(Closed) Getting married on the same date as a close friend's wedding anniversary?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I wouldn’t mind at all, especially if it’s on her 6th. If it were my first anniversary I would be a little sad because I would want to celebrate with my husband but after six years I wouldn’t mind at all. It would be kind of cool to celebrate with a new couple coming together!

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Maybe mention it to her (with the tie-in to your first date) to be sure if you REALLY care about her opinion, but I really don’t think it should matter. I just had a good friend get married 2 weeks after our anniversary, and when they were looking for dates I wouldn’t have cared at all if they picked the same weekend as us. Mostly I just thought– awesome our anniversaries are close we can all go celebrate together some years!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think it should be an issue.  My brother and his FI are getting married on my aunt and uncle’s wedding anniversary.  Honestly, there are only so many days in a year and it would be really hard to find one that isn’t a significant day for someone else.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

My best friend/MOH’s wedding date was 8 days before the date I chose. I would never have picked her exact date. 

Oh, & she was married 5 years already. But I still say it is a no-no to pick someone’s exact date unless literally there is no other date that month that’d work for you. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t think it is too big of a deal. But to be respectful, I would run it by her before you officially set the date.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

It wouldn’t bother me, but I agree with just asking before you finalize the date. I think it would be pretty petty of someone to say no to that though.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I wouldn’t mind at all!  In fact, I think that’d be awesome if my friends shared an anni date with me.  I wouldn’t worry about it, but if you do you could always just mention it to her and see what she thinks. 🙂

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

I really think it depends on the person. You need to ask her whether she will be okay with it. I wouldn’t mind it at all because I don’t own the day just because I got married on that day years ago. Some ladies might though.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t see why this is a no-no. There are only so many weekends in a year and just because someone has the same anniversary date does not mean they OWN that date. The weekend we are getting married will be the same weekend my parents got married and the same weekend my best friend (and bridesmaid) got married a few years ago. If the date means something to you, then do it! 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I honestly don’t think its a big deal at all. If she were getting married that day, thats a different story. But why would someone care that you have the same anniversary?? Kind of silly IMO. I’d run it past her just to be sure, but I can’t imagine someone being opposed to that

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MissCalifornia:  I also do not think it is a big deal at all.  However, make sure if you ask that you are genuinely open to the answer.  Sometimes people ask to be nice but they already have their mind made up.  If the date is really important to you and you can’t see yourself having another wedding date, I’m sure your friend will understand that.  I still think it’d be good to talk to your friend about it, but be honest about your commitment and relationship to that date.  As several others said, most people would probably find that pretty neat to share an anniversary date with a close friend. 

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I don’t think it’s an issue. She can’t own the day for years after her own wedding. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

If it were me, I wouldn’t mind in the slightest! I think it’d be rather fun to share an anniversary, and if it were a very close friend, I would be happy to celebrate our anniversaries together some years.

My parents are friends with this other couple and while they didn’t know each other when they got married, it turns out they actually got married on the same day, in the same year, had the same colours for their weddings and now have the same number of kids! They did a joint 25th anniversary bash and had a whale of a time.

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