Post # 1
My FI is taking forever to pick his guys! We have been engaged for almost 2 yrs now (our wedding keeps getting bumped back). I have my MOH and 3 other bridesmaids so I told him to pick out 4 guys. He just finally last night asked his cousin to be his best man. I asked one of my bridesmaids husbands to be one of his guys cause there kinda friends. But now she just found out found out shes having twins so I gave her the option to opt out if she wants so idk if he’ll still want to be in it. He doesnt have a lot of guy friends and the ones he did have kinda left him when we started dating and never talk to him anymore. We’re thinking of asking one of my bridemaid’s husbands to be the officant if he’ll do it, but he doesnt he’ll probably ask him to be one of the groomsmen. Theres 2 other possibilites. One I’m fine with but he’s iffy on and the other is another husband to one of my girls which there again kinda ish friends. Like I said he doesnt really have any friends. So now I got 4 girls and 1 best man. And the stupid tuxedo place keeps calling and bugging me to get the guys in and i have to keep telling them we dont have any yet! If he cant come up with any men can the bridesmaids just go alone?
Post # 3
Absolutely, you don’t NEED groomsmen.
But, I think men are just different, plus bridesmaids usually spend more money and thus need as much time as possible to plan ahead financially (I know as a bridesmaid I always appreciated as much advance notice as possible). The guys basically just need to get a tux, so maybe your FI doesn’t think it’s a big deal to do it yet, esp. since you do have almost a year until your wedding day.
Even though our wedding is a year away, I have asked all of my 6 bridesmaids already. My FI has not even approached his BROTHER yet, and I’m worried the poor guy might think he’s being excluded…but FI insists it’s no big deal to wait a bit longer and that guys just function differently with this sort of thing.
Post # 4
@jbbs1222: Why do there have to be the same number? Why does he have to pick guys to stand up for him on his wedding day, just for the sake of symmetry? If he doesn’t have a lot of guy friends, maybe he doesn’t have that many guys he actualy wants to have with him at the altar.
And why is he being “told” how many he should have? You should certainly tell him what your preferences are, and how you want things to look, but he’s being told (1) there HAVE to be the same number AND (2) that number is four. I would ask him who he’s thinking of. Maybe he can’t think of four guys that are close enough friends, and he’s in a position where he either picks guys he doesn’t really want, or he makes his bride unhappy. That’s not a nice position to be in.
As for the processional, I have a best man and two groomsmen. There will be a maid of honour, and up to four bridesmaids. All of the groomsmen, and the ring bearer, are entering with me, and all of the bridesmaids are entering together before the folower girl.
Post # 5
I started a post a few months back with the same dilemma! Expect FI just couldn’t decide if he was going to ask anyone or not (not however many I told him). If you are okay with uneven sides, then go with what he’s got and let the ladies all walk down by themselves. Only pick the people you want to have as your wedding party, not because you have to fill spots. No one will care if sides are uneven in the end. We each only ended up with one person, but it was easier and less stressful for us.
Post # 6
I figure if he cant find anyone else I’ll just have the first 3 girls walk alone and then my sister (MOH) and his cuz (Best Man) can walk together.
Post # 7
You have plenty of time! You don’t need even sides. And tux measurements don’t need to be in until 3-4 weeks before the wedding. Relax!