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Well, I received my enaggemnt ring about a week and half ago,,,,Tonight before taking a shower, I removed my ring abd placed it in treh box, as I always have before showering. After I completed my shower dried off and got dressed, I took teh ring back out of the box and began to place it back on my finger. The ring popped right out of my finger, bounced off the sink, flew up and bounced off the back of the toilet, bounced back up and hit the rim of the toilet, as I watched in horror, and tried to catch it, the ring flew at warp speed stright INTO the toilet!!! it circled the inside of teh tiolet and spiraled all the way down to the bottom in the back. It was liek it happened it SLOW MOTION!! The thing about this, is I am a MAJOR GERMAPHOBE!! and I have major issues with the toilet! I had to fish my ring out of teh bottom of teh toilet in teh very back with a clothes hanger....... The good news IS I DID get the ring,,,, now,, I wanna put it back on, but I just can't get mself to do it.. SOO GROSSS!! I was so scared to tel my fiance,, but when I screamed,, he was already outside the door and he just knew that SOMETHING happened, and it involved "the ring"... I thought he was going to be so angry that soemthing really stupid happened (only happens to me), to the ring, and it COULD have been lost FOREVER!... I cried,,,, because I was just so mad that it happened,, and I wanna wear my ring soo bad, but m eevie jeevies, just wont ket me... my fiance is soo wonderful, he said not to worry that since we were still in our 30 day periode, that we woudl take it back and trade it for another,,, and he was VERY sweet about the whole thing. He really is wonderful... I just don't know what I should do.. shoudl I take it back, or try to get over my germqphobe eevie jeevies,,, that woudl be SOO HARD... I know it sounds weird, but the tiolet and germs, and OMG!! I just can't do it... He said we woudl go back tomorrow after he gets off work,,,,, My hand feels soo naked without my ring, and I miss it already!!! are there any words of wisdom out there?? :O(
would you be okay with just getting it professionally cleaned/sanitized? at least that way you're not looking at having to get a different ring...
Pour some rubbing alcohol over it, give it a rinse, and you'll be good to go.
I think getting a different ring is pretty extreme. If the toilet was erm, flushed, that water is actually pretty clean. I'd just give it a scrub. After all, we see dogs and cats drinking out of it all the time.
I know, I have thought about the rubbing alcohol,, and I have even thought about BLEACH.. it's just the thought. I have REAL ISSUES with the toilet, I always have... I know it sounds a lottlw stuck up, and I am not stuck up at all, it' just everyone has something, a weird phobia, a little quark,, and that is mine... inspired, I REALLY don't wanna get another ring, even if it is the same one.,.. but I just don't know if I could handle it.. I am so upset. I know it probably seems a little silly, but again,, everyone has their thing... and this is just awful!
Can you pour some rubbing alcohol in a dish and just let it sit in there? You can even change it out several times (with your gloves on, of course). That should take care of it.
@shellsphoto:if your issue with the toilet is that extreme, then there's only one choice - go exchange it. Most other people would just get over it. Sorry to be this graphic, but nave you never had water splash up on your tush? Do you scrub off your layer of skin when that happens? If you can clean skin, you can clean metal....
I would wash your ring -- in your hands -- with soapy water -- WITH THE DRAIN CLOSED in the sink -- several times to remove any surface grime. Then, I would do as PPs said, put your ring in a bowl in a safe place with rubbing alcohol for several minutes. Then, I probably would take the ring to the jeweler and ask them to clean it for you. As you likely already know, jewelers do this all of the time for all kinds of people, so they will not ask you why you want it to be cleaned, and the cleaning only takes a few minutes.) After all of that, you should be fine with wearing it.
@pinkshoes: Seriously, I second this.
I definitely would suggest you just get over it. If you put it on and force yourself to wear it, you eventually probably won't even think about it. It seems like you're just psyching yourself out over this!
@pinkshoes: LMAO
Well it seems like getting a new ring is best for you! While your finger is naked , perhaps you can get a fakegagement ring from a big box store to tide you over :)
Aww, you remind me of my sister :). I would take it to have it professionally cleaned (make your FI go with you so he can be the one to touch it) and then maybe leave it in the box a few days just so you really, really, really know that all the germs are gone. Take it one more time to be cleaned, and then you'll be fine, I promise! It's probably dirtier on a daily basis than it is once it's been cleaned twice :). Good luck! (And don't exchange it, I think you'll just regret later not having the one he proposed with).
