Post # 1
I am having anxiety attack. I have been for the last few weeks. I get overly sensitive with whatever small things my bf says or does. Luckily he’s been patient with me but I think if I continue my way of waiting madness I could push him away. I know I’m making him feel uncomfortable. And I feel bad for that. But I still can’t help feeling the way I feel…UGH!
To get out of this and get away from my own negative cycle, I’m thinking maybe take some time apart and do my own thing would serve the relationship good. Give him or more importantly give myself a breathing room. I feel lucky in that we don’t live together. Would have been much harder for me to cope if we did. Also I’m going on a 10 day business trip to Europe next week (Very Excited!). I hope this too will be a good chance to get back on my feet emotionally.
How are you waiting bees doing?
Post # 3
I’m not waiting (anymore) but I think your business trip couldn’t come at a better time! Maybe it will help renew your feelings in a way when you realize you’re thinking of eachother while apart. Plus, it sounds like an exciting trip!
Other ideas? I don’t know. I sucked during my “waiting phase” and generally just tried to keep my mouth shut for certain periods of time. haha.
Post # 4
I would honestly create some goals for yourself and get excited about that. I hated waiting however while I was waiting, I started a savings fund for the wedding and set up goals to contribute xxx amount to it per week. Then, I started looking into getting more financially sound- learning about different investments and etc. since in marriage, money is usually the cause for divorce. I got myself preoccupied with all of that and of course ever now and then looked at different rings I would want and my dream ring and that really helped with passing time. Once I started getting preoccupied with $$$, especially for my future wedding, the engagement talks came to a screeching halt, so much so that my then boyfriend took notice. Then HE started talking about engagements, to the point it was driving ME crazy and we had to have another talk. A few weeks later, he bought the ring and proposed.
Post # 5
Thank you ladies for sharing!
I started reading a marriage book maybe you have heard too, ” 7 principles to make Marriage work”, to help me and my bf prepare and improve our relationship. Kind of like pre-marital excercise. I found that reading this and trying to prepare myself is helping to stop obssessing and to see bigger picture!