Post # 1
I don’t even know where to start…all I know is that my wedding is tomorrow and all I hear about are all of these really excited brides and I’m sitting here in tears almost non stop for the past two days. Before anyone jumps to an idea of why, I want to clarify that I’m not upset because I’m getting married. I can’t wait to marry my best friend and I can’t wait to be married.
The problem is the wedding itself. I don’t want to go 🙁 I want to just go off just the two of us and elope or something. Far too late for that I know, but I just need to get these feelings out. I keep dreading tomorrow and wishing it would hold off a bit until I get past these feelings.
I think I’m just completely worn out from the stress of planning this. I’m being tugged in a million different directions, dealing with insane family members and vendors who keep screwing things up. I just can’t deal with it and I know there’s only one day left but I’m just so scared that I worked so hard and it will just be a big bust.
We’re getting married on a Sunday and I’ve just started to realize how clueless people really are. Within the past few days numerous guests have said “I can’t wait to see you on Saturday”. umm what? My invitation clearly says SUNDAY June 12th!. Learn to read. So now I’m panicking that half of my guests won’t show up because they will have probably showed up the day before.
I’m also frustrated because the seamstress took in my dress more than she was supossed to. The dress was hanging off of me and they had it pinned to a good size. Turns out she thought It was too big then (no idea why she wouldnt remeasure then?) so she made it a bit smaller. Now the modesty panel at the back doesnt snap shut and I’m bulging over the back at the top. It’s too late to do any alterations to reduce that problem so I now officially hate my dress. It looks like crap on me, is super wrinkly even though they claim they steamed it, and when I went in for my final fitting I left in tears. I loved my dress two weeks ago, now I just feel gross in it.
I don’t know what to do, but I just feel so unprepared and like tomorrow is going to suck. Im excited to say I do, but I’d prefer to just disappear after that and go be by ourselves instead of have to entertain all these people I don’t know.
I’m sure most of this is normal wedding stress, but I just can’t handle it anymore and I don’t want to talk to anyone. I want to hide away. 🙁
Not sure what I was trying to gain from this, but any words of encouragement would be awesome. thanks for listening.
Post # 3
Everything is going to be fine – even if all the details aren’t perfect, tomorrow you’re going to marry the man you love. Chin up!
Post # 4
I am sorry you are so stressed. Try doing some fun things today. Tomorrow you will look beautiful. I have never seen a bride that didn’t 🙂 Even if everything isn’t perfect you still got to marry the man you love.
The stuff that goes wrong is the stuff you will talk about 30 years from now. No one seems to remember all that went right. It is the stuff that went wrong that they reminisce about and laugh about. They become the good memories. I have done hospice for many years and have heard everyone’s stories so I know that the treasured memories are all the stuff you are worried about right now. Relax! I have never heard someone mourn over an oops at their wedding. I guess because at the end of the day they were still married and time teaches us what is important. 🙂
I will be praying you can relax and enjoy your special day!
Post # 5
Once you get there I think you will forget your worries , the day will go wonderfully and you will be marrying your BFF and thats all that matters
Post # 6
There’s an episode of How I Met Your Mother where Lily and Marshall get married, and everything goes wrong. Lily’s veil gets run over in the parking lot, Marshall’s hair ends up with blonde tips and a shaved stripe down the middle of his head, and their harpist goes into labor before the ceremony. But in the end, they each married their best friend and love of their life, just as you are about to do! I know it sucks to put all that time and effort into what is supposed to be a beatutiful and special day, and then have everything go in the wrong direction. But after all is said and done, you’ll be married! 😀
In that episode, Lily and Marshall find a peaceful and romantic spot on their venue’s property and actually end up having their own private mini-ceremony before the “real” ceremony, where Barney is the officiant, and Robin and Ted are the MOH and BM, respectively, and no one else is around. I don’t know how traditional you are about seeing your groom before the ceremony, but maybe you guys can take a cue from that and find a few minutes before the ceremony to meet up in a private spot and talk about all the reasons why this wedding day is going to be so wonderful for you as a couple starting your married life together, and then as things maybe don’t go as perfectly as you had hoped throughout the day, you can reflect on all those things you two discussed beforehand.
