
See if you can find soft cups or instead cups in store in your area. They’re menstrual cups you can use and still have sex… http://www.softcup.com/content/what-softcup
Post # 16
how many days does your period last for? day 3 is usually my end so you might be in luck and find its not a problem – goodluck!