I guess I don't get it because I don't suffer from germaphobia (or whatever real name there is). Just disinfect it. Have you ever touched a shopping cart or a hotel remote control? Because trust me, those are way nastier than your already-flushed toilet!
yes, I know what you are saying. However, as I have said,, everyone has "their thing". I asked for opinions, and that is great, but some are being very snotty, sarcastic about it. Please, if this is you with a negative comment, then please do not leave yoru comment. I do not judge others for whatever issues in life they may have, and I would like the same treatment. thank you.
I'm not gonna tell you what to do, but I'll say this.
It's your engagement ring. You don't really want to regret having exchanged the original ring in all because of an accident do you? Your ring, after being thoroughly cleaned, will be just as clean if not cleaner than any replacement. Plus...you'd be replacing what your fiance proposed to you with. I just couldn't.
@AmeliaBedelia: yes, I definitely know what you are saying. and I have thought of that very thing. I really don't want too. I know it's something unfortunate that happened, and I also know that it may seem silly to most. I was soo upset when this happened, and I got soo mad just becaus it was a stupid thing that happned, an accident,, but a stupid one. I know this is not the end of the world, I just don't know why it's so hard for me. I am a really super clean freak, and just have a super phobia of the toilet. AGAIN, I know some may be laughing at me.. Maybe I will try to suck it up and force myself to wear it. It broke my heart when my FI came to me, threw his arms around me and told me that it woudl be OK, that we would just to back to the jewelery store tomorrow and take care of it.
@shellsphoto: I hope I was not one of those who upset you. That was not my intention at all. My "For real" comment wasn't intended to be aimed at you or your concerns. It was intended to strongly agree with what the prior poster had said about hotel remote controls and shopping carts being so full of germs. I saw an episode on the "Today Show" several years ago during which they swabbed a hotel remote and surfaces inside a subway car, etc. and cultured the samples. I was absolutely horrified at the types of disgusting bacteria and germs that they found. I wash my hands frequently and use sanitizer when I am out and about, and I won't even eat food if it falls on my kitchen counters, so I do understand about being concerned about germs. I don't know if I was one who posted something that upset you, but, just in case I did, I wanted to apologize, as that was not at all my intention.
@shellsphoto: I understand; I am certainly not laughing at you! We do all have our own hang-ups and quirks. I just think that the regret later of having to exchange what he proposed with will be worse than attempting to conquer your issue once and for all. After all, what's a better reason to work on it than one of the most important pieces of jewelry you've ever/will ever have? There is a time to work through things.
I'll also point out something I think you logically know -- toilet water is actually clean, I presume you keep your toilets clean since you have an issue. Your ring will be very very clean once you do all the things PPs have suggested. Heck, it'll be the cleanest ring around. Cleaner than the replacement possibly.
I will also suggest that you guys start keeping your toilet lids down to avoid any repeat disasters! We keep ours down because I don't like the dogs drinking out of them, but it's become a habit to keep the lids closed. I wish you the best and hope I was helpful.
lol, I'm sorry, I just can't sympathize with the crazy germaphobe thing. The whole thing sounds ridiculous to me. I hope you can work it out without driving yourself mad.
Take it to the jewelers and have it steam cleaned. That steam gets so hot it could disinfect the toliet seats at Grand Central Station. That will sanitize the ring. I know I'd be so grossed out if my ring fell into the toliet but at least it was YOUR toilet and not a public one... *gags*. Get the steam clean. :)
thank you,, :) but no, you were not the one. it's not a big deal. but some people have to put their snarky little comments in,, and I guess that's ok, but I just see no real need for it. but no, you are absolutely right. I just have agerm phobia PERIODE. I wash my hands a million times a day.. I posted a pic of my hand with my ring on, but my hands are kinda rough from washing so much even though I go trhough lotions like crazy. I am just kinda weird about things. Especially the bathroom and the toilet, even in my own home, I have always been that way, just a weirdo I guess. LOL I have always been "different' but in a good way. :) I apprecaite everyones post, I expected to get a little sarcasm just because it is a bit odd I guess. but i do appreciate your repost,. but no, it wasn't you at all. :D
yes, you were, and I know that you were not laughing. :) and if you were it's ok,, I mean,, I DO know that it's a little bazaar according to most. and you were not being snippy or snarky at all. I appreciate the posts. and yes, you are right ad well as a few others about it being one of the most important pieces of jewelery I will own, it IS pretty special. I guess it is a mind over matter thing.. I guess I will have to figure it out. I KNOW that their are worst things in life,, and def more pressing iussues than this,, but. this is a pretty big deal to me. :) thank you for teh post, I certainly apprecaite it.