Good luck, and as ImDaCat said, keep your chin up!
Post # 7
If you can, take your dress to a different bridal shop today and see if they can steam it for you. It might cost $100, but that might help one piece of it.
Ask your FI, bridesmaids, etc to help with the last minute details. I wasn’t asking for help, but had dozens of people who were looking for something to do.
Keep focusing on marrying your best friend. No matter what happens tomorrow, keep a smile on your face (OK, maybe some tears of joy:), if the bride is having a good time, so is everyone else. That is the secret to a great wedding. Nobody will notice most of the other stuff.
Post # 8
I’m sorry you’re feeling so overwhelmed. My advice is to take a step back and forget about the world. Forget about the party, forget about the dress, forget about the guests and focus on the fact that soon you will be married to your love. If the whole world falls apart, it doesn’t matter. If the food sucks, it doesn’t matter. If the cake doesn’t make it, it doesn’t matter. All that matters is that you will be married to the man you love and in a few days you will probably be off to some romantic getaway. This is how I got through the last few days…and it made a huge difference.
Post # 9
I’m so sorry you’re having such a tough time. Do you know someone who is half decent at sewing that could maybe take out a few of the seams that make the dress so tight? If not, it’s ok because tomorrow is going to be a great day for you! I had a lot of family stress too, and before our wedding day I told myself “things may not go as planned. But whatever happens, it’s going to be fine, and I’m going to have a great time.” And I did! Nobody caused any drama, and nothing really went wrong.
Everyone is going to be so happy and excited for you tomorrow. It’ll put you in a great mood. Just go with the flow and enjoy yourself! It doesn’t have to be a perfect day to be a great day. Congrats and have fun tomorrow 🙂
Post # 10
((hugs)) Oh hon. I’m so sorry. Do your BMs and family know how stressed you are? Maybe have a sit down with them today and let them know so they can take a bit off your plate so you don’t have to deal with it tomorrow. You’ll be surprised how people will step up for you on your wedding day because they’re trying to make sure the bride is just enjoying herself and not worried about vendors, etc etc.
On the dress issue, have you thought about buying a Spanx or something today? Maybe that would help a bit? I know it’s not ideal and you shouldn’t have to be paying for something else right now, but it might make you feel better in your dress.
Just stay focussed on your hubby and you’ll be fine. I always told DH that so long as me, him, and our officiant showed up everything else was just frills.
Big big hugs girl. You’re going to be fine I promise!
Post # 11
Thank you so much everyone. You’re all right, I definitely only care about marrying my best friend. I never cared about all the other stuff. I think I’m just tired of people pressuring me or hounding me with questions abou all the other stuff that it’s really bothering me.
We are doing a first look and I’m sooo looking forward to that time that we get to spend alone. It will definitely help me feel better. I just feel bad because my FI is so excited, he stayed up all night because he was too excited to sleep lol. And here I am a crying mess because I just want to quickly say I do then rush off to our honeymoon. I think I’m sad because I’m not excited for the wedding like everyone else gets. But you guys are right and I’m sure that come tomorrow I’ll feel beautiful with my hair and makeup and I just need to focus on the real reason why we will be there. 🙂 And then it’ll be done and I can go to mexcio to relax! lol
Post # 12
@bakerella: My stomach looks okay in the dress it’s just the bubbling over back fat that looks horrible. The top is the part that is too tight. But I’ll just make sure my hair hangs down lol. Oh and I love what you said about the rest just being frills..it’s true and a great thing to keep in mind. thank you!
Post # 13
@summerbride12: You’re likely being harder on yourself than anyone else would be hon. I’m sure it’s fine!! Maybe bring a pashmina or something to wrap around your shoulders in case you’re feeling self conscious? More ((hugs))!!!!