(Closed) getting pregnant concerns

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m sorry to hear about your frustration.  I’m not really in a similar situation, but I know a friend who was.  The good news is, despite having irregular periods(due to polycystic ovarian syndrome), she actually was PREGNANT the DAY of of wedding and is now almost 6 months along!

Since I’m not a fertility specialist, I would recommend that you talk to your OB/Gyn and get a referral to a reproductive specialist.  They have extra training in fertility issues and are better equipped to deal with these types of issues.  On top of that, they can help explain what might be going on better than your regular OB/Gyn.

What I can tell you is that as much as it would be nice to have both your menstration(the bleeding) and the ovulation(releasing of the egg) to be connected, sometimes that just doesn’t happen.  There are several hormones that have to work together to make the whole process go smoothly, and unfortunately that means a problem with any of the steps will disrupt the cycle and potentially cause you to have fertility problems.

When your OB/Gyn originally told you at the last visit that you weren’t ovulating, it wasn’t because of your periods.  You were on the pill, which is supposed to suppress ovulation as part of its function.  That is the reason why you weren’t “running out of eggs” at the time.

Again, I stress the importance of talking to a specialist about it.  There might be an underlying issue that needs to be evaluated, and a reproductive specialist would be able to walk you through the process.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

Im sorry 🙁 I sometimes worry about the same thing, that either me or my hubby can’t have children. I’ve been on birth control for almost 4 years and, I know it’s stupid, but I feel like if we haven’t managed to get preggo by now, it will probably be hard later on. Now, it’s really silly because BC is SUPPOSED to help prevent pregnancy, which means it’s doing it’s job (and its not like I miss pills, or take them late. I’m really good about it). I always thought my periods were irregular as well, but then I realized maybe I just wasn’t keeping proper track of it.

 

ANYWAY, I understand the feeling. I don’t have it as bad as you, but you’ll never know for sure until you start trying! Luckily there is soooo much that science can do for us today. There are numerous stories out there about women struggling so hard to get pregnant, going through all the medical procedures, then out of the blue, it just happens naturally! Good luck, and just remember that when you do start trying, it can take up to a year! Some doctors wont begin to asess fertility issues until you’ve been trying that long. *hugs*

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - Kindred Oaks, Georgetown

Sometimes I think about it too and I’m not even married yet. My birth control has totally taken away my periods so after about 4 months of being on it I freaked and bought a pregnancy test just to make sure. Also my fiance has had some issues in the past down there. I’m worried we won’t be able to have kids and I definitely want them. I hoping it’s all just extra stress we put on ourselves and everything’ll be ok. At least I have all the equipment. My sister’s down an ovary so when she has kids it’s definitely gonna be a challenge.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would say get a second opionon too.

I am 29 and just had an ovary and fallopian tube removed almost 2 years ago and they found alot of endometriousis (sp?) and now I am very concerned seeing I only have one set. But I say second opionon bc my surgeon told me I HAD to conceive in the next 3 yrs (starting from surgery) or I would have a very, very difficult time. Also in the same sentence told me I could not start for a year due to the scar tissue from the surgery. WOOOH! Talk about pressure! DH and I had only been togethor a yr and knew we were it for each other but that was hard to bear. I decided to go back to my old OBGYN (insurance wouldnt pay for her hence the need for another surgeon) and pay OOP anyways for her opionon. I trust her and she has been there for me for a lot of things. Her advice: I had time. She did state that when I started to try, if I could not conceive within 6 mths she would send me to a specialist. Yes some doctors wait a year but if there are other concerns going on they will do it in 6 mths. She did tell me that after 35 would be extremely difficult if not impossible. DH and I only want 2, but will feel super blessed with just one.

