Post # 1
I have just had a m/c, i am on day 4 of bleeding but i was very early on (4weeks 6 days) when it happened. My doctor says it wont be long until the bleeding stops as at this stage it is more like a heavy period which it has been (except for the greyish tissue that i passed).
Me and DH are both ready to try again, he didnt even want to believe i was pregnant at all until 12 weeks as he was scared of this happening and i knew it was coming so i have had time to grieve (this will go on for a while but im not one to dwell in the past im more of a lets do something to make this better kind of person).
My doctor called on monday morning to tell me my HCG levels had dropped, i knew it would have because i started bleeding heavily on saturday afternoon. I asked how long should we wait before trying again and he only recommended that i wait until i stop bleeding (lol), since then i have been franticly researching to see whether anybody gets pregnant immediately after a m/c and i have gotten mixed results.
One site i found EVERYBODY had gotten pregnant immediately and had sticky healthy babies which is fab but the next site wasnt as hopeful, then there are articles which tell you to wait 6 months to let your body heal and then a BBC article which actually says that you should try to get pregnant immediately within the first 6 months to minimise the risk of more m/c especially if you have had more than one which i have (2).
So, my fellow ladies who have had to join this unfortunate club of m/c and still birth, how long did it take you to get pregnant after a m/c and did it stick? where there any complications? I know its very early days after mine but we are so anxious for a baby and dont want to wait unnecessarily to TTC if it could happen straight away.
Thanks in advance xxx
Post # 3
@bouncybee: I’m so sorry for your loss. Different doctors seem to make different recommendations. After my sister’s MC around 7 weeks, her doctor recommended she wait 1 cycle before trying again. She conceived immediately after taking the 1 cycle off from TTC and her healthy baby boy was born a few weeks ago.
Wishing you all the best of luck!
Post # 4
I’m really sorry you’re having to go through this. I had a chemical pregnancy in Sept 2012 and got pregnant again in Dec 2012. Unfortunately, that pregnancy ended in a missed miscarriage at 9w. At that point, my OB advised that we wait 2 months (quite possibly because I needed medical intervention to induce the miscarriage) to let my body regulate again and give my mind and body time to heal. We had been TTC for 15months at that point, so after the 2 months, she put me on Clomid and I’ll be 30w pregnant tomorrow!
This is one of those things that no matter what you hear or what you read, everyone will have a different story. You will hear lots of women on here who are very fortunate and got pregnant again immediately with sticky babies, but then there will be a lot of women who took several months before they got pregnant.
wishing you the best of luck! I hope you get your sticky baby soon!
Post # 5
Just from reading about other peoples experiences, I would wait one cycle to make sure everythings back to normal with uterine lining.. I have heard of women conceiving right after a mc also, so I’d just do what felt right.
Post # 6
I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks and after bleeding for about 5 days, I spotted off and on for a few weeks. I didn’t have a proper period until 6 weeks after my MC. That’s when we started TTC again and I got pregnant on the fourth cycle. I am now 38 weeks pregnant.
Post # 7
I had a MC the first week of August. I was told to wait 1 cycle (until my period came natuarally again, which took about 5 weeks) then I could try again. We just finished our 2nd cycle and will, sadly, be moving on to our 3rd
Post # 8
@bouncybee: I’m so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage 6 weeks ago and am trying to figure out the same thing. My doctor said one cycle and you’re fine. In my case, I’ve decided to wait two cycles – I just needed a break.
I believe that world health organizations recommend waiting six months more for developing countries where there isn’t reliable access to healthcare and nutrition, and where women tend to have a lot more children. If you’re healthy, from everything I’ve read one cycle is the norm. I know a bunch of people who were pregnant within 1-3 cycles after miscarriage and were fine… fingers crossed that that happens for you and me both 🙂
Post # 9
@bouncybee: I’m so sorry for your loss. Last month I m/c at 7 weeks, the little peanut had stopped growing at 5 1/2 weeks. It was one of the worst experiences but it made DH and I realize what we really want in life. While a part of me would love to get pregnant right away DH and I decided it’d be best to wait a few months before officially TTC. I do however have a success story! My brother and SIL fell pregnant in April and m/c in early May. Their dr suggested they wait one cycle before trying. Second week of June came and no signs of AF so she took a test and boom BFP. She’s now 5 1/2 months and her and baby are healthy! It’s definitley possible.
