Post # 1
Yesterday my Fiance mentioned to me how he thinks that around a month to a week before we got married I should go live with a girlfriend or my parents so that our wedding day would be more special. We currently live together in his parents house and he said to me that he is worried that if we don’t spend some time alone that it will just feel like another day to him. However, I don’t think this way at all. We are extremely happy to get married so I can’t see us thinking “it’s just another day”. And I’m worried a little bit about the whole idea. Only because
a) I’m afraid that if we aren’t together I’m going to be doing all the last minute planning myself, running around like a chicken with my head cut off
b) If I go live with my parents I’m really nervous something stupid will happen and they will try to break us up (my mom is not very supportive and when we got engaged rather then telling us congrats my mom took it as the time to tell me that I needed to move back home in order to get married)
c) I’ve lived with my Fiance for almost two years. I don’t know if I could handle living with him for a third and then not getting to be with him for a month. I would be so down though it would be exciting knowing we would be getting married soon.
So I don’t know, what do bee’s think? I was always under the assumption that my Fiance and I would be staying together the whole time up until we got married, but now he’s telling me he doesn’t. I know our wedding isn’t until a while away but I’m just curious.
Post # 3
You’re wedding day isn’t “just another day.” It’s the only day you’ll ever be committing yourself to your fi, for the rest of your life. It’s going to be extremely special, even if you spend the night before with him.
Post # 4
@artbee: I agree with you completely. Especially with how lovey dovey we are and how much he’s into all this planning. I was just pretty surprised at what he said last night and told him this, to which he thinks we might need some time apart. I think I could manager and “maybe” it would make the day more special but I don’t really know where I stand on the whole thing yet.
Post # 5
Maybe spend a couple days before the wedding apart, but not a whole week or month! Actually we only planned to spend the night before apart (sleeping in separate houses) but we really didnt see much of each other the few days leading up to our wedding! We were both very busy doing different things and were texting or talking on the phone throughout the day and saw each other at night for a few hours but didnt really get to spend much time together!
And you will not feel like your wedding day is “just another day” – I promise you that!!
Post # 6
bad idea! what is he thinking silly! I bet he thought it was some romantic idea that you’d think was brillant… apparently not. I knew I wanted Darling Husband right by my side helping me with everything and running around as a team. Maybe stop having sex the month before! See if he likes that idea!
Post # 7
My Fiance and I live together, and although we’ll probably be apart the night before the wedding, we fully plan to stay living together leading up to it, and I don’t think it’ll make anything less special at all! A lot of bees stay with their Fiance the night of and get ready together, even, and it’s STILL a special day, so I don’t know that I see the need to be apart.
That having been said, if it’s important to him, maybe just stay apart for 2-3 days before the wedding? Not so long that your mom can meddle, but maybe long enough to give him the feel he’s looking for?
Post # 8
@Rgeddy: Ha ha! The funny thing about that is that I’m the one always wanting the sex and he’s the one that, while he really likes it and enjoys it, is not the one that often intiates. In fact, he’s the one mostly turning ME down. So when he suggested all of this yesterday I believe he did mention cutting off the sex too. GAH! I think I would go mental.