- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
Alright Bees, let me break it down. We’re 26, been together since 22. It literally flew by! One second i was a college grad and he was finishing his senior year at A&M, and now we’re about to start the daunting PhD journey in January. We’ve lived together for a couple years and are the proud puppy parents to the most hilarious Dachshund that my mother lovingly calls her favorite grandchild.
We started talking about getting married when we started to discuss moving in together. I come from a pretty traditional Hispanic family (my siblings and I are the first generation of our family to be born in the US) and living together before being married is simply NOT DONE. It was the right choice for us, though, and he even formally asked my parents’ permission to do so because he really did not want to offend them. It’s a testament to how much my parents respect my SO (I sometimes they prefer him to me! But seriously, lol) that they chose to look past us not being hitched but still (gasp!) sharing a home.
We’ve never been terribly traditional, so….a couple of months he asked for my help to find the ring. We had ZERO clue about how to look for diamonds/jewelers/etc, but tackled the task for a few months and did research. SO is a nuclear engineer and tackled it like a research paper. We eventually found it! I wanted to find a good deal and I think we managed to 🙂 I was blown away with my own choice…I did not think I’d pick the traditional round solitaire like my mom’s. I was leaning towards cushion cut bc they’re freaking gorgeous but then I found it…a round solitaire with twisting bands. It has surprise peekaboo diamonds 🙂 It’s gorgeous, somewhere my future in laws’ house (I know where but am not allowed in that room because they know I’ll cheat and look :D).
Our original plan was sometime next spring. He’s starting his PhD in January and our projected wedding date is May of 2014. We didn’t want a super short engagement because of planning/logistics with school (it has to be in summer due to honeymoon/school reasons) and this coming summer is too short!
Well…he dropped a bomb on me today. I just assumed it would be next year, like we planned. Of course, the sooner the better for me 🙂 He already has the ring and is getting antsy apparently! He told me today that it may be a little sooner than we’d originally planned because of timing. Right after you get engaged you want to spend time with your families/party/etc. We live about an hour away from our parents and he fears that next spring he’ll be too busy for the partying we’d be doing right after getting engaged.
I thought I’d have more time! Nervous! Excited!
Advice please 🙂