(Closed) Getting peeved with wedding planner/friend… sorry long post

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
132 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I had went through something similar but not at an expense.  I am presently hating doing the planning of my wedding but that is another story…

Look, this is a lot of money.  I would definitely pay her for her time and move on.  You aren’t getting any help and once a chic is scorned about something — they pretty much are done.  This will just add more stress on you later.  If you can handle the bulk of it yourself and then get a coordinator later on, do it.  Save yourself the headache and go with your gut.  You will just end up spending time on appeasing her than making decisions.  You will need all your brain power to get through the planning.

Some people say that they want to help and become a no-show, no contact or minimal contact.  I had a friend that I asked to do something and it took her two weeks to get back to me.  That is not good on wedding time.  Then told me that if I get something done that she is working on, let her know?!  Whatever. 

I had another person that was going to help me.  She was a friend of a friend. We had one meeting and a few phone calls.  She stopped calling.  My friend that intro’d us, well let’s say that she is territorial and I am certain she said something about the tiff that she and I had. 

This is business.  Do not feel guilty about spending your money! 

Friendships are going to change when you get married and have children.  Did you pay her already?

Post # 4
Member
944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

You are paying her good hard earned cash and she’s not performing? Get rid of her and screw the friendship, she’s no friend if she’s treating you like crap. Your FI is absolutely right, fire her NOW…

Post # 6
Member
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

While she your friend you paid you 2,300 and it’s business. Did she give you guys a package or contract of some sort? My wedding planner has different levels and it’s very clear what she would do for us, she added in the things we needed to do and it’s clear on both sides.

Tell her in order to save your friendship you need to go on a different path and that you aren’t happy, and being friends means there less separation. She not doing her job and shouldn’t be paid for it.

Post # 7
Member
132 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Give her $1k worth of assignments to do.  Manage her or tell her that you think she ought to return the money.  Poor thang.

Post # 8
Member
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Deposits are just that a deposit to hire the service, they are typically non-refundable. I would say let go of the $1000, it sucks I know, and fire her. And some advice for the future, never hire a friend. Friends will always treat friends differently and many will take advantage of the friendship and not fully provide what is being paid for. 

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