I totally get the germaphobe thing. I am probably going to sound like a nut too. At a restaurant, I use a tissue to hold the salt/pepper/ketchup bottle cause I dont want to touch it. At a timeshare or hotel, a clean sheet goes down on the couch before I sit on it. The blanket? I bring my own throw so I dont have to use theirs. The pillows? I bring my own clean towel to put on top of their supposedly clean pillow case. Towels? Forget using hotel ones too, I always bring my own. I dont share drinks or food with anyone except my hubby, not even my own parents or siblings. But a ring, piece of metal and stone.... think about it logically, that can be definitely totally be cleansed and disinfected of any sort of bacteria that could have possibly got on it in clean watered toilet and end up cleaner than even the keyboard you type on.
ETA: I was going to delete this, cause, well, if I think about my weirdness logically, it doesnt really make sense either, so I guess I cant just say to think about logically cleaning the ring. We're just not logical sometimes. Ah well... Hope you can get over it or are happy with a new ring.
I know others have mentioned this, but I'd think about getting it professionally cleaned. A lot of those cleanings will get it even more germ-free than a new ring they hand you in the jewelry store would be! Something like this? http://www.amazon.com/CD-2800-Ultrasonic-Jewelry-Eyeglass-Cleaner/dp/B001DKDAVW
I just worry if you switch it and it happens again (you are not the first bride I've heard of this happening to), then you won't have the choice to exchange it. Maybe this is a good time to work on your phobia a little - if you clean it with rubbing alcohol there will be nothing on it, but if you clean it with soap, alcohol, bleach, and then it get it professionally cleaned, it will not have one molecule from the toilet on it. How long until your 30 days are up? Maybe you can TRY super-cleaning it, and if after a few days or a week you can't take it, then exchange it.
I suggest buying one of those Ultrasonic cleaners like courtney118 suggested. Believe me, there will be a lot of times your lifetime that you will want to get something gross off your ring (take it from me, I have been engaged or married for 8 years).
I 100% understand the germ phobia... I have some odd ones myself that I just can't handle... I just wonder if you take it back in will you tell them why your switching the ring when they ask the reason?
YOu are definitely NOT a NUT!! or sound like one. I do the same thing. I don't like going to hotel rooms, I would rather sleep in my SUV. If I ever have to use a hotel, I do teh same thing. take my own towels, wash cloths, I wera flip flops in the shower, provided I HAVE to use it. I wash my hands a million times a day even inmy own home, and I am VERY CLEAN.. My family and friends think I am take it over the top. I am VERY particular about things, I do not use public restrooms, and when I go to reastarants I do the same thing with teh napkins and teh skares, I DO go in teh bathroom and wash my hands before I eat, however, when i leave I get a paper towel and open up the door.. and I do know that the water is clean as there was nothing in it. but it's just the though. I know it sounds carzy, but I just think of teh little things that you can't see... I was a science buff in school,it really opened my eyes to all kinds of stuff that you can't see. CRAZY to some,,,, but to me,,, it's not all that crazy. :)
THANK YOU SOO MUCH FOR SYMPATHIZING!! I KNEW THERE WERE ATLEAST ONE OF YOU OUT THERE,, LOL.... it REALLY IS GROSS!!!! I see the point that everyone makes I DO!!! but it's really hard to understand unless you feel the same way. About taking it back, I really dunno, I guess we would just have to cross that bridge when we come to it.. I am still at a crossroads about it, there are reasons why I don't wanna, and def reason why DO.. my sanity being one of them,,, but I guess we will figure it out or try to tomorrow. Thank you for being on the same page as me. :)
@shellsphoto: I told my FI to read this so he understands why I always close the potty lid and pull up the sink drain when I go into the bathroom for makeup or showers... He gets it now even though I always stick my ring in the box. I am so sorry you have to go through this...
