Getting out of the habit of calling him my FI…

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 2
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726 posts
Busy bee

gemchick82:  I do this all the time! But I keep telling myself: it’s only been a month, I’ll get used to it. I also mistake my name all the time. I think it just takes time to adjust to the “new” relationship. 

Post # 3
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1610 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I still call my husband my boyfriend oeriodically and he hasnt been a boyfriend in over two years.

 

who cares? i promise no one notices but you

Post # 4
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2166 posts
Buzzing bee

It’s only been 30 days. You just need some more time. 

If you want to, you can practice referring to him as your husband by saying phrases to yourself out loud. For example, “My husband, (his name)”, “I love my husband”, “Have you met my husband?”. It seems silly, but it could work. You could also call him “husband”, instead of his name, until you get used to saying it.

Post # 5
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Busy bee

bkrocks13:  That’s kinda cute/funny.

I intentionally refer to my fiance as boyfriend. I just don’t like the word fiance. It sounds so pretentious. 

Post # 6
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979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

We’ve been engaged since Febuary and my fiance still has yet to introcude me as his FI! Hopefully the turn around will be quicker with wife 🙂

Post # 7
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6 posts
Newbee

I just got engaged yesterday! but I`m ready for awkward moments of referring to my fiance as my boyfriend. </p>
<p>It doesnt help that everytime I hear the word fiance I think of the scene from Titanic when Roses fiance flips out on her.</p>
<p>Rose: “… but I`m your fiance.“

Fiance: “My fiance, MY FIANCE!!! Yes you are my fiance and … *yell, yell, flip table over*“ 😛

 

Post # 8
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2046 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’ve been engaged for 8 months and I still slip up and call my FI my boyfriend. It will take time, it’s no big deal.

Post # 9
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2102 posts
Buzzing bee

countingstars:  I am the same way! I think it will be much easier to switch to husband than boyfriend to fiance. I kind of hate the word fiance and I only really use it when I want to sound more serious, if that makes sense. 

Like for instance when my FI and were trying to get this apartment, the woman who runs them is very particular about who she rents to and doesn’t like to rent to young people usually. I used fiance with her just to show like “serious relationship” status with her.

Post # 11
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3738 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

gemchick82:  I HATE the term fiance. I find it a bit pretentious sounding and so I rarely say it. I also HATED “boyfriend” because I’m a grown woman and using that term makes me feel like I should be in high school or something.

I cannot wait to call him my husband. Cannot wait one bit. In the mean time, I usually refer to him as my SO.

Post # 12
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5015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

My husband thinks it’s funny to call me his ex-girlfriend… 

Post # 13
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3832 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I still call him my boyfriend on occasion.  But it gets easier with time. 

Post # 14
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1673 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

gemchick82:  Don’t worry, you’ll get used to it. At first, fiancé felt SO STRANGE and I kept messing up. Then we got married and I sometimes accidentally said boyfriend because we dated for 8 years prior to our engagement. Mostly to my husband which was funny.

I guess my brain was like, “Fiancé isn’t right, must be boyfriend. No wait, husband.” Sometimes I expect people to side eye me when I say husband because I think I look young. But then they don’t and I’m like, right, I’m 28 now! Husbands are something grown ups have. Guess I’m one of those now.

10 months in now, I’m accustomed to “husband”. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

i keep calling my FI my BF lol.

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