Post # 1
Ok, here’s the deal. I’ve been engaged since December. I’ve always known that I didn’t want the traditional wedding, for many reasons. 1) I just can’t see shelling out over $15,000 for one day. 2) I’d rather save that money to travel or put a down-payment on a house. 3) I have ALWAYS wanted a very intimate ceremony with just me, my fiance, my sister, his sister, & our parents. So basically just our immediate family.
The more & more my fiance have thought about it, I would LOVE to get married on a cruise ship with our parents & sisters. I originally wanted to do this from the beginning, but my fiance’s mom is afraid of flying, and most of the cruise ports are far away from where I live. Well I just found out that you can leave from New York (which is only 3.5 hours away from us) to the Eastern Caribbean. So this would work out perfect. I’ve already told my mom & sister, and they love the idea (they love cruises). Now we just have to talk to his parents about it.
Is anyone else getting married on a cruise ship? How do we break this to our aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. without them getting upset? If we do this, we would most likely be throwing a party for everyone when we get back home, because I don’t want anyone to feel left out.
Post # 3
We’re doing a cruise for our honeymoon, and I was SO mad when I found out that they do weddings on the ship! We seriously would have done this instead of a big formal wedding. It’s just more us!
I think it’s great especially if you have a very close family, it’s great to take a vacation together, and also just get to be able to relax – plus see somewhere new! 🙂 And it’s very reasonably priced!
Which cruiseline are you considering taking? We’re doing Princess and actually taking the train into NYC and going to the Eastern Carribean (Bermuda, San Juan, St. Thomas, Turk & Caicos). I’ve heard great things about all of those places! 🙂
Post # 4
^Oooh, you’ll have so much fun! I’ve been on both Princess and Royal Caribbean..loved them both. We’re actually going on a cruise this July to the Bahamas, can’t wait. 🙂
I have been looking at wedding prices on Carnival right now..the prices aren’t bad at all. but I’ve never been on a Carnival cruise before. I’ll probably check out Princess & Royal, too.
Post # 5
Congratulations to you and your fiance, your wedding will be so much fun and so special for you and your guests. We are doing this for our wedding too. We are doing a cruise from Baltimore, MD to Bermuda next summer. I was also concerned about people feeling left out, but we are inviting close family and some close friends to join us, the people that we see on a regular basis. For other people that would have been invited to our wedding if we did a traditional thing, we plan to send out wedding announcements when we get back and maybe do a casual party to celebrate (or just celebrate with different friends or family members as the opportunity arises, depending on how feasible/realistic it will be to throw a party when we get back as our families are spread out across the U.S.A.), still deciding on that right now though. Happy planning!
Post # 6
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I think that could be really fun! In the end, you should do what makes you happy; if a cruise ship wedding is what you want, then you should go for it! A home party afterwards with family and friends could be really fun to plan as well; and it would be much more laid back!
Post # 7
I looked into it and basically had it booked but the “in laws had already been there” and didn’t feel like seeing the same destination again. that’s another story though. Anway, princess is the only ship that you can get married on deck. Every other line you have to do in their chapel or on a beach at one of the stops. My parents argued that people would be locked in for a week (if some only wanted to come for the weekend) which ended up not making a difference because we did destination in D, Republic and everyone that came stayed the ENTIRE time anyway. I say go for it. I wished I would have.
Post # 8
My fiance and I are getting married on a cruise April 2011! People have been suprisingly receptive to the idea, of course there has been a few that give us the “we aren’t supposed to have to pay to come to a wedding” but not much. We are booked on Carnival for our wedding, let me know if you have any questions, Im glad to answer anything I can. 🙂
Post # 9
We are doing the same thing. My fiance and I are getting married in Bermuda next November during a RCL cruise. I felt the same as you, I just could not justify spending obscene amounts of money on 5 hours of fun. I would much rather spend half of that and have an incredi
ble destination wedding with only those that are MOST important (which still averages out to about 25-30 people). We are inviting just the parents, siblings, grandmothers, closest aunt, uncles and cousins and closest friends.
His family is thrilled (I think they just want a vacation!) but my family couldn’t be more unhappy about it. I am the only girl in my family (all cousins are boys) and I am an only child. They feel like I am going to miss out on the whole wedding experience. Their even trying to tell me that I cant have a bridal shower. I personally feel that as long as everyone invited to the shower is also invited to the wedding, it is in no way tacky. Slowly they are becoming more receptive of the idea but it hasn’t been easy.
We’re even going out of our way to try to be accommodating. Instead of making everyone drive to the terminal which is about 3.5 hours away (and they would have to pay per day to park) we are chartering a private bus to bring everyone to and from New Jersey. We also aren’t going with our first or second choice for dates. We compromised on dates to make it easier on some of our family.
Anyways, we are meeting with our travel agent this weekend to book the cruise. After that we will be sending out our “Destination Newsletter” which will serve as our save the date. I’ve been working on this thing for months. It has everything from prices (even went as far as to figure out the taxes and fees so that it can be as precise as possible), itinerary, ship features, Bermuda facts and attractions, passport info, etc. We also plan to send out another newsletter about half way through the planning after other aspects have been finalized.
I’m so excited for our destination wedding. I just wish it wasn’t 500 days away!
Post # 10
We went on a cruise for my BIL’s wedding and it was SO fun (for us). I am not sure if they thought the whole thing through though because they had their wedding on the second day. Then, my SIL told me it was like having her whole family on the honeymoon! They couldn’t escape us! So, if you don’t mind that, go for it. We certainly had a great time. And, we went on Princess. Much better (IMO) than Carnival which we went on for another trip. Good luck!
Post # 11
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Post # 12
I know this is late… but thought others might be in the same situation currently so I figureed I’d post….. We’re getting married on a Carnival cruise out of Baltimore as well.
We’re only inviting immediate family (parents, siblings, and their kids) and are getting married on the ship BEFORE we leave so family can attend the ceremony and reception and disembark before we set sail. That way, they aren’t forced to pay for and go on a cruise that they wouldn’t normally take (my dad won’t fly or cruise), and my neices and nephews won’t need to be out of school for a week. Parking at the terminal is free if they are just going for the wedding and leaving.
As for additional guests, yes, I have some friends and family that are feeling a little put out. What I told them is that we decided to invite immediate family only, but if they wanted to go on the cruise as well, we would not turn them away from the wedding, and we would pay the extra $20-25 for them to attend (since the limit for the package we bought was 20 guests). However, I did NOT publicly announce this to everyone like “hey.. if you wanna come to the wedding, you have to go on the cruise.” But instead mentioned it politely only if THEY brought it up first and tried to make us feel bad. Indicentally, no one has signed up to go on the cruise, so it’s not an issue.
We plan to send out simply wedding announcements with a note about how we got married during an intimate ceremony with just our families.. but we thought of them on our special day…etc.. and will drop these in the mail the day before we leave. (leaving our address off of the card so they don’t think we’re just fishing for gifts).
Anyway, that seems to be working for us so far…
Post # 12
missjenna81: Hello! We are getting married in April in the port of Baltimore on Royal Carribbean’s ship The Grandeur of the Seas. We are so nervous because we have not spoken with anyone yet- can you share any info on the process or ceremony space/dj/ etc??
Post # 13
lindsey023: Congrats! I would definitely recommend checking the Honeymoon and Cruises section of Cruise Critic, because you will find other RC brides there. I have plenty of tips, but all are Carnival specific. With that said, feel free to ask any questions you have!