(Closed) Getting Over our Dream and Planning a Church Wedding

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Is there any way for you to do both? We’re having 2 ceremonies because we really wanted a private one alone, but knew that other people would want to be there, also. 

Post # 4
10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

can you have a candle lit ceremony in the church? is it completely not an option for you to do both ceremonies? or at least have a great engagement party at the lakefront view? or even your rehearsal dinner?

Post # 5
3539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I understand about the whole church venue.. prediciment. everyone in my familys church, thinks were getting married there and when we tell them were not.. they get a bit like ‘oh’.

Its a hard one. For me Im sticking to the garden because it has a more personal reason for us and its what I have always wanted. FH is a big fan of the garden and not of the church so its a deciding factor.

Best of luck with your decision. Im not being very helpful here, but wanted to let you know you are not alone. I always went with my gut feeling and what I felt I was going to look back on in a few years and still be happy with my decision.. I felt the church wedding would be something I wouldnt be happy with.


Post # 6
950 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We’re also having two ceremonies (albeit, both are small) so that we can accommodate faith requirements (VERY important to me) & have the outdoor wedding of OUR (not just my) dreams.  I’m handling all of the church ceremony stuff (more important to me), & Fiance is handling all of the outdoor wedding stuff (more important to him).  We have to cut back quite a bit on each ceremony in order to make both happen, but it’s working.  The church ceremony will be in the day time & we’ll have a “cake & champagne” reception (very little program) afterwards. To help keep costs down, the outdoor ceremony will be in the morning & the reception meal afterwards is brunch food.  All this combined makes it possible to have both.  Maybe, if you’re creative, you can have both, too!

Post # 7
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

my church did this to me too…. i just explained that i wanted to plan things my way and not go by church rules or standards. I wanted to write our ceremony and you sure cant do that in the catholic church!

Post # 8
873 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m having four weddings because of family/travel/cultural considerations, so I think if you really want an outdoor wedding, you should try and do what crebre suggested – do an engagement party, rehersal, or even shower by the lake. 

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