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Hi ladies,

I did post this in ceremony but moved it here.

Before I was engaged I wanted 9.10.11 date, But since that day has come and gone I'm still planning a September wedding but on the 15th. For some reason after my grandmother died in 2010 I found out her and my grandparents wedding date. September 10th. I truly wanted that date but never got engaged until November 2011. {My parents are divorced and we rarely saw my dads side only at Christmas} So that's probably why I never knew their date.

So what I'm saying from the title was to also get married on the 10th in remembrance of my Grammy. I was thinking to have just immediate family members and bridal party(20 ppl) BUT to tell no one and make our guests think it it our rehersal dinner but SURPRISE!! we are getting married instead. We would tell our parents and no one else.

For everyone else we would still have our Sept. 15th wedding for everyone else. I figured we could do most of our photos before then go the reception.

But how would I tell my guests are the 2nd wedding we are already married. I thought maybe the officient could somehow say something.??

what do ladies think about this???

@linguo42:  I understand what your sayin, I was thinking of having a picture of with her favorite flower at the reception on 15th. But its not just to have the same date (9.10) but it just I wanted 9.10.11, I found out at her funeral their wedding date. I burst into tears. My grandparents both met at a grocery store where they work. My FI and I both met at a grocery store where we work. Their intials are S+B(grandfather is named Robert but Grammy called him Bob) and my FI are the same too. Since 9.10 is on a monday no one thought a wedding then would work. Maybe I'm acting crazy about this date? or I  just want to hear that its a good idea.

I don't know, I think I agree with linguo42 in that there are many ways to honor your grandparents at your wedding, without the complications of two marriages in one week. And all so you can say you have the same date as your grandparents?

If it truly means that much to you then ultimately it is your special day and you may do as you please. I think it would be lovely to honor them at your wedding on the 15th though, and you have plenty of time to think of unique ways to do so!

@deathbydesign:  I like this idea.  I went to a wedding where we were all just invited to the reception and the ceremony was much smaller.  No one minded!  The invite just said "Please join us for a reception honoring __ & ____'s marriage."  I say you get hitched, not in secret but with close friends, on the 10th and have a party on the 15th.  As a guest, I would be irked if I didn't know what was going on and was only invited to some fake ceremony. 

@deathbydesign:  and MilksMom your both right it would be kind of strange to be a guest at a fake wedding. I like the idea of having a small ceremony but I think my some of my guests want to see a ceremony and go to the reception. I dont know soo confused... I might just forget the whole 2 wedding thing 8'[

I think it's a nice idea to have the same wedding date, but you are two separate people and couples. I don't think you need to be so caught up with what your grandparents were doing. HOWEVER, I understand the sentiment and it IS very romantic and sweet so if you must have it on 9/10, why not have the ceremony with only your parents? I'm just thinking that people are going to say, "ok why am I going to two of her weddings, in a single week?" and furthermore having 20 people (it's more than it sounds!) might make the guests at the formal reception wedding feel left out, but making the first wedding super exclusive might eliminate that. I like deathbydesigns idea as well. 

@deathbydesign:  I just reread what you wrote, how does the "commitment ceremony" work?

@Mrs.Lonestar:  All excellent points!

@MsCarabiner:  I am also named after my grandmother who passed away. The 10th is a monday so it wouldn't work for a reception due to people have to work.

@LoveMySailor1018:  thanks, ill try and think up different ways