Post # 1
I’m a first time poster here,.. I’m writing because my wedding is now less than 2 weeks away! I have a few small things left to do, but otherwise I’m pretty much done with any planning.
Anyway, I’m one of those “care too much about what people think” types.
And I am starting to think way to much about what people are going to be thinking during our wedding… what will be running through their head when they see this or that,.etc… I know it sounds rediculous just typing it out, but its the truth… Anyone else have this?? How do I get it out of my system and go with the flow? And focus on how I”m getting married that day, not about if other people like our beer selection or not…
Post # 3
I think that most brides have this problem, so you’re not alone.
The truth is, at the end of the day, you cannot please everyone. Someone WILL inevitably grumble at something you’ve done. But remind yourself that this isn’t about you proving yourself to people; this is a celebration in which you extend the hospitality to people you love to share in your marriage. If you think about it, for anyone to turn their nose up at your best effort is pretty poor–like going to someone’s house for dinner and wrinkling your nose because they served you pizza. They’re still inviting you into their home and still feeding you. YOU are doing that for these people.
And by the way, the majority of these people really, really like you. So even if a few might judge your choices, they’ll love YOU anyway, no matter what happens.
Post # 4
@agentscully: Oh I am the SAME way and have the same fears! that is stressing me out too. Will people “get” our vision? Will they think our decor is cheesy and stupid? Will they like the band? Etc… I am going crazy. I wish I didn’t care! To top it off I am SICK and I can’t deal with this on my wedding day.
Jenny had good advice. I don’t because I am struggling with it too! I am hoping that once the day comes, I will not be thinking about that stuff, and I figure that is what will happen. I will probably be mad at myself for stressing over nothing, and I need to just relax!
I am just happy that it’s almost over to be honest. I am so sick of talking about wedding stuff with people. I feel like all day long, someone is calling me to ask this or that and it’s the same stuff and I want to just turn off my phone sometimes! I just want to be married to my FI and I don’t care about any more wedding planning! Makes me wish I had eloped instead, but he wanted a wedding really badly so I gave in. I will be so happy after the ceremony is over lol I don’t like people staring at me. Yeah, not likely to get out of that one! I am trying to be more excited but the sickness and stress and constant wedding talk is wearing me down. My nerves are bad right now! Sorry didn’t mean to turn your thread into my own vent!
Post # 5
The only thing I’m nervous about it the weather!! And, I’m kinda a little bit worried that our wedding will have “me” stamped all over it but not so much of my fella. Although it’s hard why he does the whole “I think you should do whatever you want to do cos I always love your style” thing!
Post # 6
@agentscully: happy wedding day!