Post # 1
Ok so this one is probably going to hit some nerves. I know a lot of people have done it tho. Anyone ever cheated on their FIs or been cheated on by them? Hopefully your love was strong enough that you made it passed it and they were able to forgive you/you them. But do they/you ever bring it up or still think about it?
In my case it was me who cheated. There was a guy from my college who liked me and he would make sexual comments to me and i stupidly would flirt back. One night I made the really stupid choice to go to his house to hang with him. I knew what would happen and that it was stupid but i went. Next thing I knew we were making out and doing stuff. I did have enough sense to stop before we slept together but did enough to still haunt me, I felt horrible after I left for what I had done to my FI. idk why i ever did it. A few weeks later he found an facebook message between me and a friend of mine talking about saying how bad i felt for doing it and he called in the middle of the night freaking out on me. He was devasted but after several hours on the phone that night and a few days of the silent treatment he was willing to work past it and stay with me. i texted the guy awhile later and lied and told him i was married now and to leave me alone and not to ever text me again. we saw him awhile later at a mall. he didnt see us but i honestly thought my FI was going to go kill him. Sometimes we get back on the subject and it still hits a very strong nerve with both of us. Im just thankful we were able to push past it.
Post # 3
This probably won’t help you, but ill share anyways. I have never cheated on anyone, but have been cheated on. He was my first love and we had been living together for a couple years when I found out. Looking back, it was not a healthy relationship anyways (i was totally blind to the whole situation) he was manipulative and controlling. Him cheating pissed me off and gave me the courage I needed to leave.
I do know one couple who was able to move past a cheating incident. It took a lot of counseling, but they seem to be doing ok. im glad that you were able to move past it. It takes alot to discuss it openly and be honest about your feelings. Maybe couples counseling would help resolve any lingering feelings?
Post # 4
I have never cheated or been cheated on, but I’ll give another perspective – my mom was a serial cheater, real soap opera type stuff where we found out my brother’s my half brother. it was devastating for all of us and a real sense of betrayal. When you cheat and have a family, you’re not just cheating on your spouse but your kids as well. while I forgive her and love her, I will never be able to respect her for it.
Post # 5
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@jbbs1222: In my last relationship (obviously not with my DH) he cheated. I didn’t find out about this until our relationship was over and the funny thing was he was ALWAYS accusing me of cheating – must have been the guilty conscience.
Post # 6
I have never cheated, but my ex cheated on me when we were 19, after being together since we were 14. I had gone home for Christmas (we moved about 1.5 hours away from my family) and when I was gone, he cheated and then decided to tell me a week later. We broke up, I moved home, he told me he missed me, I came back to him and found out he was still with the girl he cheated on me with…so I became the other girl. I felt like a disgusting slut and haven’t spoken to him since.