I think the pressure and worry gets to you, I know it does me, especially when FIL was joking today when ordering catered food, they asked for how many, he said 9, oh no wait 10 since I was expecting! It was a joke and he said it was his way of telling me he cant wait for us to add to the bunch. I was excited yet scared and sad too bc my SIL then asked if we were trying and due to lifes crazyness and being newlyweds we are waiting a year. She seemed a little sad and well so was I. It brought on that fear again if I cant get pregnant will I disappoint everyone and most important, how will I handle that myself. It is my dream to be a mom. All I can say is try not stress, talk to as many doctors as you want to make yourself feel better. Stress is key. I know many women who were not able to get pregnany bc they stressed so much. Once they elimated that, boom, they were preggers. I wish you all the luck and sending prayers and hugs your way!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I worry as well. I’ve had three, count them three.. miscarriages, in a row. Two of them were extremely early and one was at 11 weeks. So, my problem isn’t getting pregnant, but actually staying pregnant. I feel a lot of pressure because I know my husband would love to have kids of his own. Also, it seems like EVERYONE around me is getting knocked up and having absolutely no problems carrying their children to term. It sucks. I suspect I may actually be preggo again right now, I’ll find out in a few days but I just feel really blah about the whole thing at this point.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Have you seen a specialist? I’ve been transferred to an infertility clinic–I have really bad endomertriosis. My new doctor has SO MUCH MORE information. It’s like having a baby encyclopedia right in front of me. I’m completely amazed at all the new information I could get out of him in two visits! I actually just had an ultrasound for an egg count–I have a very low (yet still normal) number of egg follicles so this is DEFINITELY a concern of mine. Have you had one? It helps assess your egg production. From there, i’m having a lap in November to see how damaged my tubes are. They can do laproscopies to clean away scar tissue or just see if you have any cysts or nodules or anything weird going on on your tubes, ovaries, or uterus. A doc may wanna just poke around at some time if you’re still having trouble. They really suck, but they can see everything, which they like.

I’d look into a special clinic–they may be able to regulate you or boost your ovulation. If anything, when the time comes, they can do IVF or other advanced reproductive techniques. My insurance covers it–they’re still a gynecologist!

I don’t know you so I don’t want to be rude–but 17 is sorta late to be menstruating I thought. Did you or do you have a very low body weight by chance? I know a lot of dancers/gymnasts/women with eating disorders/etc don’t menustrate or ovulate b/c their body fat is very very low and that could affect you, too.

You get your period with your eggs (if you are ovulating) don’t get ferilized, so you shed uterine lining. There’s likely a reason your body is over-producing a uterine lining. It’s always preparing for an egg it seems, right? I’ve been on the pill before and my uterine lining got so thin it just shed and shed and shed every day. Finally I had to switch up some meds. I think it’s time to upgrade your doctor. GOod luck! I definitely know what you’re feeling and the anticipation sucks. I gotta wait til Thanksgiving!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

My situation is SO similar to yours– and I’ve been worried about getting pregnant for so long, even though I’m not even engaged.

I’ve just had this sinking gut feeling for a long time that I wouldn’t be able to have kids. B/F and I even talk about adoption like we already know I won’t be able to have kids.

I also started menstruating at 16-17 years old and my periods have been super-irregular (I have a period every 3 or 4 months, tops). I’m just so worried, but its hard to know for sure until you are trying to have a child and you can’t. Right now we are doing everything we can do to NOT have a child, so its hard to judge how sucessful we will be eventually.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Not to thread hack and I apologize but @ EJS, is that ultrasound for your egg count invasive? I’d be interested to know, but definetely not up for anything invasive yet. My surgery was pretty traumatic. Frown

 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

I’m worried about it too. My mother wasn’t supposed to be able to have children and had about 23048 miscarriages. She has a benign brain tumor on her pituitary gland and also a t-shaped uterus. They did infertility stuff forever, then stopped, and conceived me at the New Orleans World’s Fair. (Lol. I think that explains a lot about me…) She went into labor when she was 4-5 months pregnant, and they started her on those ‘baby don’t pop out’ meds and sewed her cervix shut. She was confined to the bed in the hospital until I was born, which was still 2 months early. For the remainder of my childhood, they did invitro, then eventually gave up. (Way to make your only child feel loved, guys! lol…)

I’m just terrified that I’ll have some sort of problem. My grandmother also had problems with miscarriages. My OB/GYN says that everything looks normal, but I haven’t had tests run or anything.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I could say all kinds of things here, but this is the “nutshell” version-I’ve had GYN problems since college-horrid periods, endometriosis, ovarian cysts, PCOS-if there is a procedure or surgery, it’s a pretty good chance I’ve had it done to me. I have been on several courses of Lupron Depot (puts you in a synthetic state of menopause to slow the growth of endometriosis).