Post # 10
@bouncybee: so sorry about your loss. It’s so common but you generally dont hear of it bc it’s such a private and personal matter but so many women go through it. I had been diagnosed with a blighted ovum back in January and we went through a long process of waiting to see if anything would develop further. Nothing did so we waited a few more weeks to see if I would naturally miscarry in February. When I didn’t I took that pill to speed the process. I bled and thought it was over but I guess at that point I was so far along that not everything had passed, that in March I had to have a D&C. Needless to say I was tired of bleeding for almost a month straight that I needed to give my body a break! My doctor had told me we could start trying right away but I waited one full cycle before trying. I got my first period in April exactly four weeks after the D&C and started trying again in May and boom we got pregnant right away. So far things are going smoothly and we are expecting in February! I think it is up to you as to when you are ready and feeling healty again to start trying. Emotionally and physically it is different for everyone. But I have heard many stories of women trying right away and it be ok. Have faith, be strong and good luck!
Post # 11
@bouncybee: I had mc at 5 weeks 4 days. That was the was the day the bleeding didn’t stop and I passed the tissue. I had had spotting and intermittent bleeding since 5.0 weeks. U/S the next day confirmed my lining thin like I just had a period and there was no interuterine pregnancy. My hCG was only 132. One week later hCG was only 9.
I got pregnant on the mc cycle. I was ready to try again. I didn’t see any point in waiting another cycle when it already took 6 months the first time. If I hadn’t been charting and TTC I would have thought I was having a late strange period. Right now I’m 5.0 weeks, using my mc as my last menstral period. I was charting and had two places that could have been ovulation. The more recent day has me at 16 dpo and not as far. But boy was that a dark line at only 13 dpo. Last time I tested then and it was a squinter. Time will tell how this pregnancy ends.
Good luck. You’ve got to do what’s right for you!
Post # 12
I was in your shoes last month- so I’m so sorry for what you are going through. I went through lots of emotions and I know it just sucks.
BUT- I am pregnant again (PRAYING it sticks this time), immediately after my mc. It was a natural MC- more like a late period. To give you an idea my mc was Sept 24th- so counting that as my “cycle” I am 5 weeks today.
I know that they don’t recommend it… but I have heard you are extra fertile right afterwards. My dr said, that there really isn’t any strong evidence to wait, although some think it’s good to give your lining some time to build back up. I say do what feels right to you. hugs to you!
Post # 13
@Spottts: you and I must be on identical cycles 🙂 PM me if you want a buddy to go through this with. hugs
Post # 14
I’ve read time and again that it’s safe to try right away, especially in a situation like yours where it was so early. The only reason they say to wait is to make it easier for dating purposes. We didn’t wait, but are on our 4th cycle since the MC and still no BFPs. I hope you get your sticky baby soon and so sorry for your loss.
Post # 15
Thanks for all the hope and kind words ladies. I have stopped bleeding now so we are going to become ‘intimate’ again soon. We will try to get pregnant like we were before, no OPK’s, no charting and no temping. We will just BD every few days at least and when it happens it happens. Hoping it wont be too long and i just pray that the next BFP is sticky. Waiting on my double rainbow baby for now <3
Post # 16
@bouncybee: Sending you lots of hugs—I’m going through the same thing right now. I miscarried our first baby yesterday, somewhere around 6-6.5 weeks. Everything seems to be passing naturally, and I would like to try again right away, but am not sure if I have the confidence and emotional strength.