@Cecilia37: thank you cecillia, I have about 3 more weeks to take it back. I really don't wanna do that. I am really trying here to suk it up and get over it... again io KNOW crazy.. thankyou for reading and replyingn :)
I'm not a germaphobe, but I totally respect that you are! So here's what I think: Get that ring cleaned and cleaned and cleaned some more!!!! THEN, take a couple days to breathe and think about it (maybe even clean it a few more times in there). Hopefully you don't have to make a decision in the next 24 or 48 hours. I don't think I could give up my ring, but I understand you must be totally freaking right now. Just take the time and breathe and really think it through and see how you feel after cleaning it a bazillion times. You may find you calm down about it a bit... or you might find that no matter what you just can't live with it, and really that will make your decision for you. I wish I could help more, but whatever you do it sounds like you have an amazing and understanding future husband there, and no matter what you decide, it will be what's best for you!
I'm certainly not a germaphobe (I don't think getting a coat hanger would have even occurred to me; in a panic I probably would have just dunked my arm in there, and worried about washing later), so if you can't get over it I suppose you'd have to exchange it. I would look into getting it professionally cleaned, or take it to a tattoo/piercing place that has an autoclave. We had one in our highschool/uni biology classes too, and used it for cleaning dissection tools, so maybe if you know a teacher, they could toss it in. No idea whether that's beyond bad for jewelery...
I think you're the only one who can really decide whether the bigger issue is no longer having THE ring your fiance proposed with or that it's permanently marred with toilet-ness.
@HappilyEverAfter54: LOL!!! SMILING!!! AGAIN, THANK YOU!! I am feeling a little better about my post. I know it's me, and everyone is different, but it helps when someone is on your side and understands, lol.. :) I think that it's very cool that you had your FI to read this. Even cooler, that he "GETS" it. :) what a cool guy! CONGRATS TO YOU BOTH!!! :) and thats what sux about it too, is that, my ring was in the box too. I ALMOST had it ON my finger and it just popped strait up into the air, and that was all it was.. I dunno how it happened. it just DID! I keep staring at it in the box, it's so beautiful. I have only had it about 2 weeks, but it feels weird not having it on. Thank you for being SOO SWEET about my post. and thank you for your responses.. I REALLY DO appreciate your empathy,, thank you so much. :D
@shellsphoto: your too nice! =) I know you said it just popped off... happened to me once or twice too actually... once in the sand at the beach! I know how scary that moment is when you watch it falling. I'm glad your feeling a little better too. Definitely keep me updated I'm curious to find out what you decide to do! Good luck hun!
@SapphireSun: ROFLOL ! @ "TOILETNESS".. lol.. well, that is true,,, and,,, ROFLOL<< @ "dunking your arm in" I wil tell ya. My grandma is with me, and when I told her what happened,, before I got my ring out, she jumped up and yelled, "I WILL GET IT OUT!!".. She said, "I will just reach in and grab it" I yelled to stop her and about tripped over mself and the chair trying to get to the bathroom before she did. LOL,, I just COULD NOT let her do that... My FI was the one that got the coat hanger. My first thought was OMG! SOOO GROSS!! WHAT AM I GONNA DO NOW!!?? and my 2nd was, HE'S GOING TO BE FURIOUS! Thank You fo ryou reply to my post, it is most appreciated,,, and thank you for the suggestions... AND for makingme laugh a little,, i NEEDED that! :) I hope you and your family have a Merry Christmas, :)
@HappilyEverAfter54: Thank you swetie, I do try to be as nice as I can be,,, however, i DO have my moments, ;).. WOW at teh beach,, THAT IS scary,,, that sand is IMPOSSIBLE! once you lose something in it, it's gone,, and you are right. That moment when it's in the air, time just stands still, and it seems like forever because everything is in slow motion. I wanted to try and catch it, in hopes it wouldnt go in, but I was afraid I might hit it in at the same time.. I will def keep ya posted on what I decide to do. I really want to keep it, I am VERY shocked at how many responses i got,, I had NO idea I woud get this many. I know some people think I am retarded, and that is OK.. and I don't care,, we ALL have our little "retarded" moments, and when we do, we all stand by in what we believe in and how feel about it. I iwll def keep you posted, :) have a wonderful evening! :D
Thank you to ALL whom have replied to my post... I replied to majority of your posts, if I missed you I do apologize,, but appreciate yoru posts just the same. I am really shocked at how manyy replies I got from this. Thank you to all, and I will keep you posted!! I hope ALL have a wonderful and safe Christmas with friends and family.
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