Fast forward 7 years-after being a fertility patient for SEVEN years…I got pregnant. I took Femara instead of Clomid (Femara being the drug of choice for IF patients with PCOS) and I got pregnant…with multiples. 🙂  1st U/S detected twins, a rush to the ER when I thought I was miscarrying revealed triplets-for the next 6 months, I was pg with triplets. Lost Baby A (my precious little one) and went into preterm labor a short while later with Babies B & C-who are now happy, thriving, ridiculously busy 5 year olds-who are about to be 6!

There is hope! You need to see a good GYN with experience in this area, then you need to see a reproductive endocrinologist-don’t go on with IVF or any of the more expensive (some insurance-including our teacher insurance) doesn’t pay for any IF treatments-so I suggest go low-tech until it is time to go high-tech. At the same time, don’t “waste” time in low-tech if other things may help you. IVF cycles are very expensive-drugs, injectables, etc. I know several ladies who have gotten pg on meds and others with IVF-there are also procedures in between-ICSI, etc.

Educate yourself, don’t surrender to scare tactics, count on others who have been there to support you, as hard as it may be…relax. For me, praying also helps-God doesn’t shut a door without opening a window AND sometimes you have to give it to God (not trying to offend anyone here, not witnessing, just passing on some personal advice so don’t get all angry with me here) Sometimes God’s answers to our prayers is not “no”, it’s just “not right now”. This I know to be true-I had to wait and be patient.

You can PM me if you would like-happy to talk about it. Hive hugs!

Edit post: I also wanted to pass this on-don’t get a bunch of tests and procedures done on yourself without having your hubby checked out first. You need blood work #1, then you need to have a test done where they run dye thru your tubes to be sure they are open-no point in taking meds if they are closed-that requires surgery to fix that. The dye should “spill” out the end of your tubes, but sometimes, if they are blocked, the dye can “blow out” the tube and clear them. You can watch it on the monitor-it’s kindof cool. The other thing is your FI needs to get tested asap when you start trying-80% of IF problems are caused by male IF! Really! It’s a whole lot easier and a whole lot cheaper to test “the boys”.  My ex husband had a varicose vein pressing on his vas deferens-cuts off the supply line or limits it severely resulting on lower sperm count and numbers, affects motility, can affect morphology, etc.-simple surgery to remove the varicose vein and several months later, his count was up and we were “back in business”. I was fascinated to learn that a man can reach his moment of, er, “happiness” and “O” and have ejaculate (sorry if that is TMI) but still have no spermies in the seminal fluid. I didn’t know that before. Sorry if this offends anyone-if all that I went thru to get PG can help someone else out, I’m happy to share and help. Not trying to overshare. My apologies if this offends anyone.

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I PMed MissGreen about the ultrasound so if anyone else is interested shoot me a msg =]

Lupron Depot is SOOOO EVIL. I was 22 and going through menopause! I’d throw off my clothes while i was sleeping b/c i had hot flashes. My poor roommate always laughed when i woke up naked =]

The Sher Clinic is the one clinic that I’ve been going to (also my new doc is a reproductive endocrinologist)…maybe they have one out near you?

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Definitely find one now–there is a lot they can do to “prep you” for conception. We’re starting to prep about 6 months before we start trying–prenatals, appropriate diet for each of us, cutting back on caffeine and alcohol, folic acid and zinc, etc, not to mention any medications either of us may need.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

If you hate the pill, would you be open to trying other BC options?  I’ve been on NuvaRing for a few years now and I LOVE it.  I had the issue of getting my period everyweek for several days when I was a teenager.  I was put on the pill, but still had issues with low iron in my blood for years.  Eventually the pill regulated me and when I went off when I was married before I was easily able to have two daughters (almost too easily).  When I’m off BC for long periods, I seem to go back to having period issues, so I pretty much always stay on BC, but I guess I know that I’m okay in the future if I do want more.  I would get a second opinion from another doctor if I were you, but that was my experience with the whole situation.

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